I’m short, I have been specifically told that I was too short to date multiple times. I’m fairly average in looks but I am short. The vast majority of girls won’t date a short guy unfortunately, all I’ve heard from girls is “tall dark and handsome” I’ve never met a girl who preferred to date short guys and only met a couple who didn’t mind.
Being short is one of the most unattractive traits a guy can have and people will always remind you of that with jokes, insults, mocking and condescending comments.
Yeah, some women care about height. No point pretending otherwise. You’ve experienced it firsthand. But you’ve taken that reality and turned it into a life sentence, and that’s where this goes off the rails.
“The vast majority won’t date me” is a story your brain is telling to protect you from rejection. If you believe it’s hopeless, you don’t have to try. You don’t have to risk getting hurt. But it’s costing you everything.
There are plenty of women who don’t care about height nearly as much as you think. The problem is, they’re not the loud ones. The loud ones are the ones making jokes, posting preferences, and rejecting people bluntly. So that’s all you hear.
But here’s the harder truth.
Right now, your energy is probably walking into the room before you do. If you believe you’re already disqualified, people can feel that. It shows up in how you talk, how you carry yourself, how quickly you assume rejection. That will shut more doors than your height ever will.
And the bitterness you’re carrying? That’s the real deal breaker. Not your height.
Nobody is attracted to someone who feels defeated and resentful toward an entire group of people.
You don’t need every woman to want you. You need one who does.
So stop trying to win a popularity contest you were never playing in the first place.
Focus on what you actually control. Your health. Your style. Your posture. Your social skills. Your sense of humor. Your purpose. The way you treat people. The life you’re building.
There are short men in relationships all over the place. Not because women suddenly stopped caring about height, but because those men didn’t build their entire identity around what they lack.
And let’s address the disrespect too.
You don’t have to sit there and absorb jokes and insults like that’s just your role. You can shut that down. Calmly. Directly. Or you can choose not to be around people who take shots at you. That’s not confidence. That’s basic self respect.
You’ve got two paths here.
One is you keep collecting evidence that you’re not enough and slowly shrink your world.
The other is you accept that yeah, height might filter some people out, and then you go build a life that makes you attractive in ways that actually last.
Only one of those paths gives you a real shot.
Pick it.