If you want to attract a quality girl you have to be a desirable, fit, put together man etc etc.
As female behavior trends ever more downward, the pool of desirable females shrinks ever more.
A shrinking pool of desirable females means male competition becomes more fierce and the male arms race intensifies.
Average Johnny used to be good enough, then it become 666, (dick, six fig salary, height) the joke is that soon it will be 777.
Basically as women get more and more awful and reprehensible, men respond by trying to be better and better to compete for the few remaining desirable ones.
Since male horniness is stronger than any force in the universe, when these improved men can’t find a “good girl” they settle for one of the 95% bad/undesirable girls.
Example: a client of mine about 45 in phenomenal shape, 6’2 and makes well into the six figs has a wife mid 30s, that talks smad shit about how he is a slob, can’t do anything, is lost without her and that she does whatever she wants regardless of what he says. She literally said to me “he thinks he can tell me what to do, but i do whatever i want” The kicker is this girl is a rock solid 5 and plays with dogs all day.
Another example, another client about 38, 6’1, not in the greatest shape, but otherwise a very solid upstanding dude oh and did I mention his family is one of the most powerful/wealthy/influential in my state? This motherfucker is about to marry a 37yo single mother of 2
It sounds completely contradictory, but it makes sense. The more awful women become, the more it incentives men to improve in order to compete for the dwindling number of desirable girls.
When the improved men can’t find a desirable girl, the undesirable girls now get to have men they would otherwise not stand a chance at having.
And so the undesirable women are rewarded for being awful and the cycle spirals downward.
You don’t have a “women problem.” You have a lens problem.
Blaming an entire gender for your dating frustration is a way to avoid looking in the mirror. It’s easier to say “women are awful” than to ask hard questions about the kind of people you choose, the environments you move in, and what you tolerate.
Let’s clean this up.
First — healthy people don’t talk about human beings like market commodities.
“Quality,” “desirable,” “5s,” “arms race,” “pool shrinking.” That’s not how emotionally healthy adults think about relationships. That’s how people think when they’re anxious, hurt, or trying to control something they can’t control.
Second — you’re describing men with money, height, and status who choose partners that treat them poorly. That’s not proof women are declining. That’s proof those men lack boundaries, self-respect, or emotional maturity. You can be rich, tall, and in great shape and still be terrified of being alone. Plenty of successful people tolerate garbage relationships because they haven’t done the inner work.
External success is not the same as emotional health.
Third — the idea that men are forced to “settle” because of biology or scarcity removes all responsibility. Nobody is holding a gun to anyone’s head saying, “Marry someone who disrespects you.” People choose what they tolerate. Every time.
If a man stays with someone who treats him like trash, that’s not a societal failure. That’s a personal boundary failure.
Fourth — when you start believing most people are terrible, you will only see terrible people. You’ll filter for them. You’ll date them. You’ll attract them. And then you’ll call it proof of your worldview.
That’s a self-fulfilling loop.
Here’s reality:
– Healthy men and healthy women exist everywhere.
– They tend to find each other.
– They don’t spend their time ranking each other or complaining about “the market.”
– They build lives, set standards, and walk away from disrespect.
You want a great partner?
Become emotionally healthy. Choose carefully. Set boundaries. Walk away fast from nonsense. Stop generalizing half the planet.
And stop outsourcing your responsibility to “modern women.”
Your life gets better the second you own your choices.