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A 5-Point Plan to Get your Shit Together

August 25, 2021 Leave a Comment

So this post is for you if you feel that you are particularly low on self-discipline and are not at all in control of your life. Things are out of control, and you likely have a lot of people demanding things of you, a lot of last-minute things, and your physical health is not close to what you’d like it to be. Everything is last-minute.

You may find yourself alternative between utter hopelessness “nothing works, nothing helps, this is impossible” and a freaked-out sense of urgency “I need change all this now! I’m running out of time!”

5 Reasons Being Indecisive Will Ruin Your Life

August 24, 2021 Leave a Comment

Will you take the job? Will you quit the job? Will you text her now or later? Will you break up with her? Will you move? Will you go out or stay in and work? Will you order sushi or thai?

Every single day we face a number of decisions. Each decision will affect you in some way. What you order for dinner will likely have only a small impact on your life. Maybe it will cause you an upset stomach, but that’s about as extreme as it can get.

Other decisions will have greater consequences. Deciding to quit your job, for instance, is sure to have more obvious, long-term effects on your life. But even though this fact can be scary, you cannot let it slow down your decision making process. Sure, there’s more information that must be gathered when it comes to changing careers versus ordering dinner, and the decision will likely take longer as a result. However, it’s important to realize that the dangers of prolonging the decision making process almost always outweigh the benefits of gathering more information.

Here are five reasons you should be making quicker, more concrete decisions:

Iron And The Soul

August 23, 2021 Leave a Comment

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I believe that the definition of definition is reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself.

Completely.

When I was young I had no sense of myself. All I was, was a product of all the fear and humiliation I suffered. Fear of my parents. The humiliation of teachers calling me “garbage can” and telling me I’d be mowing lawns for a living. And the very real terror of my fellow students. I was threatened and beaten up for the color of my skin and my size. I was skinny and clumsy, and when others would tease me I didn’t run home crying, wondering why.

I knew all too well. I was there to be antagonized. In sports I was laughed at. A spaz. I was pretty good at boxing but only because the rage that filled my every waking moment made me wild and unpredictable. I fought with some strange fury. The other boys thought I was crazy.

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Keeping Up With The Joneses

August 20, 2021 Leave a Comment

You Are Where You’re Suppose To Be Right Now

August 19, 2021 Leave a Comment

It’s Never Too Late

August 18, 2021 Leave a Comment

We tend to see life in sections rather than a continuous journey. We box it up and stack its sections in an order that’s almost taboo to break.

We set targets by age, and once past a specific age, we convince ourselves that the target has been missed and the opportunity squandered.

“Oh, I’m too old for all that”.

“I can’t go back to study now”.

“Concerts are for young people”.

“I’d love to have travelled when I was younger”.

“I love it, but I’d feel silly wearing It”.

“People will think I’m crazy”.

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The Daily Man-Up

August 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

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You are responsible for your problems. You are not at fault for (some of) your problems, but you are responsible for all of them.

When you decide to claim responsibility for everything that you don’t like in your life—the annoying coworker, your inability to focus, how busy you are—you give yourself the power to do something about it. I don’t care that you didn’t create these issues. Stop playing the victim card, and do something about it.

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How to Stop Caring what Other People Think of You

August 13, 2021 Leave a Comment

So I’d like to share 4 principles that you can use immediately to stop (or at least significantly reduce) caring about what other people might think about you. So if you have low self-esteem and constantly modifying your language and behaviour in order to get people to like you… this is for you.

Here’s the main idea: Obviously we know that we should “just be ourselves” and “stop caring what others think about you”. But this sort of advice seems to be way easier said than done. Despite that wisdom, it’s hard to deny how important it feels to be seen, acknowledged, and respected by others.

… and yet: in order to become the most successful – most actualized – versions of ourselves that we can, we need to step beyond our concern about other people’s opinion of us. In other words, we need to decide on the bottommost level what matters most; 1) Becoming self-actualized, or 2) Having people approve of us.

A Massively Overlooked Reason For Failure And Lack Of Achievement

August 12, 2021 Leave a Comment

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When I think of all the things that are responsible for lack of achievement and abject failure, I can point the finger at a lot of things.

Inability to manage time. Inability to plan. Not having the right set of skills. A ton of things.

But there’s something a lot of people don’t consider. And that is the sheer amount of enjoyment and novelty available at our fingertips. I don’t even mean from a distraction sense (though it very well could be), I mean from a perspective of absolute satiation.