Are you a man with true masculinity or are you a “nice guy?”
For most of my life, I have been the “nice guy.”
Growing up, I was taught to believe I have to be “nice” so others will be “nice” to me and I will get what I want in return.
Secretly I was doing “nice” things for people because I wanted something in return. Driven by the covert contract, I did everything to please others hoping to get what I want.
Not having any boundaries and self-respect for myself, I allowed others to take advantage of me.
They behaved that way because I was training them to act that way.
Most times I wouldn’t get what I want. As a result, I would feel resentful and bitter.