Man, I’m in a weird spot right now. A couple of months ago, I went to a club with my best friend, and we both got some dances. There was one dancer in particular I really liked. I know the deal—these women are there to make money, and they’ll say whatever it takes to make you feel special. But after my dance with her, she actually gave me her number, and we started texting.
At first, all our conversations were super sexual, so I figured she was just trying to get me to come back and spend more money on her. But then, she started opening up about her personal life—some really tough stuff. She told me about her financial struggles and an abusive ex. Honestly, I feel bad for her, and it seems like there’s more to her than just her job at the club.
Outside the club, I genuinely like her. She has a great personality. But I can’t shake the feeling that maybe she’s just using me for money, or if there could actually be something real here. I’m really torn—should I give this a chance, or is it better to just move on and block her number?
Dude. Come on.
I get it—she seems cool, she’s got a rough backstory, and you want to believe this could be real. But let’s stop kidding ourselves. She gave you her number while on the clock, flirted with you, kept everything sexual, and then started unloading all her personal struggles and financial problems. Why? Because it gets you emotionally hooked. It puts you in the perfect spot to be her savior.
This is manipulation 101. You are not the first guy she’s shared her sob story with. This is straight out of the playbook: the more you feel for her, the more likely you are to hand over your cash—either at the club or in her personal life. She’s not looking for love; she’s looking for someone to rescue her from her problems.
You want something real? Go find someone who isn’t mixing their job and personal life, or making you feel like it’s your job to fix their mess. You’re not her savior, man. And if you try to be, you’re just going to end up broke and bitter.
So, for your own sake, step back and see this for what it is. Don’t let your urge to help turn you into a walking ATM. You deserve way better than that. Time to move on.