Man-Up

Optimizing Your Life For Maximum Happy Moments

December 7, 2022 Leave a Comment

I spent too much time reading books about how to budget/exercise/make friends the “right way.” I had a twisted view that once I learned enough things I would suddenly be happy, like happiness is a prize you get for checking enough boxes on some invisible list.

That shit doesn’t work. Now I’m just older, with more grey hair, and I spent 5 years as a stressed out, insecure, neurotic workaholic collecting unrelated skills instead of creating happy memories.

How to Stop Being Devastated By Rejection

December 6, 2022 Leave a Comment

(photo: @isaiahrustad)

Some people try to avoid rejection in every aspect of their lives. They seek perfection and success in every endeavor. But all they do is set themselves up to be unprepared for rejection.

Because once they encounter rejection, it shatters their reality. They’re so used to doing everything perfectly that a rejection means that something is wrong with them. It becomes a big, personal deal — even if it’s not.

You need to accept that rejection is inevitable. It is simply a natural part of life that we all face. The strongest individuals understand this and constantly seek out the possibility of rejection. That’s the only way to internalize that rejection is temporary and a source of power.

The World Will Never Quit Poking You

December 5, 2022 Leave a Comment

(photo: @kylejeffreys)

Have you ever felt like your circumstances were trying to break you?

Just when you’ve improved your finances, your car breaks down. You wake up on the wrong side of the bed, come to work to a nagging boss and go home to an indifferent spouse. Every time you take a step forward, you take three back. Inevitably, just as you’re on the rise, something or someone tries to knock you down. If only life would give you a little bit of a break, you tell yourself, you’d have enough energy to make an effort to become successful.

The Daily Man-Up

December 2, 2022 Leave a Comment

(photo: @gscott16)

“Don’t think about winning the SEC Championship. Don’t think about the national championship. Think about what you needed to do in this drill, on this play, in this moment. That’s the process: Let’s think about what we can do today, the task at hand.” – Nick Saban

[Read more…] about The Daily Man-Up

This Is Your Brain On Reading

December 1, 2022 Leave a Comment

Reading puts your brain to work.

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to your body.

It gives us freedom to roam the expanse of space, time, history, and offer a deeper view of ideas, concepts, emotions, and body of knowledge.

Roberto Bolaño says, “Reading is like thinking, like praying, like talking to a friend, like expressing your ideas, like listening to other people’s ideas, like listening to music, like looking at the view, like taking a walk on the beach.”

How To Handle Rejection Like A Man

November 30, 2022 Leave a Comment

(photo: @kentro)

As much as it may sting, rejection is part and parcel of dating. The only guaranteed way to avoid it, is to sit on the sidelines and not get your butt in the game at all (and if that sounds appealing, you’re on the wrong site). So if we accept that rejection is something you’ll need to deal with… let’s talk about how to deal with it in a calm and mature fashion i.e. how to handle rejection like a man.

A Man Of Principles

November 29, 2022 Leave a Comment

The first and most important rule of life, is to have some rules and principles by which you operate from and live by.

Your success, happiness and level of fulfillment will be dictated to you by the rules you have for yourself and the standard you set and accept for yourself.

If you want to thrive, if you want to blossom into the most beautiful and magnificent and powerful version of yourself then you need to develop your very own “modus operandi” – the way in which you operate, conduct yourself and perform.

[Read more…] about A Man Of Principles

She Is Rooting For You

November 28, 2022 Leave a Comment

(photo: @jordanbauer)

Men who have the perception of women as these ego-centric creatures who laugh at us from their sexual mountain-tops, doling out which man gets (a chance at) the divine pussy access and which man gets to squander away his time in solitude — it doesn’t work like that.

Think about it. Why do women spend so much time and effort on their appearance?

Why do they go to singles’ bars and join dating sites and give blind dates a try?

They don’t do it so that they can revel in rejecting a bunch of guys.

They’re just as lonely and frustrated as we are.

They want to meet a man. But not just any man, a great man — a man who is confident, charming, fun, and interesting.

Please stop telling yourself “it will all change tomorrow” because it won’t and you know it…

November 25, 2022 Leave a Comment

You’re not just going to wake up as a productive supersoldier.

You have to start implementing seemingly small changes today, and building on them every day or every week.

Our bodies and minds don’t like dramatic change of any kind, so you need to take small steps in the right direction.

Get up 15 minutes earlier than usual, not 3 hours.

You Get To Decide Who You Are

November 23, 2022 Leave a Comment

(photo: @penguinuhh)

I’m not only saying “Just do it!”, instead I’m saying “just become it”.

I don’t buy junk food to bring home. I don’t do junk food. The idea of buying it repulses me, even though I’d get pleasure from eating it. Why? I thought about it, long and hard. About the kind of life I’d have if I continued to eat it, and I decided the person who eats junk food, that version of myself, that’s not me. That’s not who I want to be. I want to be healthy, and happy instead.