The Daily Man-Up

July 10, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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The thoughtless, the ignorant, and the indolent, seeing only the apparent effects of things and not the things themselves, talk of luck, of fortune, and chance. Seeing a man grow rich, they say, “How lucky he is!” Observing another become intellectual, they exclaim, “How highly favored he is!” And noting the saintly character and wide influence of another, the remark, “How chance aids him at every turn!” They do not see the trials and failures and struggles which these men have voluntarily encountered in order to gain their experience; have no knowledge of the sacrifices they have made, of the undaunted efforts they have put forth, of the faith they have exercised, that they might overcome the apparently insurmountable, and realize the Vision of their heart. They do not know the darkness and the heartaches; they only see the light and joy, and call it “luck”; do not see the long and arduous journey, but only behold the pleasant goal, and call it “good fortune”; do not understand the process, but only perceive the result, and call it “chance.”

As a Man Thinketh ― James Allen

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The Daily Man-Up: Passive is The New Agressive: Some Thoughts on Power

July 9, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

*Your neighbor starts building a fence, waking you up every day for a week at six AM.  Instead of confronting him about it face-to-face you write an email to the homeowner’s association.

*You disagree with your pastor’s decision making.  Instead of asking him to meet with you to discuss it, you rally a posse to your cause without his knowledge to “confront him” at the next elder meeting.

*You give a friend a ride to the airport, expecting payback in the near future.  You don’t tell him about the expectation, and when he doesn’t offer any payback on his own, you become resentful.

*A long-time friend offends you by cancelling a hang session.  Instead of telling him how you feel, you just don’t contact him for months.

*A family member brings up a topic of conversation you don’t wish to discuss.  You look away and act awkward, making the other person feel uncomfortable, in order to reinforce the fact that such topics should not be referred to in your presence again.

*You meet a person who is particular position of influence in your industry.  In order to gain potential opportunities you pursue a friendship with the guy, who thinks you just enjoy hanging out with him.  When he gives you a good “lead” that you cash in on, you start spending less time with him.


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The Daily Man-Up: 10 Signs Your Whipped

July 6, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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There comes a time in a man’s life when he should grow up and get serious about a relationship. Maybe that’s true for some, but surely that doesn’t mean you have to submit to the ways of a dominant and controlling woman, does it? You don’t have to cower in the corner with your emasculated tail between your legs. Hell no!

If you’ve ever wondered whether or not you’re one of the many unfortunate suckers out there who’ve joined the ranks of the whipped (and are probably being mocked and ridiculed for it to boot), take a look at this list of top 10 signs you’re whipped; if you recognize any of them, for God’s sake, man up and do something about it.

1. Going for a beer requires permission

It’s not just going for a beer that requires her permission, so does every other trivial excursion. In the mind of your power-hungry girlfriend, going for a beer with your friends spells out trouble and, therefore, it’s heavily frowned upon. All of a sudden, you can’t even pop into a pub for a quick one at the end of the day without facing a barrage of harassment when you return home. Subsequently, you’ve stopped doing it to avoid the hassle that, for the record, makes you a spineless pansy. This is a big one boys, but our signs you’re whipped doesn’t end here.


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The Daily Man-Up: Your Mind is a Garden, Your Thoughts are the Seeds. You can grow Flowers or weeds.

July 5, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.

Just as a gardener cultivates his plot, keeping it free from weeds, and growing the flowers and fruits which he requires, so may a man tend the garden of his mind, weeding out all the wrong, useless, and impure thoughts, and cultivating toward perfection the flowers and fruits of right, useful, and pure thoughts. By pursuing this process, a man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life. He also reveals, within himself, the laws of thought, and understands, with ever-increasing accuracy, how the thoughtforces and mind-elements operate in the shaping of his character, circumstances, and destiny.

Thought and character are one, and as character can only manifest and discover itself through environment and circumstance, the outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state. This does not mean that a man’s circumstances at any given time are an indication of his entire character, but that those circumstances are so intimately connected with some vital thought-element within himself that, for the time being, they are indispensable to his development.

Every man is where he is by the law of his being; the thoughts which he has built into his character have brought him there, and in the arrangement of his life there is no element of chance, but all is the result of a law which cannot err. This is just as true of those who feel “out of harmony” with their surroundings as of those who are contented with them.

As a Man Thinketh ― James Allen

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The Daily Man-Up: You Need a Life Strategy Because Extraordinary Lives Don’t Happen by Accident

July 3, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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To achieve the life you want, one that will truly make you satisfied, you need to prioritize it above all else. If you want a life of success, a life filled with spiritual happiness shared with your partner, you need to visualize it. That life you envision will then contain these pieces of your puzzle. But don’t get confused — these pieces are not your life, in itself. You are more than these pieces. Your life isn’t your job, it’s not your marriage, it’s not your kids or the people in it. Don’t limit yourself. Visualize and plan who you want to be, and how you want your life to be.

1. Prioritize the life you want.

This is not putting your role as a spouse first, or even your role as a parent. It’s not even putting your family first. It’s putting yourself first and understanding what you need. By being whole, you’ll enjoy others and situations as a complement to your prioritized life, and not a “fix” to complete you.

