I’m 29M, I’ve had a couple of girls tell me because I live with my parents that they wouldn’t date me. Am I gonna be single until I move out?
Thing is, I don’t want to. My parents like having me around because we all help out around the house & I pay my equal share. It’s a hell of a lot cheaper obviously & I’m only just about to qualify as an electrician soon & currently on minimum wage. I know it’s custom to move out now but it’s so expensive & I live in a real nice house that my standard of living & having money to do stuff would basically be non-existent if I do move as a single person. Is that just life & you gotta live alone to meet someone?
You cannot be a 29-year-old boy and attract a 29-year-old woman.
When a woman says she won’t date you because you live with your parents, she isn’t being a snob about your zip code. She is telling you that she is looking for a partner, not a project. She is looking for a man who has built a world that she can be a part of.
Right now, you don’t have a world. You are a guest in your parents’ world.
You said, “My parents like having me around.”
Of course they do! You are their baby. But your job as a man is to leave. It is to grieve the end of your childhood and go build a life. By staying, you are participating in a relationship dynamic that is comfortable, enmeshed, and keeps you small.
You are trading your autonomy for granite countertops and a full fridge.
You asked: Am I gonna be single until I move out?
Probably. Because attraction isn’t just about looks; it’s about competence. There is a primal signal you send out when you stand on your own two feet, pay your own electric bill, and solve your own problems. It screams, “I am capable.”
Right now, your living situation screams, “I am safe.” And safety is the opposite of sexy.
My challenge to you:
Stop qualifying as an electrician “soon.” Finish it. Crush it. And the second—the second—you get that license, you get out.
Go rent a crappy studio apartment. Eat peanut butter sandwiches on the floor. Struggle a little bit. That struggle is going to put steel in your spine that women will notice from across the room.
Quit playing house with your mom and dad. Go build your own home.