Man-Up

The Daily Man-Up: A Man Is The Protector Of His Family

October 31, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

(photo: @devedo432)

As a husband and father, you are the warrior who has been charged with the duty of pushing back against the evil that seeks to prey on your wife, daughters, and sons. If you don’t step up, who will?

The essence of protection is the “need to establish and defend boundaries.” Boundaries create a sense of identity and trust. Should that line be crossed, men will spring into action. Men are called on to guard the perimeter between danger and safety, protecting tribe and family from predators, human enemies, and natural disasters.

A man adds to his individual honor by developing and demonstrating prowess in the protector role. At the same time, he bolsters his community’s reputation for strength as well, as the tribe’s overall reputation serves as a form of protection in and of itself — functioning as a deterrent to attack.

The protector role requires:

Check out the rest of the article here

No Comments »

The Daily Man-Up: The Way A Person Does One Thing Is The Way They Do Everything

October 30, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

(photo: @chuttersnap)

There is an old zen saying

“The way a person does one thing is the way they do everything”. 

I first heard this phrase from a mentor of mine a few years ago and it made me rethink my whole approach to the way I was living my life.

I used to be a someone who would cut corners on what I thought were small things. For example, I would make my bed but I wouldn’t tuck the sheets all the way in. I would clean the house but not pull the lounge out and vacuum under.

I would complete a task to 80% of my ability and then stop when I thought it was good enough. What I couldn’t see at the time was; by cutting corners on the small things and not doing them to the best of my ability, I had developed a habit of laziness and mediocrity.

Over time this habit had crept into the more important areas of my life. I found myself wanting to cut corners on work projects and wanting to stop when a piece of art I was working on was “good enough” but not perfect.

I had accepted mediocrity as an option in my life and thats exactly what I ended up with. If you have accepted mediocre in one area of your life, you have accepted mediocre. Full stop. The cure for this is to not allow mediocre to be an option in your life. If you don’t accept it, it’s impossible to end up with it.

(more…)

No Comments »

The Daily Man-Up: The Iron

October 29, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

henry rollins

(photo: @aloragriffiths)

I believe that the definition of definition is reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself.

Completely.

When I was young I had no sense of myself. All I was, was a product of all the fear and humiliation I suffered. Fear of my parents. The humiliation of teachers calling me “garbage can” and telling me I’d be mowing lawns for a living. And the very real terror of my fellow students. I was threatened and beaten up for the color of my skin and my size. I was skinny and clumsy, and when others would tease me I didn’t run home crying, wondering why.

I knew all too well. I was there to be antagonized. In sports I was laughed at. A spaz. I was pretty good at boxing but only because the rage that filled my every waking moment made me wild and unpredictable. I fought with some strange fury. The other boys thought I was crazy.

(more…)

No Comments »

The Daily Man-Up

October 26, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

success

(photo: @borisview)

It was another day in the office and Jeff was sitting in his desk chair, staring at the lifeless, gray walls which defined“his” space. Jeff hated his job and was generally frustrated with life because he was a slacker and he knew it.

There was the time that he wanted to run a marathon. He bought a new pair of running shoes and a running book, but only showed up to run for a couple of weeks before quitting.

There was the time he wanted to build his own website. He read all about it for months and researched everything. He even put up his own site, but after a couple of weeks, he quit when nobody visited the site.

There was a similar pattern. Jeff would get excited about something and get off to a quick start, but when he didn’t see results, he quickly became discouraged and gave up. After giving up, he would fall back into old habits and life was the same for Jeff day in and day out, year in and year out.  And now here he was, bored and frustrated.

It was on this day that Jeff was sent back in time.

(more…)

No Comments »

The Daily Man-Up

October 25, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

I know some guys that are virtually fearless. I’m talking about really tough guys, the type who don’t back down from nearly any situation, regardless of how dangerous it may be. But for some reason, the only thing that makes them hesitate is the thought of approaching a beautiful woman.

