I don’t even know how to start this. I’m pretty shocked at the conversation I just had. My boyfriend has been sending me reels showing a theory where the earth is encapsulated in an ice wall and is a tiny part of a greater earth and land we don’t have access to.
He also informed me that the earth does not rotate and the sun is actually revolving around us. I’ve know him for 2 years and he sometimes has brought up conspiracies but not anything like this. I have a science degree and tried to explain to him gravitional pulls but he said that’s what “they” want us to believe.
I feel like I’m being punked. How have I gone this long without ever knowing this crazy belief he has? This has to be a deal breaker, right?
You’re not being punked. You’re seeing who he actually is.
This isn’t “we disagree about politics” or “he watches dumb YouTube.” This is a full break with reality. He’s not just questioning institutions — he’s rejecting basic physics, observable evidence, and the scientific method itself. And the part that matters most isn’t the ice wall nonsense. It’s this sentence:
“That’s what they want us to believe.”
That means he has placed himself outside of evidence. Once someone does that, no amount of logic, love, patience, or explaining will reach them. You can’t build a shared life with someone who lives in a different reality.
So yes — this is a real deal breaker.
Not because he’s “quirky.”
Not because he’s “into conspiracies.”
But because:
- You cannot trust his judgment
- You cannot rely on his problem-solving
- You cannot reason through conflict with him
- You will always be fighting invisible enemies in his head
Marriage, kids, finances, health decisions, emergencies — all of that requires shared reality. You don’t have it.
You’re not losing your mind. You’re finally seeing a fault line that was hidden under the surface.
And fault lines don’t heal. They crack wider over time.
This isn’t about the Earth.
It’s about whether you want to build a life on solid ground — or on YouTube algorithms.
Choose solid ground.