We’ve all been there. You’re texting someone you’re into, waiting for a response that never comes. Or maybe they keep saying they’re “super busy” but insist they want to see you… someday. Or they cancel plans last-minute with a vague, “Next week should be better.”
And yet, despite all of this, you keep holding on. You tell yourself that maybe they really are just busy. That maybe they do like you, but life keeps getting in the way. That maybe if you just wait it out, they’ll finally come around.
But let’s be real for a second.
If someone truly likes you, they make time for you. Full stop.
People Make Time for What Matters
Look, we’re all busy. Work, school, family, friends, the gym, that one show you swore you wouldn’t binge but somehow finished in three days—life gets hectic. But have you ever noticed how, when someone is really into something (or someone), they find a way to make it work?
A person could have the most jam-packed schedule on Earth, but if they’re interested in you, they’ll squeeze you in. Maybe it’s a quick coffee before work. Maybe it’s a late-night phone call just to hear your voice. Maybe it’s rescheduling plans instead of canceling them outright.
The effort is always there. And if it’s not, then… well, that tells you everything you need to know.
“I’m Too Busy” Is Just a Polite No
A lot of people struggle with direct rejection. Instead of saying, “Hey, I don’t see this going anywhere,” they opt for the softer approach: “I’ve just got a lot going on right now.” And because it’s not a hard no, you hold onto hope.
But the truth is, “I’m too busy” is often just another way of saying, “I’m not that interested.” And if you keep making excuses for their lack of effort, you’re only prolonging your own frustration.
What Real Interest Looks Like
So how do you know if someone genuinely likes you? Simple: they show up.
- They don’t let days go by without checking in.
- They don’t always have an excuse for why they can’t meet up.
- They don’t leave you guessing about where you stand.
When someone is genuinely interested in you, you won’t have to decode their texts or wonder if they’re actually into you. Their actions will make it clear.
Stop Wasting Time on Mixed Signals
Here’s the reality: If you’re spending more time trying to figure out if someone likes you than actually enjoying time with them, you already have your answer.
Instead of chasing someone who makes you feel like an option, invest in people who reciprocate your energy. Relationships—whether romantic or platonic—shouldn’t feel like a never-ending puzzle. When the interest is mutual, everything flows.
So if they’re “too busy” to see you, take the hint and move on. Because somewhere out there, there’s someone who will make time for you. And that’s the person worth waiting for.