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Fail, fail, fail, and then fail some more

September 9, 2021 Leave a Comment

Let’s be real: it’s actually pretty nice, right, to just do the same things day in, day out?

It lets you be in your safe little comfort zone and you don’t have to experience anything that would possibly make you feel bad.

Why would you not watch Netflix for hours, instead of going out and talking to a bunch of women/men and potentially get rejected?

Or apply for that one job you’d love but instead just sit around at that dead-end job you’ve not been enjoying for a lot of time, just because you might get rejected?

If You Think You Are Boring Read This

September 8, 2021 Leave a Comment

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My heart breaks every time I see somebody call themselves boring. You’re looking at it all wrong and that’s why you still feel the same way. Please read this and I’ll try and prove it to you.

People don’t care if you’re interesting. They care how you make them feel.

Heres a thought experiment. Picture yourself alone at a fancy cocktail party that you have to attend for work. You would like to talk to people but you aren’t sure what to say. At different times during the evening two different people approach you and make conversation. Heres how it goes:

Stop Treating Yourself Like You’re Some Piece of Malfunctioning Equipment

September 7, 2021 Leave a Comment

Hopefully for obvious reasons.

A lot of us here are asking questions like:

– How do I get myself to get out of bed on time?
– How do I fool myself into thinking that I like broccoli?
– How do I push myself into hitting the gym every day?

… and what’s worse is that you’ll actually receive answers to these questions! People will teach you the latest techniques on pushing yourself, prodding yourself, punishing yourself, and tricking yourself.

Always Invite Her Out Even If You Think It’s Pointless

September 3, 2021 Leave a Comment

Sometimes when you meet a woman out in your daily life, you only get to chat for a few moments.

Because the conversation went by so quickly, you don’t bother inviting her out to see her again. You assume that there’s no way she’d be open to the idea in that short timeframe.

You think you didn’t talk to her long enough. You feel you didn’t build enough chemistry or get into a more engaging conversation. Maybe you believe you weren’t funny enough.

You have to realize that you don’t need all those things for a woman to be interested in seeing you again! In fact, what gets her enthusiastic to see where things could go is much simpler than that.

Would Your Ideal Self Act This Way?

September 2, 2021 Leave a Comment

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I have found that when I want to do something I shouldn’t do I think “Do I want to be the kind of person who does this?” or if there is something that I should do but am not doing I think

“Do I want to be the kind of person that doesn’t do this?”

Which reminds me of the gap between who I am and who I want to be and helps me move towards who I want to be.

Try it next time you think you shouldn’t do something but ignore that feeling, think, “Do I want to be the kind of person that does this?”

So sometimes you aren’t being better because you feel like being better, but simply because you see yourself in the future as someone who is better

The Power of Honoring Your Commitments

September 1, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Do you ever say you’re going to do something and then “I’ll do it later” becomes never getting around to it? If you’re like most people, you do this in small ways throughout your life and while often unintentional- it comes at a surprisingly significant cost.

By Making A Game Out Of Rejection, A Man Conquers Fear

August 31, 2021 Leave a Comment

Fear of rejection is a powerful motivator—or more accurately, anti-motivator. The sting of rejection is sharp, probably because most of us consider rejection humiliating. If fear of rejection holds too powerful an influence over your choices, Rejection Therapy may be up your alley.

The free game has one rule: You must be rejected by another person at least once, every single day.

It’s a simple but clever idea designed to help you build confidence and overcome your fear of rejection:

You can think of it as game, but this game involves your life and the treasures are real.

The five objectives of Rejection Therapy are:

1. To be more aware of how irrational social fears control and restrict our lives

2. Smash the tyranny of fear and reap the treasures (treasures include wealth, relationships and self-confidence)

3. Learn from, and even enjoy rejection

4. To not be attached to outcomes, especially when it involves the free agency of other people

5. Permit yourself to fail

The Importance Of Paying Yourself First

August 30, 2021 Leave a Comment

One of the oldest rules of personal finance is the simple admonition to pay yourself first. All the money books tell you to do it. All the personal finance blogs say it, too. Even your parents have given you the same advice.

But it’s hard. That money could be used someplace else. You could pay the phone bill, could pay down debt, could buy a new DVD player. You’ve tried once or twice in the past, but it’s so easy to forget. You don’t keep a budget, so when payday rolls around, the money just finds its way elsewhere.

And besides: What does “pay yourself first” even mean?

How The Power Of Forgiveness Will Set You Free

August 27, 2021 Leave a Comment

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“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” — Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness does not erase the past, but looks upon it with compassion.

To withhold forgiveness keeps alive emotions of hurt, anger and blame which discolour your perception of life.

To forgive, avoid ruminating on thoughts of being wronged. Rather, trust the power of forgiveness to heal the hurt and pain.

By holding on to pain and resentment, you suffer because the sorrow is intensified to keep it alive.

The Man Who Never Took the Leap: A Story We Can All Relate To

August 26, 2021 Leave a Comment

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There once was a man who never took the leap.

He almost did though. Once. When the perfect opportunity presented itself.

He was 26. He had an inkling of what really interested him. He had a little bit of money saved up–not much, but enough. His friends were encouraging, wanting to live vicariously through him. "You should! You should take the leap!"

There was just one problem.

He wasn’t quite sure.