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How to Show Someone You Love Them

June 6, 2022

It’s great to tell someone that you love them, that you want to be with them, or that you care about them. But how do you actually show them that you love them with actions?

What would you do if your words meant nothing?

Especially for men, it can be hard to show our romantic feelings to our partners.

Misunderstandings of masculine culture trick us into thinking that love is weak and that showing our feelings is bad when in reality, it’s the opposite.

Plus, in strong relationships, it’s not just enough to say “I love you”. You also have to show it.

How to Stay Consistent so You Can Reach Your Goals

June 2, 2022 Leave a Comment

How to Stay Consistent

Photo by Sam Battaglieri

You’re here because you want to be successful. You’re here to figure out how to set goals and then reach them so that you can live the life that you’ve always wanted to live. You’re here because you want to learn self-discipline.

In my opinion, the most important ingredient in achieving any of these things is staying consistent. It doesn’t matter if you do one great workout or study hard for one day or write one great post for your blog. What matters is that you are consistent.

Being decent consistently will get you much farther than being amazing one time.

Just Show Up

June 1, 2022 Leave a Comment

You don’t even have to do the thing; Just show up

… And then you can totally go home.

This hit me in a huge way just recently!

Suppose it’s going for a run every day, or practicing piano, or working on some new project. If you can just show up for your commitment and do that every day for a week, that’s a win.

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You Can’t Hate Yourself Into Being A Better You

May 31, 2022 Leave a Comment

I thought if I did enough self improvement I would be happy. I thought that losing the weight, learning to beat procrastination, and practicing happiness affirmations would make me a content human being.

But my self love was conditional. I felt good when I made progress on my goals. It was great when I applied what I learned. But there are always setbacks.

And when you love yourself conditionally those setbacks are cause for brutal self evisceration.

Passive is The New Aggressive

May 27, 2022 Leave a Comment

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On the surface, avoidance and non-confrontational manipulation has its merits. It helps you to escape from being at odds with people. By playing the “pleaser” you can garner reciprocal “back-scratching” from coworkers and people you are networking with. In relationships, it will help you get what you want without needing to have painful conversations. But what is the cost?

The Importance of Being on Time

May 26, 2022 Leave a Comment

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“The habit of being prompt once formed extends to everything — meeting friends, paying debts, going to church, reaching and leaving place of business, keeping promises, retiring at night and rising in the morning, going to the lecture and town-meeting, and, indeed, to every relation and act, however trivial it may seem to observers.” –William Makepeace Thayer, Tact and Grit, 1882

Being punctual strengthens and reveals your integrity. If you tell someone that you will meet them at a certain time, you have essentially made them a promise. And if you say you’ll be there at 8:00, and yet arrive at 8:15, you have essentially broken that promise. Being on time shows others that you are a man of your word.

Life Advice From Healthy And Happy 80-Year-Olds

May 25, 2022

Some of us may have some anxiety or fear about aging into our older decades.

In my line of work as a medical doctor, I meet many folks who are in their 70s and 80s. All have varying levels of health and functioning. A few “exceptional” ones that stand out to me are happy, healthy, and highly functioning.

I started asking these individuals and couples for their “secrets” of aging well. These were their most common advice:

A Cautionary Tale

May 24, 2022 Leave a Comment

porn addiction story

This is gonna be hard, but I have to tell this, so that maybe someone will wake up and open their eyes…

Porn has ruined my life. I am sure of it now. It’s poison for your body, mind and soul. It’s so insidious because it plays with your basic, natural instincts, and on the surface level it seems unavoidable. I mean, sex is good and natural, right? Well, I don’t know, because I’ve never had sex. I’m 41 by the way.

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Never Become Reliant On Other People or Things For Peace and Happiness

May 23, 2022 Leave a Comment

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In today’s world we are constantly bombarded with beautiful people and things on the news and media, and it’s easy to think “if only I had a girlfriend, or if only I had all these things, or all this money, then I would finally be happy.

I mean we live in a capitalistic society. Money, fame, and beauty is the whole purpose of life right?

The truth is that the quest for things is a thirst that will never be quenched.

Once you have one thing, it’ll be another thing. And another thing. And another thing.

Enough will never be enough.

The Key to Habit Mastery

May 20, 2022 Leave a Comment

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Humans are innately wired to take the path of least resistance, and it seems most things in the universe have this bias.

Water and electricity flow through the path of least resistance.

An object in motion will stay in motion unless acted on by an outside force.

A person binging Netflix will stay lying on their ass unless acted on by an outside force.

If we look from an evolutionary context, our bias to be lazy has good intentions.

Primal man did not have UberEATS or Dominos Pizza delivery on standby – Every day was a bitter struggle for survival.