After 15 years of monogamy, I just tested positive for Chlamydia. My past tests in 2013 and 2017 were negative, so it doesn’t seem like it’s something that was dormant.
While looking around, I noticed two recent prescriptions for my husband—dicloxacillin and methylprednisolone—issued right after he returned from a solo ski trip. Oddly, during his last solo ski trip, he turned off the Tesla tracker, which I found suspicious.
I haven’t confronted him yet, but these details are weighing on me. I’m trying to figure out if this could somehow be a mistake or if there’s any way I could have gotten Chlamydia without him cheating.
Let’s stop tiptoeing around it. You’ve got Chlamydia. That only comes from sex with someone who has it. You’ve been monogamous for 15 years, your previous tests were clean, and now this shows up out of nowhere? This isn’t a coincidence. It’s not bad luck. It’s betrayal.
You already know this. That’s why you’re checking old test results, snooping around for prescriptions, and bringing up the ski trip where he turned off the Tesla tracker—because deep down, your gut is screaming, and you’re just hoping you’re wrong.
You haven’t asked him about it yet? Fine. But don’t let this fester. Don’t waste another second in limbo, wondering if you’re imagining things. You’re not. Stop building a case like a courtroom detective. You’re not crazy—you’re being lied to.
So here’s what you do: you sit him down, and you say, “I tested positive for Chlamydia. I haven’t been with anyone but you. What the hell is going on?” No excuses. No sugarcoating. You’re stating facts and demanding answers.
And if he lies, gaslights, or spins it back on you? Walk. Seriously. Don’t beg for the truth. Don’t settle for half-confessions. This is your health, your dignity, your life. You deserve a partner who respects your body and your trust. If he’s shattered both, he doesn’t get to keep you.
Stop doubting what you already know. You’ve got one hard truth on the table. Now it’s time to face it, deal with it, and decide what kind of life you want from here on out.
You’re stronger than this mess. You already know what you need to do.