Advice Column

I’ve been married a year, and something about my uncle’s behavior toward my wife is starting to feel off. I’m 29, white, and my wife is 27 and Asian. My uncle is in his 50s, married with kids, and we see him regularly at family gatherings.

It started with weird “jokey” voicemails he left for my wife after a New Year’s party—asking if she liked cheesecake, laughing, that kind of thing. My family thought it was hilarious, so I brushed it off. But at Thanksgiving, things escalated. We were playing a risqué party game, and he read a card with a sexual innuendo, then wrapped his arm around my wife and said, “Why don’t you let me show you?” She was clearly uncomfortable and got up to stand by me.

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I found my coworker’s wife on Tinder. I wasn’t looking for her, but there she was—clearly active and using the app. Now I’m stuck. Part of me feels like I should tell him, but another part of me is nervous about how it might blow back on me or disrupt things at work. I don’t want to stir drama, but I also don’t want to sit on something like this. What should I do?

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I’m a 36-year-old woman married to a 49-year-old man. We’ve been together for 13 years, married for 8, and have always had a volatile relationship—screaming fights, name-calling, emotional blowups. But for the past 9 months, things have been calm. That changed today.

While working from home, my husband casually brought up our ceiling leak and said airflow was making the mold worse. I replied that the mold was the bigger problem. That’s all it took. He exploded—accusing me of never accepting criticism, of always arguing. I stayed calm and didn’t yell back. That only made him more aggressive. He started hurling insults—calling me a bitch, asking if I was “retarded,” saying he’d be better off without me.

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After 15 years of monogamy, I just tested positive for Chlamydia. My past tests in 2013 and 2017 were negative, so it doesn’t seem like it’s something that was dormant.

While looking around, I noticed two recent prescriptions for my husband—dicloxacillin and methylprednisolone—issued right after he returned from a solo ski trip. Oddly, during his last solo ski trip, he turned off the Tesla tracker, which I found suspicious.

I haven’t confronted him yet, but these details are weighing on me. I’m trying to figure out if this could somehow be a mistake or if there’s any way I could have gotten Chlamydia without him cheating.

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I’m a 28-year-old woman, married with a child. I’ve been friends with a 29-year-old man for about a decade. We’ve never dated or slept together, though there was some flirtation in our younger years. He got married just over a year ago and often vents about being unhappy. I’ve always told him to talk to his wife or seek therapy instead of confiding only in me.

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I’m a 28-year-old woman, married with a child. I’ve been friends with a 29-year-old man for about a decade. We’ve never dated or slept together, though there was some flirtation in our younger years. He got married just over a year ago and often vents about being unhappy. I’ve always told him to talk to his wife or seek therapy instead of confiding only in me.

A few months back, I opened up to him about the struggles in my own marriage—something I rarely do. Not long after, he started flirting with me via text. At first, I thought he was joking, but the messages became more direct. He told me he wanted to be with me. I haven’t reciprocated. I can’t bring myself to cheat, especially not with someone I’ve called a friend for so long.

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My wife has a temper problem. Only gotten worse after our second baby was born. We have been married for a long time.. And have two kids. She can get worked up over trivial things and end in screaming, slamming doors etc breaking things including furniture. Throwing my clothes on the floor.

She has never accepted responsibility or apologized for this behavior and any suggestion she had such a problem and to seek help will only end up in another screaming situation.

I probably should have left her long ago. It’s not always been bad though. We have two kids and a mortgage.. And I don’t know what to do.

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For most of my six-year marriage, I’ve been unfaithful to my wife with my ex-girlfriend. She discovered the affair a few years ago, and we tried counseling. I ended things with my ex for about a year—but I relapsed. I reconnected with my ex, and the affair resumed for several more years. My wife recently found out again and nearly divorced me for the third time.

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I recently got married to the love of my life. It was one of the most grounding, meaningful experiences I’ve ever had. It gave me a deep sense that I’ve stepped into a new chapter of my life. Lately, though, there’s been this weight I can’t shake—and it’s not coming from me, it’s coming from someone I’ve known almost my whole life: my oldest friend

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I got married recently, and what should have been one of the happiest days of my life ended up being clouded by something I still can’t quite believe happened. Right before the ceremony, I was in the backroom collecting myself—nerves, excitement, all of it. Out of nowhere, my mom burst in and started yelling at me about something completely inconsequential. I honestly don’t even remember what it was about—just that it made no sense for that moment and felt so out of left field. I was stunned and tried to de-escalate things as quickly as I could, but the whole experience threw me off.

Then, a couple days later, she tells my other family members that I yelled at her. That I was disrespectful on my wedding day. I was floored. Not only did she cause a scene and inject unnecessary drama into an already emotional day, but now she’s rewriting the story to make herself the victim.

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