Without getting too philosophical, there’s a growing trend of young men who don’t have the romantic life they want. The big joke on internet communities and online gaming is being “forever alone” and not having a girlfriend. And it’s because we’re afraid. Afraid of looking stupid, afraid of being laughed at or ridiculed, but mostly, afraid of being rejected.

And I ask why, why are we so protective of ourselves? We would rather play it safe and feel unfulfilled than to take a risk and go after what we desire. The problem is, we’re the only ones that end up losing in these situations. As Wayne Gretzky said, we miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.

(more…)

No Comments »

The Daily Man-Up: People Say Failure Is Super Important To Success, So Here’s 13 Ways To Fail At Anything

October 23, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Don’t try

By far the easiest way to fail is to stay in fantasy and “one day” mode.

Sure, you’ll write that book, or make that movie, or run that marathon… one day… eventually… probably never.

Try blindly

Another quick way to fail is to try blindly, get frustrated when it’s not as easy as you fantasized in your head, then quit.

Plan poorly

By far my favorite ways to fail is to plan poorly or over plan. This is slightly more effort than trying blindly with no plan at all, but it’s fun and you tend to break things. 😀

Spend 100% of your time planning

This is super fun. It’s all of the effort of being successful while never getting there or doing the hard work. You spend all of your good effort trying to figure out what to do and how to do it, without ever actually doing anything. 100% tire spinning.

(more…)

No Comments »

The Daily Man-Up

October 22, 2018 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

(photo: @carlosheviariera)

Make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt. So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. If you want to get more out of life, Ron, you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy. But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.

Into The Wild” – Jon Krakauer

1 Comment »

The Daily Man-Up: Never Become Reliant On Other People or Things For Peace and Happiness

October 19, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

(photo: @bryanminear)

In today’s world we are constantly bombarded with beautiful people and things on the news and media, and it’s easy to think  “if only I had a girlfriend, or if only I had all these things, or all this money, then I would finally be happy.

I mean we live in a capitalistic society. Money, fame, and beauty is the whole purpose of life right?

The truth is that the quest for things is a thirst that will never be quenched.

Once you have one thing, it’ll be another thing. And another thing. And another thing.

Enough will never be enough.

I used to deal with some pretty heavy depression.

And through this journey, I came to the realization that my happiness was entirely dependent on external sources.

(more…)

No Comments »

The Daily Man-Up

October 18, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

(photo: @guillepozzi)

You know, a lot of people have never seen their breaking point. And in a way that’s very sad… The bottom of that pit is where you eventually find a snarl to put on your face and the will to climb out into the light and shape the very world into something more pleasing. More pleasing to you. It turns out the world is very malleable if you put the work into it.

We all get knocked down. Hard, sometimes. Sometimes we get knocked down real hard.

Ya just can’t beat a person who never gives up, though.

The breaking point. That’s where the best life lesson is. You felt so little and so hurt, you even wanted to just give up and die. But you’re still here, right? You shrugged it off because it sucks but you can bear the emotional weight of it. Day after day, ending it all just doesn’t make it onto the to-do list. Maybe ’cause you’ve got other shit to do. Maybe because you know you’re better than that. Maybe you’ve got the same thirst for greatness we all do and you’re not satisfied with where you’re at so far. Or maybe just because you don’t think it’s the right thing to do.

(more…)

No Comments »

The Daily Man-Up: 7 Surefire Signs That You Need To Consider Breaking Up with Your Girlfriend

October 17, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

How many times have you seen a friend get into a relationship and you just don’t understand why he is with her?

You think to yourself….why her?

Other than her looks….what does he see in her?

How does he stand her attitude, the way she spends his money or the way she treats other people?

Maybe your friends even said this about you at some point.

We’ve all been there.

Usually, it will take a few bad or even mediocre relationships before you find someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with.

During those trials, you may want to consider letting go of something that is “okay” to create space for something that is remarkable.

When you start to see the signs that you need to break up with your girlfriend it can be awkward, scary and sometimes life-changing.

But sometimes, it’s a necessary and a painful step on your path towards growth and happiness.

Here are the seven signs to lookout for that you shouldn’t ignore…

(more…)

No Comments »