I consider myself quite ugly, I’d say I’m a -40/10, I’m 25 and never had a girlfriend, no girl has ever been interested in me, but whenever we go out my friends get girls swarming all over them.
Or should I just give up dating altogether?
Your problem isn’t that you’re ugly. Your problem is that you’ve turned your looks into an excuse to avoid life.
Calling yourself “-40/10” isn’t realism — it’s self-pity. And self-pity is kryptonite for attraction. Nobody wants to date a walking apology for existing.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth:
Most people are average-looking. A lot of them still date, love, and have relationships. If “ugly” prevented dating, the human race would’ve died out a long time ago.
So what actually matters?
Not your face. Not your height. Not your jawline. What matters is how you show up in the world.
Right now, you’re showing up defeated before anything even happens. That’s why nothing happens.
Attraction is far less about looks than people like to admit. It’s about energy, confidence, and competence. In plain English: are you someone who seems like they’ve got their shit together?
Here’s what you should focus on instead of crying about your face:
- Get physically stronger — not to look good, but to feel capable.
- Build real skills — be genuinely good at something hard.
- Develop a social life — not for women, but for yourself.
- Talk to more people — awkwardly, badly, and imperfectly.
- Accept that rejection is normal and survivable.
If you “give up dating,” what you’re really doing is quitting on yourself. And that will make your life smaller, lonelier, and worse.
You don’t need to be handsome. You need to be interesting, competent, and alive.
Ugly guys get girlfriends all the time. Boring, insecure, self-loathing guys usually don’t.
Choose which one you’re going to be.