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The Daily Man-Up: How to Be Less Socially Awkward
November 1, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
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Growing up, I was never a particularly social or outgoing guy. I wasn’t one of the “popular” kids in high school or college and I leaned toward an introverted personality type. Quiet, reserved, and a little shy.
For most of my early 20’s, I found myself just nodding along and agreeing with what other people said because I’d never put in the effort to develop my own unique personality.
Whenever I was talking with someone and a third person entered the conversation, I quickly faded into obscurity while everyone else joked and chatted.
I assumed the role of the “Silent Third Wheel”, a sort of spectator in social settings…someone sitting on the sidelines rather than acting as a leader of conversations and interactions.
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The Daily Man-Up
October 31, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |
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It’s natural to have anxiety about the future, especially when things aren’t do that” switch those thoughts into “I am good enough” and “I can do anything.” The word “not” maybe the reason you haven’t taken action towards a better life.
Another reason why we may have fear about the future is because of what has happened in our past. We must do our best to not allow our past experiences to determine our present actions and choices. Learn from the past and move forward.
It’s not about forgetting what has happened in your past, it’s using your past as the fuel to move towards a better future. We all go through hard times but it’s how you grow from those experiences that will determine who you’ll become.
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The Daily Man-Up: Why You Should Learn to Walk Away
October 30, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Dating Advice |
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Many men have fragile egos when it comes to women. I’m not judging, my pride used to get the best of me, too. I couldn’t handle the reality of being rejected or losing a girl — it was one of my worst fears. I lived with a scarcity mentality.
Scarcity mentality is the belief that there’s a limited number of opportunities in your life. With women, if you miss out on a single chance, you’ll never get another like it. What happens is that you view your connections as win or lose situations. It’s black or white:
“If I don’t get this girl, I’m a failure and a loser. I’ll be alone forever. But if I do, I’m a real man and a winner.”
You then do everything in your power to “win” girls over. You will chase endlessly, pretend to be a friend for months or years, disrespect your time, and even let yourself get walked over — all because you can’t let go of this one girl.
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The Daily Man-Up
October 29, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Life Advice |
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Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.
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The Daily Man-Up: Overcoming The Need To Be Liked
October 28, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |
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There are way too many opinions and too many voices in this world. However, have you ever considered that you don’t have to pay mind to everything?
Silence can be a gift, and you need wisdom to know when it is necessary. Sometimes, we have to let go of everything we hear and go on with our lives, not caring about what other people might think about us.
Ultimately, your opinion of yourself is the only thing that should be able to make or break your day, your mood, your drive, your image and your life. How you see yourself will determine your limit and how much you get out of life.
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The Daily Man-Up: What Does Confidence Look Like To A Woman?
October 25, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |
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Physically, confident guys are much more calm or deliberate in their movements. There’s not tonnes of figiting etc. They just seem to be able to settle into a position and become relaxed. This also goes for walking – which comes across as more deliberate and natural. They’re also not generally concerned about how much space they occupy. Not like, randomly sprawling, but just able to keep square shoulders and longer strides. Especially as a woman, you can tell how confident they are when they’re hitting on you, based on the space they’re comfortable taking up. More confident guys tend to start closer to you (for instance when they sit down next to you at a bar), and not be so electrically aware of touching. Unconfident guys tend to get a bit jumpy, and sometimes almost glaze over when space starts to be closed.
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The Daily Man-Up: When People Want To See You, They Will Make The Time
October 24, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating Advice |
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We are all busy. We all work. Some work long hours. Some have kids. Some are single Parents. Some of us work 70 80 hours a week. Whatever your situation is. Someone if they care about you enough will make the time for you.
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The Daily Man-Up: The Only Time You Get To Live In Is RIGHT NOW
October 23, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |
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Life consists of only ‘today’… and in that today, it consists of only ‘right now’…
There is no tomorrow…
There is no yesterday.
The only TIME you get to live in – is RIGHT NOW.
There’s no tomorrow.
There’s no yesterday.
There’s no earlier, no later, but right now.
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The Daily Man-Up: Top 5 Lessons From A 10 Year Journey To Becoming Disciplined
October 22, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |
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No one becomes disciplined overnight. It’s a lifetime journey.
I think there’s way too much emphasis placed on “motivation” and “willpower.” Instead, I think it’s better to understand how human behavior works, and use it to your advantage.
Here are the five most important things I’ve learned about becoming more disciplined, and I hope it helps you.
Win the Morning, Win the Day
It’s a big challenge to have a productive day – That’s 24 hours. It can become overwhelming!
Instead, I only focus on two things.
- I make sure I have a good night’s sleep. If I don’t sleep well, then I’m not on my A game the next day.
This means I go to bed early, I avoid screens at night, I make the room colder, etc.
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The Daily Man-Up: There Are No More Zero Days
October 21, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Work-Life/Goals |
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Rule #1 – THERE ARE NO MORE ZERO DAYS
What’s a zero day? A zero day is when you don’t do a single fucking thing towards whatever dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros. I’m not saying you gotta bust an essay out everyday, that’s not the point. The point I’m trying to make is that you have to make yourself, promise yourself, that the new SYSTEM you live in is a NON-ZERO system. Didnt’ do anything all fucking day and it’s 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero. You feel me? When you’re in the super vortex of being bummed your pattern of behaviour is keeping the vortex goin, that’s what you’re used to. Turning into productivity ultimate master of the universe doesn’t happen from the vortex. It happens from a massive string of CONSISTENT NON ZEROS. That’s rule number one. Do not forget.