It’s hard for me to believe that most people are good at life. They have girlfriends, houses, 70k+ jobs at least, or 2 of the three, usually by age 26. I’m 25 and I net 37k, with a small apartment, no gf in my life.
I went to college. I felt exhausted everyday and never was able to commit to anything. Yes I’m a screw up, I just don’t get how everyone suddenly did not become a screw up. Life is exhausting and demanding.
I failed this life. Time to wait for reincarnation, maybe I’ll do better in the next life
First of all, I want you to know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people, especially in their mid-twenties, look around and feel like everyone else has it all figured out while they’re struggling to keep up. But here’s the thing: appearances can be deceiving.
Just because someone has a girlfriend, a house, or a high-paying job doesn’t mean they’re “good at life.” These are external markers of success, but they don’t necessarily reflect a person’s inner happiness, fulfillment, or well-being. In fact, many people who seem to have it all together are struggling with their own insecurities, doubts, and challenges.
It’s also important to remember that everyone’s path is different. Some people may hit those traditional milestones earlier in life, while others may take a more circuitous route. There’s no one right way to do things, and comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to make yourself miserable.
That said, I hear your frustration and exhaustion. Life can be demanding and overwhelming, especially when you’re trying to figure out your place in the world. But please don’t write yourself off as a screw-up or a failure. You’re only 25 years old, and you have so much time and potential ahead of you.
Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, try to shift your perspective to what you do have. You have a college degree, which is a significant accomplishment. You have a job, even if it’s not your dream job or paying as much as you’d like. You have a place to live, even if it’s not your forever home. These are all things to be grateful for and to build upon.
But more importantly, you have yourself. You have your unique talents, interests, and experiences. You have the ability to learn, grow, and change. You have the power to shape your own life, even if it feels like you’re starting from scratch.
So, my advice to you is this: be kind to yourself. Give yourself credit for how far you’ve come, and be patient with yourself as you continue to navigate this messy, complicated thing called life. Don’t compare yourself to others, but focus on your own journey and what you want to achieve.
Take some time to reflect on what really matters to you. What are your values, your passions, your dreams? What steps can you take, however small, to move in the direction of the life you want to live? It might mean setting some goals, seeking out new opportunities, or building new skills and relationships.
And remember, you don’t have to do it all alone. Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for support and guidance. There’s no shame in admitting that you’re struggling or asking for help. In fact, it’s a sign of strength and self-awareness.
Finally, please don’t give up on this life. You have so much to offer the world, and your story is far from over. Embrace the challenges and the uncertainties, and trust that you have what it takes to create a life that feels authentic and fulfilling to you.
It won’t happen overnight, and there will be ups and downs along the way. But with patience, persistence, and a willingness to keep learning and growing, you can absolutely turn things around. I believe in you, and I hope you can start believing in yourself, too.