Never been successful at anything in my life. Last year I decided to step out of my lane and purchased a small business. It failed after a year and a half. I got out without losing my house by the skin of my teeth.
Now I’m 40, with no savings, no degree, and starting a new job in construction (which I have no experience in). Low man on the totem pole, and basically my job to clean up everyone’s shit.
I had 2 uncles die this year, one was late 50’s other was early 60’s. So I know I only got about 20 years left. Any advice for a perpetual loser?
Let’s get real for a minute. You’re calling yourself a loser, but I see someone who’s resilient as hell. You took a big swing with that business, and yeah, it didn’t work out. But you know what? Most people never even try. They stay in their safe, boring jobs, dreaming about “what if” until they retire. You actually did it.
Now, about this “loser” narrative – we need to put that to bed right now. You’re not a loser; you’re someone who’s been playing it safe for too long and is finally starting to take some risks. That’s called growth, my friend.
Here’s the truth: you’re 40, not dead. This idea that you only have 20 years left? That’s nonsense. You could have 40 or 50 years ahead of you. The question is, what are you going to do with them?
Starting in construction at 40 isn’t a step down; it’s a fresh start. You’re learning new skills, building a new network, and hey, physical labor can be great for clearing your head and staying in shape. Embrace it. Learn everything you can. In a few years, you could be running your own crew or starting a contracting business.
Now, let’s talk about your next moves:
First, ditch the “loser” mindset. It’s not serving you. You’re a guy who’s weathered some storms and is still standing. That’s called being tough.
Second, set some clear, achievable goals. Want to move up in construction? Great. Want to save X amount in the next year? Make a plan. Want to explore other careers? Start researching.
Third, start building your skills and your network. Take some online courses. Learn about personal finance. Connect with people in industries you’re interested in.
Remember, success isn’t about never failing. It’s about getting back up every time you get knocked down. And buddy, you’re still getting up. That’s not being a loser. That’s being a fighter.
You’ve got plenty of time to turn this ship around. But it starts with changing how you see yourself. You’re not a loser. You’re a guy who’s been through some tough times and is ready to make a comeback. Now go out there and make it happen.