2. Recognize what you need to avoid.

Identify and avoid situations that aren’t good, but occurring over and over. Is your health upsetting you? Fix it, do what you need to do to feel better about yourself or take action to heal. Stuck in traffic constantly and getting home angry and frustrated? Change it.  Move closer to work. You can’t be a good partner, parent or contributor if you are shut down, angry and upset.

And, like everything I do, commit to this. You have to make a decision to be obsessed with having the life you want. You have to take ownership of your life. I work to fund the life I want. I shape my life so I can be with my wife and kids. I align the pieces so I can have the life I want and deserve. I make sure I have things around me in order so it reminds me, and reinforces that I have my life in order and in control. That is the life I want.

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The Daily Man-Up: The #1 Habit to Build Self Discipline and Resilience

July 2, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Skill, talent, ability, these are all useless unless paired with self-discipline.

Self-discipline is the fire that awakens you at 5am to get up and obliterate your heavy leg workout while it’s cold and stormy outside.

Skill won’t motivate you to get out of bed.

Self discipline is the drive that forces you to sit down and write 1,000 words per day even when you feel as if it’s the last thing you want to do.

Talent won’t make you sit in that chair and put pen to paper.

Over the years I have learned that it is no skill nor talent that’ll pave the way to the live I want to live, it’s consistency.

Consistency compounds your small, day to day wins over time.

Consistency requires self discipline.

The Cold Shower

I attribute the iron discipline I’ve built over the last 3 years to my daily cold showers.

There’s no hiding it, cold showers are uncomfortable.

Freezing cold water (especially in winter!) is uncomfortable and you’re willingly going out of your way to endure it.


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The Daily Man-Up: Social Media Is Ruining Your Self-Esteem

June 29, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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It’s 7am and you hear your iPhone start buzzing through your heavy slumber. It’s your alarm. You have to be at work in thirty minutes. You shut off your alarm, but you don’t set down your phone to get ready. The first thing you do is open up your Instagram app. It’s a natural habit at this point to check your social media when you get up in the morning. When the app opens up, the first picture you see is of that guy in a mansion with 10 beautiful girls around him. You get this sting of jealousy inside of you. “Why can’t I be him?” You say to yourself as you continue to click on his profile and scroll through more of his pictures. You know it’s just making you feel worse but you can’t stop. You finally look at the time. 8:16am. You fling yourself out of your bed, shower and throw on some clothes. You grab your bag, and right as you’re about to leave out the door you take one final look in the mirror. You remember back to that guy on Instagram and think to yourself again, “Why can’t I be him?”


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The Daily Man-Up: The Importance of Being on Time

June 28, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“The habit of being prompt once formed extends to everything — meeting friends, paying debts, going to church, reaching and leaving place of business, keeping promises, retiring at night and rising in the morning, going to the lecture and town-meeting, and, indeed, to every relation and act, however trivial it may seem to observers.” –William Makepeace Thayer, Tact and Grit, 1882

Being punctual strengthens and reveals your integrity. If you tell someone that you will meet them at a certain time, you have essentially made them a promise. And if you say you’ll be there at 8:00, and yet arrive at 8:15, you have essentially broken that promise. Being on time shows others that you are a man of your word.

Being punctual shows you are dependable. A man can always be found at his post, carrying out the duties needful for that time. People know they can rely on such a man – if he says he will be there, he’ll be there. But if a man is not punctual, others cannot depend on him — they do not know where he will be when they need him. His associates will begin to feel he cannot organize his own time, and these doubts will seep into matters beyond the clock, as it naturally raises the question: “If he is careless about time, what else is he careless about?”

Benjamin Franklin once said to an employee who was always late, but always ready with an excuse: “I have generally found that the man who is good at an excuse is good for nothing else.”


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The Daily Man-Up: Pain Is Your Friend And Ally

June 27, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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The most necessary thing in life, is pain. Without pain we cannot develop toughness or grit. Without pain we cannot improve, learn, and grow. Pain is our greatest ally in our quest to become something more than what we currently are. So seek it out. Go beyond what you can currently do and who you currently are. Ask more of your body and your mind and evolve into the man you are capable of becoming.

Pain is not something to run from, but attract. In attracting more you allow yourself to become more.

Strength is only acquired through pain.

No matter the kind of strength you’re talking about, be it physical, mental, or of the spirit, the only way to obtain it and develop it is through pain.

Pain is the doorway we must walk through daily to become the men we can become. It’s in pain that we break down the muscle, it’s in pain that we break the spirit.


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The Daily Man-Up

June 26, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

To start, lobsters and humans have similar nervous systems and live in a dominance hierarchy. But what do lobsters have to do with standing up straight? Well, humans and lobsters share the chemical serotonin, which governs posture. When a lobster is defeated in a fight, its posture drops, it faces the ground and appears weak to others. The same thing happens to humans, and with each defeat, serotonin levels drop and so does our posture.

If a person slouches, they present themselves as defeated. However, if a person stands up straight, it means they may have taken a hit but are not defeated.

It means that you, both physically and mentally, are able and willing to move forward in life to the next challenge. It also signals to other people that you are able to handle whatever life throws your way while you pursue your rightful destiny.

Life is not easy. There will be pain and suffering. But do not let chaos bring you down. Accept the fact that this journey will not be smooth and that no matter what happens, you will take responsibility for your life and do what you can to make it better. And when negative situations occur in life that you cannot control, you will still stand up straight and not let it bring you down.

12 Rules For Life – Jordan Peterson

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