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The Daily Man-Up: Own Your Shit!

August 28, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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We love talking about the things we are good at. Very few talk about the real shit that fucks with us- the stuff we hide from everyone. We try to mask it by lifting weights, making more money, buying more possessions, etc. It’s there in the insecurities, fear, lies and self-doubt that we find our real self. There and only there do you grow. 

Don’t be afraid of people judging you- fuck them! A lot of people can’t handle the truth about themselves, trust me, I know. I struggled with that for many years. Own your shit! Those people you are trying to impress have just as many issues as you do, they just hide it better than you do. 

Stop trying to impress others! Worry only about impressing yourself!

– David Goggins

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The Daily Man-Up: Wish Less. Work More.

August 27, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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People pray to win money or to be blessed with things in the future when they already have the blessing to create what they want; life. (Read This: Don’t Set Another Goal Until You Read This)

You’re born with enough to create what you want. It will take longer than you think, much longer, and it will be far more difficult than you think, but you are born with the capacities to create a great life.

Don’t dream about a gift, don’t pray for a gift, don’t wish you were given a gift.

The journey to success – however that’s defined in your heart – is where strength is acquired, toughness is developed, and grit is created.

Most people will blame God or society for them not having what they want, and they’ll never have what they want. Then there are those who realize that blessings they already have, like the ability to breathe, think, solve problems, and most importantly work harder than anyone else if they so choose, and they’ll take the steps necessary for success.

Wishing for a gift and praying for change is ignorant. It’s ignorant of the strength you can potentially create, the change you have the capacity to bring about.

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The Daily Man-Up: How To Know If You’ll Be Successful

August 24, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Life is complex and messy. It can be extremely difficult to get traction, let alone find motivation.

But motivation is something you can learn to create at will. Becoming deeply passionate is also within your creative control. As a result, you can completely predict your own success. You can choose to become as successful as you want. You can blow past all competition.

Here’s how:

Know That You Can Succeed

“Ignition (n): The motivational process that occurs when your identity becomes linked to a long-term vision of your future. Triggers significant amounts of unconscious energy; usually marked by the realization: That is who I want to be.” — Daniel Coyle

There’s a moment when you see what you want and a voice organically speaks within you — “I could be that.”

This experience is pivotal!

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The Daily Man-Up: 7 Ways Society Can Make A Man Soft

August 23, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

1. By praising weakness.

In some corners of our society you’re actually praised for being a victim. The more arbitrary victim classes you belong to, the higher status you hold. You’re seen as strong, for being weak.

If you don’t watch out for it, you can find yourself being proud of being a victim, and your victimhood may not actually be real, nor should you want it to be. You’re a man. A man cannot be a victim unless he gives his permission. If he does, he also relinquishes power over his current and future life as a victim depends on others to succeed, to be ‘allowed and enabled’ to succeed.

This victimhood goes deeper, especially now with men, as we’re seeing other groups praise men’s vulnerability and condemn the stoicism that actually leads to a life well lived.

We’re being pushed to dive into our feelings, to explore them, to express them, and in doing so, we’re giving our emotions and feelings power over our mood, our actions, and what we ‘feel’ like we can accomplish in this life.

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The Daily Man-Up

August 22, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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I keep hearing about “adulting” and how hard it is. Well, it is hard and doesn’t get easier.

At almost 60, I still get scared, overwhelmed and don’t know what to do sometimes. I still have sleepless nights and wonder what the hell I’m going to do about some situations. The difference is I can use my experience in prior situations to assess the current one. Or, even better, I have a circle of family/friends/professionals that I can go to for advice. Ones that I trust, not the one on the next barstool or such.

But inside, I still feel like I’m 25! I like splashing in puddles, I sit in awe of a star-filled sky, I blow bubbles even when I’m not with the grandkids. I love shopping for new and different clothes in out of the way places, I still travel alone to places that interest me. I love to cook and try new things. I stay out late and sleep in sometimes, just not every weekend lol. I take up new hobbies and endeavors because they seem interesting. I still reach out to strangers and make new friends, so that I don’t get bored. And I LOVE a good whisky and the occasional drunk!

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The Daily Man-Up: Why Women Test You

August 21, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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We’ve all gotten it, the proverbial test women will throw at us, either when we first meet, or when we start dating, or much further down the line. I keep seeing men freeze up in these tests, often forgetting that…

These tests are a good thing!

First, let’s take a look at how she will test;

She will test by complaining, challenging, changing her mind, doubting and distracting.

Those are the main forms in which she will test you. I do have to point out something that many of you might not have the stomach to accept:

Stop hoping for it to get easier. As you grow in success so will her testing.

Yep, there isn’t some kind of testing threshold you need to pass before she gets all cute and happy ever after. The more of a man you become, the more she will test you. The more successful you become – with women, with business, with your goals and passions and indeed, in life itself, the harder you will be tested for it.

Why she tests

I said earlier that a woman testing you is a good thing, and I meant it.

Understand this; women will test you to feel your masculine core.

Yes. It is through discovering your unshakable masculinity that she comes to understand her own femininity.

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The Daily Man-Up: Reading Is To The Mind What Exercise Is To Your Body

August 20, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Reading puts your brain to work.

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to your body.

It gives us freedom to roam the expanse of space, time, history, and offer a deeper view of ideas, concepts, emotions, and body of knowledge.

Roberto Bolaño says“Reading is like thinking, like praying, like talking to a friend, like expressing your ideas, like listening to other people’s ideas, like listening to music, like looking at the view, like taking a walk on the beach.”

Your brain on books is active — growing, changing and making new connections and different patterns, depending on the type of material you’re reading.

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The Daily Man-Up: Thought And Purpose

August 17, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Until thought is linked with purpose there is no intelligent accomplishment. With the majority the barque of thought is allowed to drift upon the ocean of life. Aimlessness is a vice, and such drifting must not continue for him who would steer clear of catastrophe and destruction.

They who have no central purpose in their life fall an easy prey to petty worries, fears, troubles, and self-pitying, all of which lead, just as surely as deliberately planned sins (though by a different route), to failure, unhappiness, and loss, for weakness cannot persist in a power-evolving universe.

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The Daily Man-Up: You Are Where You’re Suppose To Be Right Now

August 16, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Stop. Stop questioning. Stop over-thinking. Stop looking back and trying to measure where you’ve been or how far you have left to go. Stop telling yourself you aren’t there yet, or aren’t good enough.

Stop.

Because right where you are in this moment—even in all this imperfection and mess and steps still left to take—is exactly where you’re supposed to be.

Thousands of moments led up to this. Hundreds of decisions and actions. Millions of tiny thoughts and mistakes and blessings have brought you are. And here is good.

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The Daily Man-Up: Are You The Man She Wants or The One She’ll Settle For?

August 15, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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What women really want in a man?

The simple answer to the question above…confidence.

Yes, the elusive quality that every woman says they’re looking for in a man. Guys think that it equates to being aloof, emotionally distant, and kind of an asshole – but those are just insecurities posing as confidence.

What a woman really values is a guy who values himself.

A guy who has standards and specific qualities he looks for in a partner. A guy who wants someone who will genuinely respect him and will be excited to invest back in him.

A guy that isn’t going to settle for just anyone.

Women want men who have options. They want to feel like they actually have to earn your approval (not that they just got it because they’re hot and/or you’re lonely.) They have to feel like they could lose you if you’re not getting the connection you desire.

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