“Trying so hard not to fall into Red Pill”
My experiences with women have been terrible. No matter how much effort I put into putting myself out and listening to people’s advice, I’m always ending in the same outcome. Rejection. Rejection. Rejection. I’m pretty sure it’ll almost be 10 rejections in a row.
I just can’t understand why women don’t like me. I talk to them with the intention of getting to know them and be friendly and then I’ll show romantic interest. And as soon as I do, I’m rejected.
And I’m finding it really hard to believe height and race don’t matter. People will tell me “just go outside and you’ll see short/brown people in relationships” – but just cause you see it happen sometimes doesn’t mean it’s not insanely difficult.
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“Should I Leave My Wife?”
I love my wife, but I don’t know if I can live like this anymore. We’ve been married for over a year, and after moving in together, I discovered she had extreme cleanliness rules she hid while we were dating.
Everything from the outside is considered dirty—I have to undress in the entryway, shower immediately, disinfect my phone and glasses, and even retrieve my clothes in my underwear if I want to re-wear them. If I step outside, even briefly, I have to shower again. Groceries must be individually cleaned before being put away. If I drop something on the floor, it’s “contaminated” and either needs to be thrown away or heavily sanitized. She scrubs surfaces constantly and gets visibly distressed if something isn’t done “correctly.” Despite my efforts to comply, she gets angry if anything goes wrong, and she’s just as hard on herself.
“How do I stop my kid from lying?”
My daughter is almost 11, and lately, lying has become a frequent challenge. It shows up in little ways — about school, sports, how she’s spending her time. She attends a charter school that encourages close parent involvement, so I often find myself catching these small untruths day after day, which has been tough.
Yelling at Your Kids Isn’t Discipline, It’s a Grown-Up Tantrum
When you scream at your kid, you’re not teaching them. You’re not leading them. You’re not helping them “learn respect” or “listen the first time.”
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Take the Photo. You’ll Be Glad You Did.
Some people don’t like being in pictures. That’s fine. That’s normal. That’s a whole personality type now—let’s call it anti-photo syndrome. It’s a cocktail of self-consciousness, rebellion against vanity, a vague hatred of how you look in fluorescent lighting, and a philosophical distrust of the idea that anything meaningful can be captured in JPEG form. I get it. I’ve been that guy.
Linkage
20 Historical Photographs That Capture the Weight of the 20th Century – Ned Hardy
A must have for all toolboxes, these are designed so beautifully – Amazon
Activists say Iran’s crackdown has killed at least 6,159 people, as the country’s currency plunges – AP News
Does Intermittent Fasting Live Up to the Hype? – Archive.ph
TikTok settles just before social media addiction trial to begin – BBC News
UPS to cut up to 30,000 more jobs in move away from low-profit Amazon shipments – NBC News
The Ultimate Guide to Aurora Borealis Hunting – Outside Online
Couples who are ‘truly close’ use 8 phrases when talking about each other – CNBC
If you go hiking or camping in places that dont have reliable cell service, you need to carry this with you in case of an emergency – Amazon
The world’s 10 richest families – The Week
Why lawyers buy so many billboards – The Hustle
The 8 Worst Natural Disasters & Fires in American History – Linkiest
Do Americans Think the Country Is Losing or Gaining Ground in Science? – Pew Research Center
US Pediatricians Give Middle Finger to RFK Jr., Issue Their Own Vaccine Recommendations – Gizmodo
The Father Who Never Left His Son Behind – Sunny Skyz
Spotify and Big 3 Record Labels Sue Anna’s Archive for $13 Trillion (!) Alleging Theft – Consequence
The Dumping Grounds
“I’m 28, Still Living at Home, and I Don’t Feel a Rush to Change”
I’m a 28 year old man and I still live with my parents. I have a part time job that covers my basic expenses, and my parents don’t pressure me much about money or moving out. I don’t date, mostly because I don’t feel like I have much to offer right now, and honestly, I don’t feel a strong pull to change that.
From the outside, I know this probably looks like I’m stuck or avoiding adulthood. Friends from high school are married, have careers, or at least live on their own. I’m aware of the gap, but I don’t feel panicked about it. My life is comfortable. I have my routines, my hobbies, and very little stress.
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“My partner has an IQ of 72”
My partner is in a college/work training program and has been struggling a lot. Recently, he was referred to student support to assess for possible learning or mental disabilities. As part of that process, he took an IQ test and scored 72.
I wasn’t completely surprised. He often struggles with basic tasks and lacks common sense. Still, he’s a kind person, and I’ve tried to see him through a compassionate lens—like maybe he just needed more time to learn. But now, knowing this number, it feels different. This isn’t just about immaturity anymore. I’m starting to realize I may always have to carry most of the mental and emotional load in our relationship.