“You always need to be right”
I’ve heard this sentence directed at me from countless different people. It’s true, I do like to win an argument and be correct. However, I don’t really see how that’s such a negative thing. I think through the things I say and believe them to be right. I’m not going to stop believing them simply because you don’t. Think of a better argument than saying I only win because I want to win.
In the end I don’t want to be right, I want to know the right answer. I know I’m dumb and don’t have all the answers but that fact doesn’t win you the argument.
Anybody else in here considered a know-it-all or thick-skulled for needing to win arguments, when in reality you genuinely believe in your side and are open to be proven wrong?
Confession: I used to be like this. Every conversation was a battlefield, every opinion a flag I defended with the ferocity of a lion protecting its pride. But somewhere along the way, the weight of needing to be right became, well, heavy. The constant tension, the defensiveness, the strained relationships – it all started to feel less like winning and more like losing myself.
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