I’ve asked her once if she wanted to take it to the next stage but got rejected, 4 years later we are talking every single day, Need to know what yall would do in my shoes. should I try again and push for a relationship or just move on even if I still love her ?
You’ve been best friends with this girl for five years, and you’ve had feelings for her all along. You even asked her out four years ago, and she turned you down. But you’re still in touch every day, and those feelings haven’t gone away. You’re wondering if you should try again or just move on.
Here’s the thing: confessing your feelings or talking about “taking it to the next stage” rarely works. Especially not after this much time. If a girl is attracted to you, making your move early on is key. Right when you get to know her, flirt a bit, tease her, see how she reacts. If she plays along, sits close, and gives you those flirty signals, that’s when you make your move. Go in for the kiss when the vibe is right. It’s all about timing, man.
But you? You waited too long. You played the harmless friend role because you were scared to risk it. And now, after years of being in her friend zone, your chances have tanked. She already sees you as a brother, not a potential boyfriend.
You’ve already been rejected once, and honestly, I don’t think your chances are any better now. If anything, they’re worse. And here’s the kicker: the friendship isn’t what really matters to you. It’s your desire for her. That’s what’s frustrating you, and it’s clouding your judgment.
Never, and I mean never, play the friendship game with a girl you desire. It’s a waste of time and energy. You’ll end up stuck in the friend zone again and again. Next time you meet a girl you’re attracted to, make your move within the first week. If she’s not interested, walk away. Don’t linger around hoping things will change, because they rarely do.
Remember, you’re not looking for a friendship if what you want is more. Be clear about your intentions from the get-go. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself in this same situation over and over, and before you know it, thirty years will pass with you stuck in fifteen different friend zones.