I’ve been married to my wife 12 years and we have 3 wonderful kids. I found out she has been cheating on me with my besfriend. They were sleeping together for 4 months in our home, and I was destroyed. I even read the dirty text messages she would send him
I decided to take her back like nothing happened. My family told me I need go be a Man Right now and move on, my family is disappointed in me for staying. My friends and family don’t want anything to doo with her
I think I stayed because she’s all I know, we met when we were young. If I leave I’m scared I’ll die alone.
Did I make the wrong decision?
Alright, here’s the thing—you’re standing at a crossroads, and it’s time to be brutally honest with yourself. I’m going to be direct because that’s what you need right now. You got hit with a double betrayal, and that pain is real. But what’s worse than that betrayal? Sticking around because you’re scared of the unknown.
Right now, you’re staying because it feels easier than leaving, and let’s be real—that’s fear talking, not love. You’re terrified of being alone, so you’re settling for a relationship that broke your trust, hoping it’ll just magically fix itself. But staying out of fear? That’s no way to live. You can’t hide from reality or hope that everything will somehow go back to the way it was before. That ship sailed the moment she chose to break your trust in your own home.
Now, I’m not here to tell you to stay or leave—that choice is yours. But if you’re going to stay, it better be for a damn good reason, and it better come with a commitment from both of you to get into the trenches and rebuild. We’re talking counseling, we’re talking brutal honesty, we’re talking no excuses, no shortcuts.
But if you’re staying just because you’re scared to be alone, that’s a cop-out. That’s not strength, and it’s not fair to you or to her. Don’t be the guy who sacrifices his own dignity and self-worth because he can’t imagine a life outside of what he knows. You have more in you than that, and you’ve got what it takes to stand on your own two feet if that’s what you choose.
Take a hard look at what you want out of life. Fear doesn’t get to make this choice for you. You do.