Total of 6 different procedures over a 4 year period: Leg Lengthing surgery to gain 13 cm / 5 inches in height. Jaw enhancement. Surgery to lengthen my left arm 5 cm / 2 inches. A complete set of veneers over my natural teeth. A hair transplant. Surgery to lengthen my right arm 5 cm / 2 inches.
I regret all of it. I thought my life would be better but none of it has changed a thing. I wasted so much time and am in so much debt.
After my right arm finished healing I took a trip to Miami for my birthday. It was my first ever international trip (not counting my going for any of my procedures). I thought I would have the time of my life at beaches and night clubs. But the trip was a bust.
Looking good and being 5 foot 10 inches looking great made no difference. I’m 30 years old and I’m still a virgin.
My younger brother is almost a carbon copy of who I was before my surgeries and he pulls more women that I have ever seen and somehow stays friends with all of them after the fact.
I’ve realise the surgeries made absolutely no difference and I regret all of them. I went into debt and wasted all that time for nothing. I hate it. Don’t ever get plastic surgery. It won’t make any difference and you’ll have all the pain for nothing.
Dear friend,
My heart goes out to you. What a difficult and painful journey you’ve been through. While I can’t undo the procedures or erase the debt, I hope I can offer some perspective that might help you move forward.
First, it’s important to recognize that your worth isn’t determined by your height, jaw shape, arm length, or any other physical feature. The relentless pursuit of an “ideal” body often stems from deeper insecurities that no scalpel can fix. Your realization that these changes didn’t magically transform your life is actually a valuable insight, albeit a painful one.
You’ve invested an enormous amount of time, money, and physical discomfort into changing your outward appearance. But in doing so, you may have inadvertently neglected the core of who you are. It seems you’ve made your perceived physical “flaws” the centerpiece of your identity. Now that you’ve altered those features, you’re left facing a stark reality: your personality, or perhaps the lack of its development, may be the real issue at hand.
This realization, while painful, is actually an opportunity for growth. You’ve discovered firsthand that women – and people in general – are far more complex and less shallow than you may have assumed. Physical appearance alone rarely sustains meaningful connections or relationships.
Your brother’s success in connecting with women likely stems from factors beyond his looks. Perhaps he exudes confidence, shows genuine interest in others, or has cultivated a range of interests that make him engaging to be around. These are qualities that can be developed and improved upon, unlike unchangeable physical traits.
Now is the time to invest in yourself in ways that truly matter. Cultivate interests that excite you. Learn to engage in meaningful conversations. Practice empathy and active listening. Develop a sense of humor. These are the traits that make someone truly attractive and memorable.
Remember, women are individuals with diverse preferences and values. Assuming they’re all drawn to a narrow set of physical traits does a disservice both to them and to yourself. It’s this kind of depth and understanding that you now have the opportunity to develop.
Your experience, though painful, has given you valuable insight. Use it as a springboard to explore who you really are beneath the surface. This journey of self-discovery and personal growth, while less tangible than physical changes, has the potential to be far more rewarding and transformative.
The path forward may not be easy, but it offers the chance for genuine fulfillment that no surgical procedure could ever provide. Embrace this opportunity to redefine yourself based on your character, not your appearance. That’s where true confidence and connection begin.