We live in a world that celebrates independence. The lone wolf. The self-made millionaire. The grind-until-you-make-it ethos. It’s all about you, and the message is clear: you don’t need anyone else.
But let me tell you something that could change your life if you let it: the people who thrive in this world aren’t the ones who go it alone. They’re the ones who surround themselves with people who can speak into their lives.
What Does It Mean to Have Someone ‘Speak Into Your Life’?
When someone speaks into your life, they aren’t just giving you advice or offering a pat on the back. They’re doing something deeper. They’re telling you the truth about who you are—good, bad, and everything in between. They’re pointing out the blind spots you can’t see. They’re cheering for you when you feel like giving up.
These aren’t casual acquaintances or people who only show up when it’s convenient. These are the trusted voices you allow to challenge you, encourage you, and hold you accountable.
Why You Can’t Go It Alone
Here’s the hard truth: you’re not as objective about your life as you think you are. Nobody is.
You’ve got blind spots. Emotional wounds that cloud your judgment. Fears that hold you back. And sometimes, you don’t even realize how your own decisions are sabotaging your future.
That’s why you need people in your life who can see what you can’t. Someone to tell you, “Hey, you’re about to wreck this,” or, “You’re selling yourself short here.”
It’s not about tearing you down. It’s about helping you build something better.
The Power of Trusted Voices
Having the right people speak into your life can do things you can’t do on your own:
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They Call You Out – A true friend won’t let you keep lying to yourself. If you’re making excuses or avoiding hard truths, they’ll call you on it. Not because they’re mean, but because they care.
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They Hold You Up – When life punches you in the face—and it will—you need people who can remind you of your strength, your worth, and your purpose. These are the voices that say, “You’ve got this, even if you don’t believe it right now.”
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They Keep You Grounded – Success is dangerous because it can make you forget where you came from and who you are. Trusted voices will help you stay humble and focused on what really matters.
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They Point You Forward – Sometimes, we get stuck in the past or paralyzed by fear. Trusted voices push us toward growth. They remind us of who we’re becoming, not just who we’ve been.
How to Find These People
Not everyone deserves to speak into your life. The world is full of critics and naysayers who want to tear you down, not build you up. So, how do you find the right people?
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Look for Proven Character – Do they live the kind of life you admire? Are they grounded, wise, and consistent? Don’t take advice from someone whose life is a mess.
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Build Real Relationships – You can’t ask someone to speak into your life if you’ve never opened up to them. Invest in relationships where trust and respect can grow.
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Be Willing to Listen – Feedback is useless if you’re not ready to hear it. If you’re asking for someone’s input, be prepared to take it seriously—even when it’s hard to hear.
Let People In
Here’s the bottom line: life is too hard, too unpredictable, and too short to do it alone. You need people who will walk alongside you, challenge you, and help you grow into the person you’re meant to be.
So, take a deep breath. Let down your guard. And start building the kind of relationships that allow trusted voices to speak into your life. Because when you do, you won’t just survive—you’ll thrive.