Advice Column

My wife and I have been married for 18 years, and we have children together. I recently received an anonymous email telling me that she had cheated on me with my best friend and had sent him intimate photos and messages.

When I confronted her, she initially acted like she did not know what I was talking about. She eventually admitted that something happened, but says she does not remember exactly when it happened or how many times. She says it was at least twice.

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Recently my girlfriend, 29, and I, 31, started talking about remodeling the kitchen in the house we have both been living in for about a year. I bought the house about three years ago, and she moved in with me a year ago after we had been dating for a little over two years.

As we discussed the remodel and the features we wanted to include, the topic of the budget came up. In my mind, we were going to split the costs. Maybe not equally, but something closer to 60 percent from me and 40 percent from her.

I was surprised when she said she did not feel comfortable putting money into the house because it legally belongs to me. She thought I should be responsible for financing most of the renovation.

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I’m a 33 year old man with a friend from childhood. Let’s call her Rose. We met when we were around 13 and have stayed in each other’s lives, even if only from a distance. When we were about 15 or 16, we probably would have dated if the timing had worked out differently. There was always something between us.

Instead, our relationship settled into a friendship. At one point I set her up with one of my closest friends, and they dated briefly. Later, she set me up with her cousin, and we went on a few dates, but nothing came of it.

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A woman I’ve been dating recently posted a mirror selfie on Instagram from the same place I took her on our second date. A guy from another city commented “😮‍💨❤️” on the photo. They follow each other, have been liking each other’s posts for months, and she deleted his comment about 30 minutes later.

That same day, she told me she was traveling to visit her grandmother’s friend in another town. A few hours later, she sent me a photo of the view from where she was staying, but it appeared to be from a completely different city. The guy who commented on her photo also lives there.

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I’m 38M, my wife is 43F. With our son away this week, I’d been looking forward to spending some one-on-one time together. She ended up taking a short-term job out of town, which was disappointing, but I supported her. She asked me to come visit for dinner, which I thought was sweet, so I canceled my plans and drove a couple hours to see her.

When I arrived at her hotel, some of her crew were in the lobby. One asked if she was joining them for dinner, and she said, “No, I’m having dinner with my friend.” She didn’t introduce me, just gave me a quick hug and walked me upstairs. Afterward she explained that she had told her coworkers she was married, but in their group chat she’d said a “friend” was visiting because she thought it would look unprofessional to tell the director her husband was staying at the hotel.

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My wife (27F) and I (28M) have a 9 month old daughter. My wife left her job to stay home with our daughter until she’s old enough for preschool.

Our daughter is on a pretty predictable schedule. Every morning around 6 AM she wakes up crying. I usually handle that because I have to get up for work anyway. I calm her down, get her back to sleep, then get ready for work. I leave for work around 7:30.

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My wife and I have three daughters. Our oldest is 16, our middle is 14, and our youngest is 10. Everyone on both sides of the family has brown hair, brown eyes, and straight hair. Our oldest and youngest daughters fit that pattern, but our middle daughter has curly blonde hair and green eyes.

I’ll be honest, I’ve struggled to bond with her because I had doubts about whether she was biologically mine. Those doubts made it hard for me to connect with her over the years.

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