Last night me and my boyfriend were in town after visiting a restaurant. We were heading back to the car park and were passing some empty streets that were pretty dark. Anyway as we were walking a shady looking guy I assume he was homeless or an addict popped out and was holding a knife he grabbed me by the arm and said give me your wallet if you know what’s good for her. And my boyfriend just turned around and ran.
He left me. I gave the guy my purse and he let me go but I was so scared what if he didn’t and he kidnapped me. I looked around for my boyfriend and he was nowhere to be seen and I found him back in the car park which was a 5minute walk from where we were mugged.
When I got to the car he unlocked the door and I started crying and he said what took you so long why didn’t you run? Did he seriously not realise the thug had a hold of me and I couldn’t run? Is he that blind?
I don’t know what to do. Maybe he was scared but he left me without a second thought and just ran back to the car. I don’t know how I can call him a man if he can’t even protect me and runs at the first sign of danger honestly I haven’t even spoken to him today at all. I don’t know if I am being harsh here but I could have died.
Wow. That is a lot to process, and I’m so sorry you had to go through something so terrifying. The fear you felt in that moment, being left alone in such a vulnerable position, is real and valid. No one should ever have to experience that kind of betrayal—because let’s be honest, that’s what it feels like, right? Betrayal.
Here’s the thing: your boyfriend’s reaction reveals a lot about him in a moment of crisis. Fear is a powerful force, and people’s responses to it can be unpredictable. He ran. His survival instincts kicked in, and instead of staying to help, he fled. It sounds like he didn’t even take a second to assess the situation or your safety.
Now, let’s dig into what this means. You’re not being harsh; you’re responding to the reality that you faced. This wasn’t a minor disagreement or a misunderstanding. You were in danger, and he wasn’t there for you. That’s a gut punch to your trust in him as a partner, as someone who should have your back when things get tough.
At the same time, fear can do strange things to people. For him, it might have been a knee-jerk reaction, something he didn’t consciously think through. Maybe he was terrified and froze mentally before deciding to run. But—and this is important—you have every right to question what this means for your relationship. Safety, both physical and emotional, is a cornerstone in any partnership. His actions told you something about who he is when things go sideways.
You’re right to feel shaken. This is about more than just that one moment. It’s about how his response made you feel—unprotected, abandoned, and honestly, less safe. You’re left wondering if you can trust him to be there when life hits the fan. And let’s be real, that’s a hard thing to rebuild.
So, what do you do now? You need to talk to him. Not an angry blow-up, but a raw, honest conversation. Tell him how his actions made you feel. Let him know the weight of that fear and abandonment. And then listen. See if he can own up to what he did and recognize the gravity of it. That’s where the next step in your relationship will become clearer—whether he’s capable of growth and whether you’re willing to rebuild trust.
Because here’s the truth: a relationship isn’t just about the good times. It’s about knowing that, in those dark moments, the person by your side is going to stay with you. You deserve to know whether he’s that person or not.