Confession of the Day
I, HLM (high libido male) recently had severe depression which was not noticed by my wife. A few months later, and after some changes, I feel a lot better. I made the decision that my marriage was over completely and asked to begin formally separating.
My LLF (low libido female) 34 wife and I had been together 17 years, married for 8, two kids, 3 and 5. We have had a completely dead bedroom for 6 years other than 12 times (yes precisely), to get her pregnant with our second kid.
I had been really struggling with the lack of sex and intimacy for a long time, but given the kids’ arrival and all of the shit that happens around childbirth and pregnancy, I held back from making big decisions for far longer than I was comfortable.
Poll of the Day
How much alcohol do you consume?
Is This Really All There Is to Life?
Eat sleep go to work, repeat. Where’s the adventure? Where’s the romance ? Seems like we are all slaving away to the rat race and have no time for passion projects. The monotony of routine is killing me
Your sentiment echoes in the hearts of many. The daily grind – eat, sleep, work, repeat – can indeed feel like an endless loop, devoid of the adventure and romance we yearned for in our younger days.
In adulthood, unlike childhood where adventures are often planned for us, we must take the initiative to create our own excitement and experiences.
You Cannot Directly Control How Anyone Else Thinks or Feels about You.
Many of us spend an inordinate amount of time and energy trying to shape how others perceive us. We curate our social media profiles, rehearse conversations, and often alter our behavior in the pursuit of approval or acceptance. This pursuit, however, is akin to chasing shadows. People’s thoughts and feelings are filtered through their own experiences, biases, and emotional states. These filters are beyond our control.
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Linkage
Five Ways Mindfulness Helps You Age Better – Greater Good
She Played Kris on Charlie’s Angels. See Cheryl Ladd Now at 72 – Wanderer
Tampa woman posed as homeschooled 14-year-old to molest middle schoolers – NY Post
Essential reading for anyone that wants to stop being a nice guy and improve their life dramatically – Amazon
The 6 Best Episodes of the Twilight Zone from the 1985 Revivial – Ned Hardy
Who’s Who Behind the Dawn of the Modern Artificial Intelligence Movement – NY Times
What’s it like being a Disney Adult? – The Face
Grand Theft Auto 6 Trailer Breakdown: Easter Eggs, References, And Teases – GameSpot
Tesla whistleblower calls cars with Autopilot “experiments in public roads” – ARS Technica
11 Ways To Reassure Your Girlfriend Of Your Love – Knowledge For Men
How to Score the Best National Park Campsites for Summer – Outside
Ex-U.S. ambassador accused of being Cuba’s secret agent since 1981 – AP News
Whatever Happened to Jeri Weil from ‘Leave It To Beaver’? – Ned Hardy
Super underrated kitchen tool…Great at scooping and scraping. Whacking a block of cheese or butter in half. Crushing garlic cloves. Cracking peppercorns. Dividing dough – Amazon
Absolute tank of a man lays out guys in a street fight – Reddit
How Many Shrooms Should You Take If It’s Your First Time? – Mel Magazine
How to Meet Your Next Romantic Partner in Real Life – Life Hacker
Inside the A.I. Arms Race That Changed Silicon Valley Forever – NY Times
The Seven Most Dangerous Cult Leaders of the last 100 years – Linkiest
The Dumping Grounds
Picture of the Day
Contraband found in fake lumber attempting to enter Texas prison
Officers at the Polunsky Unit recently confiscated a piece of hollowed-out wood sent to the facility’s craft shop containing 30 cell phones and cell phone accessories. After further investigation, two civilians, Janette Pizana and John Charles Godoy, were both arrested and charged by Office of the Inspector General investigators with Engaging in Organized Criminal Activity and introducing a Prohibited Item in a Correctional Facility.
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The iPhone reigns supreme inside correctional facilities — with the newest model commanding up to $6,000. Older versions or other smartphones can sell for as much $3,400; even cracked or damaged devices can still cost up to $2,000.
Examining the Pitfalls of Whole Life Insurance
When it comes to financial planning, life insurance is a critical component, offering peace of mind and security for one’s family. Among the various types of life insurance, whole life insurance often emerges as a popular choice, touted for its lifelong coverage and investment component. However, a closer inspection reveals several drawbacks that may not make it the ideal choice for everyone.
Let’s delve into why whole life insurance is frequently criticized and what makes it a less favorable option for many.
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Confession of the Day
Married 6 years. Together 18 years. Me: (f) 47. Him (m) 50. NO KIDS
Here’re my dilemma. My husband is a millionaire many times over, and retired at 50. He inherited all his money from his mother 4 years ago. We’ve lived together nearly 2 decades.
My sticking point is this: despite his massive inheritance, my husband still charges me a monthly rent and bills me for every tiny expense. I have a modest amount of savings (around $250k), but they are largely tied up in my 401k, so can’t afford to retire anytime soon. I work 40+ hours a week, while Hubby stays home and indulges in expensive hobbies like golf and sailing, and takes long trips without me. Is it unreasonable of me to expect him to share his good financial luck with me?