Let’s clear something up real quick.
If someone wants to talk to you, they will.
If someone wants to see you, they’ll make time.
If someone wants to date you, they’ll act like it.
Everything else is noise. Everything else is you making excuses for why they’re not treating you like a priority.
And let me guess — you’re still refreshing your texts, rereading the last message like it’s a verse from a sacred scroll, trying to decode why it’s been 3 days and all you got was “lol yeah.”
“They’re just really busy right now…”
Right.
Because in a world where people check Instagram while peeing, binge 7 hours of Netflix on a Tuesday, and somehow find time to comment “🔥🔥🔥” on their ex’s gym selfies… they’re too busy to send you a 5-word text back?
No, my friend. They’re not too busy. They’re just not that into you.
The Delusion Tax
You know what hurts more than rejection?
Lying to yourself about why it isn’t rejection.
You pay a “delusion tax” every time you make up reasons for someone else’s half-assed effort:
- “Maybe they’re just bad at texting.”
- “Maybe their dog died.”
- “Maybe Mercury is in retrograde.”
Maybe you need to take a goddamn hint.
Love Doesn’t Play Hide and Seek
Here’s the thing about people who are genuinely into you:
They show up. They reach out. They make plans. They don’t play Where’s Waldo: Emotional Availability Edition.
If you feel like you have to convince someone to like you, you’ve already lost.
Because attraction doesn’t need convincing. And effort doesn’t need reminders.
You Deserve Someone Who’s Excited About You
Not someone who “might” text. Not someone who “wants to hang out soon.” Not someone who ghosts and then crawls back with “hey stranger.”
You deserve the person who makes time, not the one who makes excuses.
You’re not here to be someone’s backup plan. Or their attention appetizer. Or their “meh, I’m bored” dopamine hit.
You’re here to be chosen. Fully. Clearly. Without the f*cking ambiguity.
Final Thought
If you keep chasing people who treat you like an afterthought, don’t be surprised when you feel like one.
Let go of the people who aren’t showing up.
You’re not asking for too much.
You’re just asking the wrong person.
And the sooner you stop texting ghosts, the sooner you leave room for someone real.