Alright, folks, let’s talk about the power of identity when it comes to creating lasting change in our lives. James Clear, in his book Atomic Habits, hits the nail on the head when he says that our behaviors are a reflection of our identity. In other words, we act in accordance with who we believe we are.
So, if you want to make a change that sticks, it’s not enough to just focus on the outcomes you want to achieve or the habits you want to build. You’ve got to start by redefining your identity, by changing the way you see yourself.
Let me give you an example. Let’s say you want to start running regularly. You might set a goal to run a 5K or to log a certain number of miles each week. But if you don’t actually see yourself as a runner, those goals are going to feel a lot more daunting.
Instead, start by embracing the identity of a runner. Tell yourself, “I am a runner. Running is part of who I am.” Then, start proving it to yourself with small wins. Put on your running shoes and jog around the block. Sign up for a local 5K a few months down the road. Join a running group or find a buddy to run with.
Each time you take an action that aligns with the identity of a runner, you’re reinforcing that belief in yourself. And as that identity becomes stronger, the habit of running will feel more natural and automatic.
The same goes for any other habit you want to cultivate. Want to read more books? Start seeing yourself as a reader. Believe that reading is a fundamental part of who you are. Then, look for small ways to prove that identity to yourself, like carrying a book with you wherever you go or setting aside dedicated time each day to read.
The beauty of this identity-based approach is that it works for any change you want to make in your life. Want to be a better parent? Start by defining the qualities of the parent you want to be, and then look for small ways to embody those qualities each day. Want to be more productive at work? Decide that you’re the type of person who shows up focused and ready to tackle the day, and then prove it to yourself by knocking out your most important task first thing in the morning.
Remember, change isn’t about overhauling your life overnight. It’s about becoming the type of person who embodies the qualities and habits you desire. And that starts with small, consistent choices that align with your identity.
So, take a moment to think about the person you want to become. What does that person believe about themselves? What small win can you achieve today to prove that identity to yourself?
Maybe it’s meditating for five minutes to become the type of person who manages stress well. Maybe it’s sending a thoughtful text to a friend to become the type of person who nurtures their relationships.
Whatever it is, remember that each small win is a vote for your new identity. And as you continue to cast those votes day after day, that identity will become more and more a part of who you are.
So don’t get caught up in chasing outcomes or trying to change everything at once. Focus on becoming the type of person who naturally embodies the habits and qualities you desire. The results will follow.
And if you ever feel like you’re not making progress fast enough, just remember: Every action you take is either a vote for or against your desired identity. Make sure you’re casting the right votes, one small win at a time.
You’ve got this, my friend. Believe in the person you want to become, and then go out there and prove it to yourself. Your identity is in your hands. Embrace it, nurture it, and watch as your life transforms in ways you never thought possible.