Last time he did this he took out a loan for $20000 and lost every penny of it. But that was 17 years ago. “He’s learned so much” since then. He has an arrogant attitude and doesnt work well with others. I guess i should of put my flair as VENT. Im so frustrated. I hear nothing but bad things about it. Meanwhile i will be going to my 9-5… Some one reassure me people can actually make a living from this?
I’m afraid I can’t reassure you that people can actually make a living from day trading, because that would be like reassuring you that people can actually make a living from playing roulette. Sure, some do — but they’re the exceptions that prove the very expensive rule.
What I can do is validate your frustration, because wow. Your husband has made a unilateral decision that affects your entire household’s financial stability, based on his own inflated sense of expertise. And he’s done this before! With catastrophic results! The arrogance here is breathtaking.
Let’s be clear: This isn’t just about day trading. This is about your husband making major life choices without considering your input or the impact on you. It’s about his willingness to gamble with your shared financial security. It’s about his apparent inability to learn from past mistakes.
You’re going to your 9-to-5 while he plays high-stakes games with your future. That’s not a partnership. That’s not respect. That’s not okay.
So what now? Well, first, protect yourself. Make sure you have access to all financial information and accounts. Consider separating your finances if you haven’t already. And please, for the love of all that is holy, make sure he’s not taking out any more loans.
Then, it’s time for a come-to-Jesus talk with your husband. Not about the merits of day trading, but about decision-making in your marriage. About respect. About what it means to be partners facing the world together, not adversaries where one person’s “genius” trumps the other’s stability.
If he won’t listen, won’t compromise, won’t put your shared financial health first — well, then you have some hard thinking to do about what kind of future you want and whether this marriage is still serving you.
Remember: You’re not unreasonable for wanting financial stability. You’re not a killjoy for questioning risky behavior. You’re a responsible adult trying to build a secure life. Don’t let anyone, even (especially) your husband, make you feel bad about that.
Stay strong. Trust your instincts. And maybe hide the checkbook, just in case.