Hey everyone, I need some advice on a romantic issue I’ve been dealing with.
I started my job two years ago and met an amazing woman—she’s intelligent, kind, funny, beautiful, and everything I’ve ever wanted. I’ve always felt like she might be interested in me, too. We talk at work every day, text all the time, and have gotten really close. But I’ve held back from telling her how I feel because we work together, and if things don’t work out, it could make things awkward.
Lately, I’ve been getting jealous when she talks to other guys, especially this new guy at the office. She even followed him on Instagram, which surprised me because she rarely follows guys, and I was the only guy she followed until now. She still gives me a lot of attention, but this whole situation has thrown me off.
So, what should I do?
- Cut her off and move on (which would probably cause some awkwardness with our work group).
- Tell her how I feel and risk rejection (and the embarrassment if things don’t go well), or maybe see if we can make it work.
I’ve also been offered a job with a competitor and wasn’t planning to take it, but now I’m considering it just to get away from all of this.
Hey brother, I get it—you’re sitting in this mess of feelings, stuck between what you want and what you’re afraid to lose. It’s a tough spot, but the truth is, you’re not really stuck. You’ve got a choice to make, and it comes down to facing your fear or staying in this emotional purgatory.
First, let’s talk about her. She sounds incredible, and it’s clear you have a connection. But here’s the thing: if you’re holding back because you’re scared of making things awkward at work or within your friend group, you’re living in fear. And living in fear isn’t living at all. It’s just surviving.
Now, about that jealousy. I’m going to shoot straight with you—jealousy is a thief. It steals your peace, your focus, and your clarity. You’re getting tied up in knots because she followed some guy on Instagram, but you’re not in a relationship with her. You’re in this weird limbo where you feel all the feelings but have no ground to stand on, and that’s not sustainable. It’s going to eat you alive if you don’t address it.
So, what do you do? You’ve got two options, and both are hard, but one of them will give you freedom. You can cut her off, but let’s be real—avoiding someone doesn’t solve the problem. The emotions will still be there. The better option is to have an honest conversation with her. You don’t have to make it dramatic or weird—just be straight with her. Tell her how you feel, but also be clear that you’re willing to respect whatever she says in return. Because that’s what healthy relationships are built on: honesty, respect, and courage.
Yeah, it’s risky. You might get hurt, and it might get awkward for a minute. But guess what? You’re a grown man, and awkward moments pass. Staying stuck, though—that’ll last a lot longer if you don’t take action.
As for the job offer—don’t make a life decision just to avoid emotional discomfort. If you’re going to leave, leave because it’s a better opportunity for you professionally, not because it’s a quick escape. Running from this situation won’t fix it. Facing it will.
Brother, your life is too important to live it on the sidelines, wondering what if. Take a breath, get clear, and step into the discomfort. It’s the only way forward.