What we’re dealing with today aren’t modern women, they’re modern monsters. Women who reject femininity, reject accountability and reject the very things that make relationships work. They want all the benefits of traditional men, but none of the responsibilities of traditional women, they demand high value men while bringing nothing but attitude, entitlement and unrealistic expectations to the table, they shame women who actually wanna be wives, calling them pick mes while all at same time crying about how they can’t find a man.
They treat relationships like transactions, dating only for status and money, but when men date for youth and beauty, suddenly it’s a problem. They push men away with their masculine energy, then blame men for not stepping up. They say they don’t need a man, then get on TikTok sobbing about how lonely they are.
These aren’t just modern women, these are modern monsters and men, men are checking out. Because why would commit to women who see them as disposable? Why build a life with someone who thinks respect is optional? Why invest time, energy and money into relationship when the second she’s not happy? She’s already planning her exist?
The reality is setting in. Men are waking up and these modern monsters, they’re running out of victims.
When someone starts calling other human beings “monsters,” that’s not observation—that’s a wound talking. Something happened. Maybe it was one woman. Maybe it was several. Maybe it was a divorce that gutted everything. Maybe it was rejection that cut deep. Maybe it was watching someone else get chosen while being passed over again and again. Whatever it was, it left a mark. And instead of healing it, there’s been a choice to weaponize it.
The stories being told need to stop. Every woman isn’t the woman who hurt you. Every relationship isn’t the relationship that failed. The Internet is full of content designed to confirm the worst suspicions about the opposite sex because rage drives clicks and loneliness drives engagement. Algorithms don’t care about healing—they care about keeping eyes on screens. This means the information diet being consumed is poison. It needs to be cut off. Now.
Accountability has to start at home. It’s easy to make lists of everything women are doing wrong. But what about the man in the mirror? What’s he bringing? Not what he thinks he deserves based on some imaginary scorecard, but what he’s actually offering. Is he emotionally healthy? Is he working on his own healing? Is he capable of vulnerability, communication, real intimacy? Or is he just showing up with a paycheck and a list of demands, wondering why nobody’s interested?
The transactional thinking has to end. Complaining that women treat relationships like transactions while simultaneously evaluating them based purely on what they provide—that’s the same thing. Relationships aren’t business deals. They’re not about finding someone who checks enough boxes to justify commitment. They’re about two whole people choosing each other, day after day, through the hard stuff.
There needs to be an honest reckoning with what “traditional” actually means. The fantasy version that gets thrown around online never existed. Traditional relationships had their own problems—affairs, alcoholism, domestic violence, people trapped in misery because divorce was shameful. Nobody’s saying modern dating is perfect, but romanticizing the past while demonizing the present is dishonest. What’s actually wanted here? Partnership? Respect? Shared values? Then say that. Build toward that. Stop hiding behind nostalgia for a world that never was.
And here’s the big one: men who are truly checking out don’t write manifestos about it. They just go live their lives. They build businesses, pursue hobbies, invest in friendships, find purpose, create meaning. The ones writing essays about how women are the problem? They’re not checking out. They’re stuck. They’re broadcasting their pain and calling it philosophy.
Here’s the bottom line:
Yes, dating is hard. Yes, modern relationships require navigating complexity that previous generations didn’t face. Yes, there are women out there with unrealistic expectations, poor character, and toxic behavior. And there are men like that too.
But the vast majority of people—men and women—are just trying to figure it out. They’re doing their best with the tools they have. They’re getting hurt, making mistakes, learning, growing. They’re not monsters. They’re human.
The real question isn’t “Why are women like this?” The real question is: “What kind of man am I becoming, and does that man have the capacity to build something real with another flawed human being?”
Until that question gets answered honestly, nothing changes. The pattern repeats. The loneliness deepens. And the blame continues.
There’s another way forward. But it starts with dropping the weapon and picking up a mirror. The work is internal. Always has been.