I moved in with my girlfriend, and I regret it. She gets angry over small things, and no matter how much I apologize, she won’t talk things through. When I tried to express how I feel about her lifestyle, she got upset again. Now I feel like I can’t say anything without triggering a fight.
The problem is, our rental contract locks us in for two years. If we break the lease early, we’ll have to pay a fee. So even if we break up, I still want to stay and live with her—just as roommates—until the lease ends. I just need advice on how to make this situation more livable.
Living with a partner is always a test of compatibility—but when communication breaks down and respect disappears, it becomes a daily emotional drain. You’re not alone in this situation, and it’s brave of you to look for a way forward.
First, give yourself credit for recognizing the need to shift your relationship from romantic to practical. It’s not ideal, but it shows maturity and a willingness to adapt. If you’re serious about continuing as roommates, set clear emotional and logistical boundaries. Sit down with her (when things are calm) and say something like: “This situation isn’t working as a couple, but we’re both tied into this lease. I’d like us to approach this like roommates—just two people sharing space.”
Keep the conversation brief, factual, and non-blaming. Focus on solving the living issue, not rehashing relationship problems. If she refuses to talk or continues being hostile, prioritize your peace: spend time outside the apartment, stay neutral at home, and communicate only when necessary.
Also, look into whether subleasing or finding a replacement tenant is an option—even with a penalty, your mental health might be worth the cost. Talk to your landlord or read the contract carefully. You don’t have to stay miserable for 24 months.
You’re not stuck—you’re in a transition. Handle it with grace and self-respect.