Met my girlfriend in college, we’ve been together about a year. We both graduated in the spring and just last week started moving into a new apartment together. When I was helping her pack her apartment, I found a box with some sex toys in it. I knew that she had a vibrator and a dildo, but we never used them in bed so I hadn’t seen them.
It was very clear that this dildo wasn’t store bought, it was made from one of those cock mold kits. I pressed her about it a bit and she admitted that her ex had made it for her. At first she tried to play it off like she doesn’t use it, but eventually admitted that she uses it a few times a month.
She doesn’t want to throw it away because she says she likes the material more than other ones she’s tried. If it were just a regular dildo I wouldn’t care. To me, it’s not just a piece of rubber. They were together for two years in college, she was very in love with him, and he broke up with her. I know emotionally she’s totally over him but it feels like she still wants him sexually.
She says I’m being possessive and to stop being jealous of a piece of rubber. I feel like she’s basically been imagining having sex with him several times a month since we’ve been together. Am I just being irrational here or would other men have a problem with this too?