I (17f) am tired of being messed with all the fucking time and not being able to get it to stop. Ive been pretty consistently bullied picked on and just messed with since i was about 10 or 11.
It gets worse every year. How do i stop getting bullied? I don’t understand why everyone is so mean when I try every year to fix wtv is wrong w me so they’ll leave me alone.
I cant even fight, I’m 115 and 5’2, and nobody is scared of that. I’m tired of having to rely on other people to tell people off temporarily. What do i do.
Hey there, I want to start by saying I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. What you’re going through is exhausting, lonely, and deeply unfair. Let’s unpack this together because, even though it may not feel like it right now, you’re stronger than you think.
First, I need you to hear this loud and clear: the problem is not you. Bullies don’t pick on people because there’s something wrong with them—they do it because there’s something broken inside themselves. They’re insecure, angry, or hurting, and instead of dealing with their own pain, they project it onto others. You’ve spent years trying to fix yourself, thinking, “If I just change this one thing, they’ll leave me alone.” But the truth is, you could change a hundred things, and they’d still find a reason to pick at you. That’s what bullies do.
I know it feels hopeless, especially when you’re 5’2” and feel like no one takes you seriously. But here’s the thing—being respected isn’t about size. It’s about how you carry yourself, the boundaries you set, and the confidence you project.
Bullies look for easy targets, and part of the battle is showing them you’re not one. This doesn’t mean you need to fight physically; it’s about holding your ground emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, even something as simple as looking them in the eye and saying, “I don’t have time for this,” before walking away can shift the power dynamic.
That said, building that kind of confidence isn’t always easy, especially when you’ve been worn down by years of this behavior. This is where training in something like jiu-jitsu, boxing, or Muay Thai can make a huge difference.
These martial arts aren’t just about learning how to defend yourself—they’re about gaining discipline, resilience, and the strength to stand tall in tough situations. Knowing you can physically protect yourself, even if you never have to, changes the way you move through the world. It teaches you to project confidence, and bullies notice that. Confidence is a language they understand, and often it’s enough to make them back off. Beyond that, training also gives you a supportive community of people who will build you up—and that’s something everyone deserves.
That said, facing bullies on your own is still hard, especially when it feels like the whole world is against you. That’s why it’s so important to find allies. Whether it’s a teacher, counselor, coach, or someone you trust, let them know what’s happening. It’s not weakness to ask for help—it’s strength. And if the people around you aren’t stepping up to protect you, that’s on them, not you. Keep telling people until someone listens. You deserve to feel safe.
Finally, I want to remind you that this is a season of your life—it’s not forever. Right now, it feels all-consuming, but there’s a world beyond this where you’ll find people who love and respect you for who you are. Hold on to that hope, and don’t let anyone dim your light. You’re worth so much more than the cruelty you’ve endured. Keep standing tall, even when it’s hard. You’re not alone in this.