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The Daily Man-Up: This Generation Loves To Take The Easy Way Out

February 1, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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When I look at life, I look at it as a workout at the gym. It’s like being in the last quarter of your training, the point where you have to give it your all to get through it. This is when the reps get harder and harder and your mind starts telling you that you might be tired.

Now there are two types of people in this world: those who will take the easy way out, listen to their weak mind and not finish their reps or their workout because they feel “tired”; and those people that will simply say f*ck it, give it their all, push harder, get past the wall in front of them and finish strong because that is what they set out to do.

Unfortunately there’s only a small percentage of people who fall into the latter category: maybe 5 to 10%. The rest of the people will simply walk away, satisfied that they feel tired because they feel like they’ve done enough. They are appeased.

It’s funny because so many people are afraid of being average, yet they settle for the easy way out. They take what is in front of them and opt to do the least amount to achieve the bare minimum in their lives. In short, people are afraid of challenges, they have lost their courage and don’t know how well they will deal with failure, so they step away and take the easiest route.

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The Daily Man-Up: How to Stop Checking Your Phone Like an Addict

January 31, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Hey there, compulsive phone checker.

Much like you, I’m fairly experienced in this area. I used to check my phone compulsively, but have overcome the need to check it, and I’ll share with you how I did it.

It would start out innocent enough, scrolling through Facebook while waiting for a coffee. Or perusing Instagram during breaks at work. I didn’t have a lot of data available to use on my plan, so I was always pretty careful about when I was using it.

But what started as an innocent habit slowly became an addiction and leaked into other areas of my life. I was on my phone all the time: during breaks at work, at meals with friends, while I was hanging out with my parents, while I was at home with my wife. Heck, there was a point I was even texting while driving.

If I were to guess, I would say that I was spending upwards of three hours on my phone each day.

Before we go any further, it’s important we call this thing out for what it is: I was addicted to distraction.

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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Apologizing For Being Yourself

January 30, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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I’ve got a simple question for you: Who are you?

Look, this is not a job interview or any type of interview.

I’m not looking for a politically correct answer. “I’m a person who’s serious about his career. I like to spend time with my family and friends.” That’s true for every single person who is determined enough to have a job.

No, I’m talking about who you truly are — deep down.

Because let’s face it, you and I both know that we all have two personalities, who live two different lives. There’s the life we want to live, and then there’s the life we’re actually living.

I used to be that way. I always thought that “it’s impossible to live the way I really want.” And that’s what held me back from:

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The Daily Man-Up: The Way A Person Does One Thing Is The Way They Do Everything 

January 29, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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There is an old zen saying

“The way a person does one thing is the way they do everything”. 

I first heard this phrase from a mentor of mine a few years ago and it made me rethink my whole approach to the way I was living my life.

I used to be a someone who would cut corners on what I thought were small things. For example, I would make my bed but I wouldn’t tuck the sheets all the way in. I would clean the house but not pull the lounge out and vacuum under.

I would complete a task to 80% of my ability and then stop when I thought it was good enough. What I couldn’t see at the time was; by cutting corners on the small things and not doing them to the best of my ability, I had developed a habit of laziness and mediocrity.

Over time this habit had crept into the more important areas of my life. I found myself wanting to cut corners on work projects and wanting to stop when a piece of art I was working on was “good enough” but not perfect.

I had accepted mediocrity as an option in my life and thats exactly what I ended up with. If you have accepted mediocre in one area of your life, you have accepted mediocre. Full stop. The cure for this is to not allow mediocre to be an option in your life. If you don’t accept it, it’s impossible to end up with it.

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The Daily Man-Up

January 28, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Here’s a bit of advice to anyone passing by, coming from someone who exercises religiously and would lose their mind if they missed a single day.

Nobody is motivated every day. Hell, people are rarely motivated more than once a week. It’s nothing but habit. If you ask yourself the question, “Will I do this today?” The answer is already no. You have to remove the question from your daily routine.

Plan your day tomorrow. Wake up early and get it out of the way. Don’t think about it. Just do it.

One day the motivation will come and then the clock is ticking. You have about a week to establish a habit before that motivation fades. You didn’t go for a run today. You’ve started going for a run every day. Keep this to yourself until it already defines you.

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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Fucking Complaining

January 25, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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The Daily Man-Up: How To Handle Rejection Like A Man

January 23, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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As much as it may sting, rejection is part and parcel of dating.  The only guaranteed way to avoid it, is to sit on the sidelines and not get your butt in the game at all (and if that sounds appealing, you’re on the wrong site). So if we accept that rejection is something you’ll need to deal with… let’s talk about how to deal with it in a calm and mature fashion i.e. how to handle rejection like a man.

And the easiest way to explain how to do that, is by talking about what NOT to do.

So, here are the 3 common mistakes men make when it comes to handling rejection:

#1 Getting emotional

Sometimes you’ll approach a woman and she simply won’t be interested. Perhaps she already has a boyfriend, only dates men of a certain race or age group, or she might not even like dudes at all.

Or maybe you’ll go on a date or two and she texts you that she’d rather be friends.

Or perhaps she just never responded to any of your texts after you got her number.

Whatever the situation, it doesn’t make sense to take it personally and become highly emotional, because the truth is it’s NO BIG DEAL.

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The Daily Man-Up

January 22, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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If you want to make any permanent change in your life, willpower won’t get you there.

Whether you want to get healthier, stop using social media so much, improve your relationships, be happier, write a book, or start a business — willpower won’t help you with any of these things.

Personal progress and achieving success are best approached like you’re overcoming addiction. Because, quite literally, that’s what you’re doing. As human-beings, we all have addictions.

I openly admit being addicted to social media, my current belief system, my comfort zone, and my excuses. I’m also addicted to a lot of other behaviors that contradict my goals.

We are all addicted. And the cognitive dissonance is numbing.

If you’re serious about the changes you want to make, willpower won’t be enough. Quite the opposite. Willpower is what’s holding you back.

Willpower is a broken approach to thriving and success

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The Daily Man-Up: Pay Yourself First

January 21, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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One of the oldest rules of personal finance is the simple admonition to pay yourself first. All the money books tell you to do it. All the personal finance blogs say it, too. Even your parents have given you the same advice.

But it’s hard. That money could be used someplace else. You could pay the phone bill, could pay down debt, could buy a new DVD player. You’ve tried once or twice in the past, but it’s so easy to forget. You don’t keep a budget, so when payday rolls around, the money just finds its way elsewhere.

And besides: What does “pay yourself first” even mean?

To pay yourself first means simply this: Before you pay your bills, before you buy groceries, before you do anything else, set aside a portion of your income to save. Put the money into your 401(k), your Roth IRA, or your savings account. The first bill you pay each month should be to yourself. This habit, developed early, can help you build tremendous wealth.

Why pay yourself first?

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The Daily Man-Up

January 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“Pretend your time is worth $1,000/hr. Would you spend five of them doing extra work for free? Would you waste one on being angry?” – Niklas Göke

You have very few hours here on on this earth.

Still, many people waste much of their time on pointless, low-quality activities that don’t help them reach their true goals — their mission.

The truth is, most people value their time at far, far less than it’s worth.

They say yes to things they have no business doing. They give away their talents, attention, and effort to others who take, take, take.

They spend hours watching low-quality television and social media when they should be productive and effective.

See, many people could be making a fortune (if they used their time well)…but instead, they give away their time in unproductive ways that leave them broke, unhappy, and stuck.

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