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The One Thing All Mentally Strong People Have in Common

March 19, 2021 Leave a Comment

Have you ever wondered what makes mentally strong people so charismatic and confident? What makes them stand up and shout when everybody else sits down and looks away? Is it something special, or simply madness?

A lot of people will tell you that it is God-given – it’s in the blood. A rare combination of genetics and upbringing that evolves into something extraordinary, the likes of which ordinary people can only stand and marvel at.

This, however, is a lie. Actually, it’s worse than that. It’s a lazy lie.

8 Awesome Yoga Benefits for Men

March 18, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Health and fitness for most men either relies on strength training and/or running. There is a good reason for this.

The benefits of lifting weights for increased self-esteem, physical and mental toughness, not to mention looking great, are well known. All men should do it, and if you aren’t why not? Get motivated and get back in the gym.

With that said, weightlifting and occasionally pounding the streets or treadmill shouldn’t be the only exercise you do. There should always be room for other things that bring something new (and awesome) to the table.

How to Stop Sucking at Online Dating

March 17, 2021 Leave a Comment

Truth be told, online dating used to be brutal for me. Dating involves some measure of rejection. It’s not for the thin-skinned. I used to wring my hands writing carefully curated emails to all the hot chicks on a site. It was a part-time job going through all the profiles of girls living in Chicago.

I can’t predict when you’ll find love, but I’m confident that you won’t find the girl of your dreams while staying home and playing with yourself. So get back online and keep looking.

I estimate in 10 years, I sent messages to thousands of women. I’ll use 1,000 in the theoretical example below to show how rough it was:

How Do I Know if I’m Good in Bed?

March 17, 2021 Leave a Comment

How do I know if I’m good in bed? It’s a question we all ask ourselves from time to time but hardly ever ask other people, probably partly because we are afraid of what they will say.

In general, we all think we are good in bed. After all, there is no evidence to the contrary is there? Nobody runs away halfway through, or deletes us on Facebook the day after. No, all the information points to a godlike stature in the sack and who are we to argue?

Obviously we can’t send out a survey or questionnaire to our past and present lovers. It would be bad-taste to re-friend our college girlfriend on Facebook just to ask her the question. And so the question remains:

How do I know if I’m good in bed?

How to Actually Change Your Life—Instead of Just Reading About It All of the Time

March 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

I’m talking about the problem of knowing endless information about how to change your life, but not knowing how to implement that information, meaning you never get to actually live that changed life.

This problem strikes in many forms. For lots of people, this endless search for a solution is a form of procrastination. It feels good—productive, almost—to spend time reading articles like the ones on my blog. When you read about how to get more done in a day, you feel better about yourself because you know now that you could get more done in a day, even if you never do.

13 Things You Experience When You Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

March 15, 2021 Leave a Comment

It doesn’t matter how old you are, what you have done or where you have been – at some point you will have to step out of your comfort zone. You know already whether you ever truly have or not. It is not so much a memory of a specific event, rather than an inner knowing. A mental toughness and emotional stability that tells the world that you can handle anything that it decides to throw at you. This solidity cannot be faked.

7 Most Common Regrets of the Dying

March 12, 2021 Leave a Comment

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The regrets of the dying are priceless because they help us hold a mirror up to ourselves, before it is too late. After all, death is something that we will all have to deal with sooner or later. It will come regardless of who we are, what we do, or what kind of impact we have had on the world. It has no respect for worldly titles or possessions and it can come at any time – when we are lying in bed, sitting by a river, or flying on a private jet.

How to Make Peace with Your Past

March 11, 2021 Leave a Comment

The only way to make peace with your past is to look it straight in the eye. For the majority of us, when we look back the past seems tinged with negativity. For every joyful moment there are many more regrets. For every memory of laughter there is a nagging sense of fear or anxiety.

We generally put this down as the ‘human condition’ and do our best to get on as well as we can. The unresolved past is always there, keeping us looking our shoulder, but apart from a vague sense that we shouldn’t go there, we ignore it. By burying it this way we have intermittent feelings that we have conquered it.

How to be More Assertive in Life and in Work

March 10, 2021 Leave a Comment

Learning how to be more assertive in life and in work is a crucial step to real personal growth. Normally, if someone feels inclined to become more assertive, it means they have been treated as a doormat sometime in the past. They have probably suffered confidence and self-esteem issues, and have had trouble expressing what they really think to the people around them. Sometimes, however, learning how to be more assertive has nothing to do with any of these things. It is more a deep feeling – that you could be more, do more, and that currently your personal power is short-circuiting somewhere.

The Daily Man-Up: There’s No Time Like The Present

March 9, 2021 Leave a Comment

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There’s no time like the present. Stop waiting for whatever it is that you think you’re waiting for, and make a change today.

Let this be the moment that you decide to act. Let it be the moment that you choose to finally change your life. It’s time to shift from "I’m going to" to "I am."

Stop waiting for whatever it is that you think you’re waiting for because it isn’t coming. There’s no big moment that changes your life. Stop waiting for a sign. If you want a sign, this is it. If you needed a wakeup call, this is it.