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How to Be Kind to Yourself

April 2, 2021 Leave a Comment

Many of us are hard on ourselves. We feel guilty when we spend time on the “wrong” things, we berate ourselves when we don’t reach our goals, and we forget to be gentle with ourselves when we’re struggling.

But what we often fail to realize is that being kind to ourselves will lead to more long-term success and happiness than trying to be our own drill sergeant. Every day, you are learning and growing, just like a child. And, like a child, patience and encouragement will lead to a more successful and enjoyable experience than screaming.

Valuing Experiences over Possessions Will Make You Happier

April 1, 2021 Leave a Comment

Despite all of our differences, the main thing that we are all striving for is happiness. Ask anyone to cut the bullshit and tell you what they really want – what their heart truly desires – and they will say that they want to be happy. This happens 100% of the time. So, if all of us have the same ultimate goal, then why is true happiness so hard to find?

The Key to Habit Mastery

March 31, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Humans are innately wired to take the path of least resistance, and it seems most things in the universe have this bias.

Water and electricity flow through the path of least resistance.

An object in motion will stay in motion unless acted on by an outside force.

A person binging Netflix will stay lying on their ass unless acted on by an outside force.

If we look from an evolutionary context, our bias to be lazy has good intentions.

Primal man did not have UberEATS or Dominos Pizza delivery on standby – Every day was a bitter struggle for survival.

The Daily Man-Up

March 30, 2021 Leave a Comment

Genuinely caring about somebody a lot, does not guarantee they care about you equally (or at all) in return. Some people will never care about you regardless of what you do or say. So don’t assume somebody appreciates you just because you do nice things for them.

This is something that I unfortunately didn’t learn until well into adulthood – It may sound obvious when its spelled out, but when you’re in the actual situation its not always so clear. Most of my life I thought if I really cared about somebody a lot, then they must care about me to some degree in return. It always felt like that connection was so strong it had to be mutual, even if the obvious signs showed otherwise.

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7 Real Ways Social Media Can Ruin Your Life

March 29, 2021 Leave a Comment

It is such an integral part of the daily grind that we hardly notice it anymore but the verdict is in – social media can ruin your life.

If you are like most people you will have already checked Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter etc. multiple times today, perhaps spending up to 9 hours a day doing so if research is to be believed. We use it as a distraction and release from work, to catch up with friends, and to see what other people are up to. Relaxing, right?

Well, apparently no.

7 Reasons You Must Have a Growth Mindset if You Want to Succeed

March 26, 2021 Leave a Comment

You can either have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. The decision is yours, based on the thoughts you occupy and the impulses you choose to act on. Having a fixed mindset will take you on a very different journey to those who possess a growth mindset.

How to Change Your Life by Starting Small

March 25, 2021 Leave a Comment

As I talk to more and more people, it’s become clear what the most common sticking point is: getting started. I don’t think I’ve repeated any phrase as often as I’ve said, “Start small.” No matter what it is that you’re doing, whether you think you need to or not, whether you’re changing your life or starting a new project, start small.

Stop trying to overhaul your entire life overnight. I know you want results, and you want them now, but trying to change every habit you have immediately is unsustainable. You didn’t create all of your current habits in one day, so you’re not going to replace them in one day. That’s just not how it works for 99.99999% of people.

20 Signs You Should Quit Your Job

March 23, 2021 Leave a Comment

Where our day jobs are concerned, we’ve all struggled with motivation at some point. We dread the sound of the alarm clock going off, pulling us from the warmth of our beds and dragging us off to something we don’t really care about. It takes until at least 11am – including two train rides, two coffees and a ‘catch up’ meeting – before we have resigned ourselves to our fate for another day.

What Is Meditation And How Can It Benefit Me?

March 22, 2021 Leave a Comment

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There are a lot of misconceptions about mindfulness out there. I know that I believed a few of them when I first started meditating in the fall of 2017. As I’ve explored my meditation practice more deeply over the last couple of years, I’ve come to realize that the public perception of meditation is often inaccurate.

Meditation has changed my life, and I’m sure plenty of other meditators would tell you the same thing. Because it has been such an integral part of my journey of self-improvement, and I want so badly for you to start practicing as well, today I want to clear up what meditation is and is not, and how you can overcome your meditation fears and excuses and finally stick to a regular meditation habit.