1) She’s my peace in the storm that is my head. Depression. Anxiety. ADHD. All crippling to me at times – yet she’s the one that shine a light in a dark hole and pull me out.
She’s brave. Brilliant. Kind. The best mom. The best friend. The best wife.
We’ve been together since we were 16…. And I wouldn’t have any other way.
2) She’s kind. She’s brilliant. She’s the only person who has seen me at my worst and not left. Everything else is hard to put into words.
3) My wife is hilarious. She’s one of the funniest humans I’ve come across. She’s also hot as hell… and crazy.
4) What I love most about her is her independence and integrity. Perhaps it doesn’t sound very romantic, but it is to me. I love that she’s a force, she knows what she wants and she’s always up to something. She gives me the intellectual resistance that I have longed for my whole life, we can talk about anything.
I think that sense of agency is very attractive. When we were young it meant she would pull all sorts of pranks when she was drunk. Now it’s more about how she’s not afraid to change career or move across the country.
She always has my back and I always have hers.
5) She is so supportive. She is helping me through knee replacement surgery. She is smart, and funny. I’m so blessed to have her in my life
6) she’s kind. She has a wonderful heart. She brings peace to my life and our home. She’s intelligent. Funny. Affectionate. Loving.
In the 30 plus years together, never once has she acted single. She has never allowed outside influences to interfere in our marriage.
I hit the jackpot when she said yes.
7) She is kind, funny as hell, patient with the total turd I tend to be at times, she has the endurance of workhorse and the body of an angel.
8) My wife makes the world a happier place just by being in it. She’s also a partner I can count on for literally anything, and I have. She’s also been able to count on me. When we go out she’s my wing person. A look from one of us to the other across a room will let the other know that it’s time to go, no words needed. I love the private jokes we have after 28 years together.
There’s a song called “She” by Elvis Costello that you should listen to. “I’ll take her laughter and her tears and make them all my souvenirs.” That’s a great line from the song but the whole thing is awesome and pretty well encapsulates how I feel about my wife. Can’t imagine life without her.
9) My wife is so good at making friends with people. It’s honestly kind of unreal. Anywhere she goes she’ll just start up conversations with random strangers and then like get invited to dinner at their house or stuff. We end up doing a lot of really cool and fun stuff because of it.
10) Damn, it’s going to be a list.
She is faithful. She is loyal. She is an incredible communicator. She is emotionally intelligent.
She never gets triggered and projects on me. If she does happen to get triggered, she will say to me, “I’m triggered“. This gives me a chance to ask her why, and we can have a calm, mature conversation about it.
She is consistently emotionally available. She attunes to my needs. Needs are not threatening to her.
She is not threatened by other women. She has developed incredible self trust with herself. This allows her to trust me. I have friendships of the opposite sex, and she never has any issue with this.
Her self trust lets her know that if I should ever fail her trust, then her future self will handle it. She will be ok. She will leave me and move on. She will find someone she can trust. She will handle, face, and move the pain. All this lets her know that her present self can be present and trusting. She can trust the future to her future self.
She sees me. She knows my heart, she knows that I am faithful and loyal to her, and she does not let her triggers tell her otherwise.
We both love and accept each other, and are able to be close and intimate and emotionally available.
Neither of us ever criticize, devalue, judge, blame, make negative comments, or accuse the other. Ever. Not. Even. One. Single. Time.
We do appreciate each other. We are so so grateful for each other.
Yes, this is possible. Yes, you should have this standard. Yes, you should immediately end a relationship with someone the moment they do any of those negative things. Yes, you should have an absolute zero abuse policy. No abuse. No gaslighting. The moment these things happen, move on. Expect better. Don’t settle.
11) Her creativity. She has an inner beauty that has to come out and make the world around her more beautiful.
12) my wife is the one who has been by my side through thick and thin. we support each other, forgive each other when things get hard, and are each others’s best friend. when we have a disagreement, we never let the sun set before resolving it and hugging it out. we’ve been together 18 years at this point, and i never doubt if she is “the one”. neither believe in “soulmates”, but we did a make a conscious decision based on that fact we were highly compatible that we were the best fit for one another.
13) What can I say? She’s amazing. She’s amazing—she supports me when I need her, she’s the person I can rely on, but she’s also my best friend. I tell her everything, and I trust her more than I’ve ever trusted anyone before. Also, she’s got amazing boobs and a nice fat ass 😍. I love her body—12 years on, it just seems to get better.
14) The 5 years of being married we haven’t argued once, shes patience, and calm open minded and she’s my partner in every sense of the word. I do some stupid stuff and she saves us, and vice versa. We had 10 extra years of foundation of a friendship too to add to that and it helps. Honestly it is wild how safe I can feel with her that I know I can talk about some wild stuff and I won’t get judged by her she just listens and after I’m done she will add her points in and our daughter will get jealous that she’s left out so she will jump in too. To have a friend and a partner who will never count me out is the only thing I ever needed and now I got it and I’ll give the world to her.
15) She has always been totally honest with me about everything, she’s a great communicator who can get anyone to open up and tell her their deepest darkest secrets. She’s intelligent, witty and makes me laugh, she’s beautiful, great figure, really sexy, open and willing, especially in bed.