I’m short, I have been specifically told that I was too short to date multiple times. I’m fairly average in looks but I am short. The vast majority of girls won’t date a short guy unfortunately, all I’ve heard from girls is “tall dark and handsome” I’ve never met a girl who preferred to date short guys and only met a couple who didn’t mind.
Being short is one of the most unattractive traits a guy can have and people will always remind you of that with jokes, insults, mocking and condescending comments.
Hey, brother. I hear you. And I’m not going to sit here and blow smoke up your rear about how height doesn’t matter—because in some people’s eyes, it does. I’m not going to pretend like you haven’t been rejected, or like you don’t hear jokes and comments that sting. That’s real, and I won’t minimize it.
But here’s what I am going to tell you: your worth is not defined by your height. Not as a man, not as a human being, and definitely not as a potential partner. And I need you to take a hard look at the story you’re telling yourself—because the story you believe about yourself will shape your reality.
Right now, your story is:
- “I’m too short to date.”
- “Women don’t want short guys.”
- “People will always mock me for my height.”
- “Dating is impossible for me.”
You’ve internalized these things as truth. And when you believe something that deeply, you subconsciously start to make it true. You carry yourself like a guy who’s already lost. You approach dating with a mindset of defeat. You assume rejection before you even step into the ring. And let me tell you something: women can smell insecurity from a mile away.
The truth is, attraction is about way more than just physical traits. Confidence, kindness, humor, emotional intelligence, stability—those are the things that make a man truly attractive. But if you walk into every interaction assuming you’re at a disadvantage, you’ve already lost.
Let’s flip the script. Let’s rewrite the story:
- “Yeah, I’m short. And I bring a lot to the table.”
- “The right woman is looking for me—not just my height.”
- “I refuse to let the shallow opinions of a few people define my worth.”
- “I’m going to work on being the best version of myself, period.”
Here’s the reality: some women are only into tall guys. Fine. Move on. You don’t need to date most women. You’re looking for the right one. And the right woman—the one who sees you for who you are—will not give a rip about your height.
But first, you have to stop caring so much about it. If you lead every conversation with your insecurity, you will repel people. Confidence is attractive. Owning who you are is attractive. Being funny, kind, and passionate about life is attractive.
So stop giving up. Stop making yourself the victim. Stop believing that you are somehow less than because of something you can’t control. Control what you can—your mindset, your health, your confidence, your purpose.
And next time you hear some dumb joke? Laugh. Own it. Let them know you don’t need their approval. Because a man who truly believes in his own worth? That guy is unstoppable.