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July 19, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

The more you hate yourself, the more you will try to please and impress the other people around you all the time. After all, if you secretly believe that you’re a rotten piece of shit, then it follows that you will overvalue what other people think of you, and you will unconsciously dedicate all of your efforts to manipulating them into thinking you’re not the awful person you secretly believe you are.

The word “yes” gets a lot of hype these days, but I want to bring back the power of saying “no.”

Saying no is pretty awesome when you know when and how to say it right. You say no to doing a bunch of meaningless shit that you don’t think is important in life. You say no to people who overstep their boundaries and make unfair demands of your time or attention. You say no to make it clear to others where you stand and what you will/will not tolerate in your relationships. No is awesome.

Saying these nos is difficult, of course. That’s because the ability to say a healthy no requires a certain degree of self-respect and self-care. But saying no to the people and things that harm your life rather than help is often the first step to learning how to love and care for yourself.

Oh, and of course, you learn to say no to yourself too, to discipline yourself and keep yourself in check, to remind yourself that you don’t, in fact, know everything or even know what the hell you’re saying or doing half the time. This is such an underrated skill, yet it seems to be lost these days in the “give me one of everything” age.

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July 18, 2017 | 4 Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Masturbation and porn does more harm than good.

What’s worse is that women sense it, too—overall, you’re less attracted to them because you’ve been satisfied without them, and in turn they’re less attracted to you which ultimately leads to a spiral of more masturbation and porn and more social anxiety since  you have less drive to pursue women in the real world.

Do I have your attention? It’s really important you are reading this because the above stated: the more you masturbate to porn the less likely you are to get laid.

In Phillip Zimbardo’s TED talk, “The Demise of Guys?”, Zimbardo asserts that the average boy watches 50 porn clips a week. For every movie made in Hollywood, there are 11,000 porn movies. Brains are being rewired to expect constant novelty and constant arousal, which is out of sync with the reality of real women and real relationships. In fact, the demand that men have for new porn stars cannot keep up with the supply. This trend will only continue as long as men consume more and more pornography.

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July 17, 2017 | 2 Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

A letter from a soldier to his sons from a fox hole in Iwo Jima.

 

My dear little boys,

I am writing you today, just a week before Christmas eve, in the hopes that you will get this little note at Christmas time. All of this coming week will be holidays, and I can just imagine the fun you will be having, especially when you know that it is just a few days before Santa Claus will be coming. If it were possible, I would like to come down the chimney myself and crawl right inot your stocking, wouldn’t that be a surprise? I would enjoy it even more than you, but since your Dad is far away and Santa Claus has the only reindeers that will fly through the air, I’m afraid we will have to let Santa Claus use them. After all he has so many place to go in such a short time.

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July 14, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Too many in our society don’t know what weakness is. They don’t know what it is because it’s the norm. It’s what everyone around them does, it’s how they think, it’s who they are and what they expect from themselves.

Realize this:

If you live the life of a pussy, you’re going to live the life of a dependent. You’re going to live a life where others are in control of your present and your future. You’re going to be envious and cynical. You’re never going to realize the talents you possess or the opportunities that have passed you by.

Laziness has never won anyone anything, and neither has weakness.

As a society we need stronger, grittier men, clearly. But on an individual level, if there’s any ounce of you that wants to improve, to become better than the man you currently are, you, like I, are going to have to toughen up.

You’re going to have to forgo many of the habits that you’ve incurred over the years and replace them with new ones.

That is where this article comes in. We’re going to draw the battle lines and give you the weapons to fight.

A pussy is simply a wuss, a weaker version of the warrior within. Don’t get all politically correct and note that it’s also a slang term for a female body part. That’s clearly not what we’re talking about here so bugger off.

When you know what your enemy looks like, where it resides, and how it fights, you can then defeat it with persistence and diligence.

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July 13, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

I hear them.

That weak voice that we all have but I seem to have on steroids mumbles a reason to quit. It offers a reason to go slower, to rest, to explain why I’m not going at a pace that I could be going at.

It sounds logical. It sounds like it’s thinking about my welfare and happiness.

But it isn’t.

It’s a voice that leads men down dark paths of dependence. It’s a voice that prevents us from being happy and being valuable to our fellow man. It’s a voice that the vast majority of people on this planet listen to, and it’s one that makes happiness impossible.

It’s this same voice that makes it sound reasonable to sleep in. The very same voice convinces you that it’s a good idea to cheat on your lady. It whispers in your ear that you don’t need to stand by her when she gets pregnant. It shows you an easier path in life, a path that it claims will lead you to happiness, ease.

This voice also holds you back when you want to attack a goal, aim just a bit higher, or do something you’re afraid to do. It justifies not working out. It gives you a reason not to help your fellow man.

This voice is cancer.

It grabs on to the host and degrades its strength without relent.

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July 12, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

If everything is too good, you’re probably stuck not being awesome.

Don’t join an “easy” crowd. You won’t grow.

Many people are so comfortable they’re miserable.

Breaking a habit, trying something new, taking a risk, making new connections, or putting yourself in a totally new situation won’t be easy, but it’s worth it. It’s exhausting but rewarding.

Calvin Coolidge says “All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work.”

Comfort can lead to self-absorption, boredom, and discontent.

You can either be comfortable and stagnate or stretch yourself — become uncomfortable — and grow. Choose the latter.

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July 11, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.

Jim Rohn

One of the most pervasive myths in the American culture today is that we are entitled to a great life— that somehow, somewhere, someone (certainly not us) is responsible for filling our lives with continual happiness, exciting career options, nurturing family time, and blissful personal relationships simply because we exist.

But the real truth—and the one lesson this whole book is based on—is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live.

That person is you.

If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings—everything!

This is not easy.

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July 10, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

“To the fatty running on the Westview track this afternoon: You, whose feet barely lift off the ground as you trudge around the track. You, who keeps the outside lane, footslogging in the wrong direction. You, who stops for water breaks every lap, and who would probably stop twice a lap if there were bleachers on both sides. You whose gaze drops to your feet everytime we pass. You, whose sweat drenches your body after you leave, completing only a single, 20-minute mile.

There’s something you should know: You fucking rock.

Every shallow step you take, you carry the weight of more than two of me, clinging to your bones, begging to be shaken off. Each lap you run, you’re paying off the debt of another midnight snack, another dessert, another beer. It’s 20 degrees outside, but you haven’t let that stop your regimen. This isn’t your first day out here, and it certainly won’t be your last. You’ve started a journey that lasts a lifetime, and you’ve started it at least 12 days before your New Year’s resolution kicks in. You run without music, and I can only imagine the mantras running through your mind as you heave your ever-shrinking mass around the next lap. Let’s go, feet. Shut up, legs. Fu*k off, fat. If you’d only look up from your feet the next time we pass, you’d see my gaze has no condescension in it. I have nothing but respect for you. You’ve got this.”

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