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What Does Being In Love Feel Like?

March 25, 2022

Being in love is feeling a friendship set on fire.

It’s a feeling that fills you with a warmth and vigor like nothing else. It makes you feel a happiness and lust for everything like you never have before. That person is now a shining beacon of everything that’s wonderful. The effect that they have on you is warm comfort in which you feel that you can weather any storm. It shows you a side of yourself that can do anything, be anything, and have anything. It’s an energy that fills you with a red hot ball of life as you’ve never known it.

What Is Inter-Generational Trauma?

January 26, 2022 Leave a Comment

Inter (between) generational (generations) trauma is any type of traumatic (yet seen as normal) habits, patterns or cycles that play out from one generation, to the next.

Typically, parents or adult caregivers vicariously model the trauma, where the younger generations (i.e. kids) learn it and carry it with them.

Any type of generational cycle, habits or patterns that replay from one generation to the next, can include trauma: physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal/emotional abuse, teen pregnancies, authoritarian parenting, children not being allowed a voice, dropping out of school, poverty, promiscuity, drug/alcohol addiction, illegal activity, chasing relationships and an inability to be independent, maladaptive ways that conflict is “resolved” such as screaming, yelling, or stonewalling, or idealizing and devaluing others.

What Exactly Is A Sociopath?

December 29, 2021 Leave a Comment

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It is generally a term used to refer to people who are incapable of empathy. Someone without empathy can’t share the emotions of others, or imagine another persons emotional perspective.

By this definition if Bob is a sociopath, then seeing Laura in pain, or sad, or grieving will either make Bob feel good, or it won’t make Bob feel anything at all.

Sociopaths care about people the same way people care about things. A sociopath decides to hurt you, comfort you, ignore you, kill you, or save your life in order to serve his own interests.

What Is The Benefit Of Being In Nature?

July 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Almost everything we experience is through the filter of other humans in modern life.

We live in countries defined by leaders; we follow laws and societal norms established by man; we consume video and content created by other humans; we work in jobs based on society’s needs.

Other humans influence everything in our lives, and maybe that’s okay.

But nature is pure. No human decided to put a mountain somewhere.

The forces that created the natural world are the same forces that created you.

The same power that gives them life is the same power that gives you life.

It doesn’t matter whether you believe in Gods, God, or nothing.

Nature is real no matter what.

Leaving the world created by humans behind and reconnecting with the world made as you were is what restores us.

You don’t need to know why or the name of the power behind it.

It doesn’t matter. Just connect. Connect with reality.

Cris Hazzard, HikingGuy.com

The Dumping Grounds

May 27, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Who Are The MS-13 And Who Are Their Rivals?

January 25, 2021 Leave a Comment

The Mara Salvatrucha or MS-13 is one of the most notorious and prolific street gangs in America and perhaps the Western world. To know the gang, their status and their rivals you need to know a bit more about their history and what made them who they are today.

Who Are MS-13?

While the average mostly thinks that MS-13 is simply a loosely organized street gang that deals in murder and drug trafficking, in actuality they are a multinational criminal organization that spans much of North and Central America as well as having reach as far as Europe.

Do Police Officers Struggle With Becoming Bitter Toward the Public?

January 4, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Photo by Rosemary Ketchum

Yes. This is particularly a problem when the officer is dealing with a group who he perceives is always making work for him.

The city where I worked was a tourist destination with lots of money and liquor in the mix. It drew a disproportionate share of people who are now called “homeless” (we usually referred to them as “vagrants” or “drunks”) who would panhandle, buy, or otherwise acquire alcohol, and get drunk in parks and other public places. They had very low standards of hygiene, occasionally fought (not very effectively) with officers, and committed many petty offenses that took a great deal of time and resources to deal with.

Why Do Teenagers Feel The Need To Act “Cool” Around Their Parents?

December 24, 2020 Leave a Comment

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Sincerity is vulnerable and teens already feel plenty vulnerable.

Also, if you drop the act around your parents, you are acknowledging that it’s an act. Some kids are okay with that because they’re aware of social masking and code switching, consciously or otherwise. Other kids, especially kids who might be struggling socially or are trying to “discover” themselves, would resist the idea that their more popular, more well-liked self is just an “act” and feel pressured to keep it up 24/7, because they assume all the other “cool” kids are naturally like that, too.

What’s It Like To Regret Having Your Child?

December 16, 2020 Leave a Comment

I regret having my 9 year old with autism and oppositional defiance disorder every single day. She is very verbal and can be as sweet as a peach when she gets her way, but doing the hard work of parenting her correctly has been a nightmare.

She was an unwanted pregnancy when I was a dumb 20 year old. I was in a lot of psych meds before I realized I was pregnant that I think messed her brain up. I had taken plan B perfectly like on the instructions the one time I had unprotected sex, I figured that would have been the end of that worry. I didn’t realize I was pregnant until she was about 10 weeks gestation and immediately stopped taking my meds but alas. By the time I could get the money together for an abortion (the closest planned parenthood was a 7 hour drive so no-go there) the pregnancy was too far along. I wish I would have looked into adoption now.