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We’ve all been there. You meet someone new and they seem amazing. They’re attractive, charming, and have big dreams and ambitions. You start to imagine a future together, picturing all the incredible things you could accomplish as a couple. There’s just one problem: right now, they’re kind of a mess.
Look, I get it. As guys, we can be dense as hell when it comes to picking up on flirting signals from women. Maybe it’s because we’re so used to being the pursuers, or maybe it’s because our minds are clouded with constant thoughts of sex, but for whatever reason, a girl can be throwing herself at us and we’ll be like “Huh, I think she’s just being friendly.” Well, it’s time to pull our heads out of our asses and wise up.
Hey there! Tired of those same old boring openers on dating apps? I feel you. “Hey” and “How are you doing?” are about as exciting as watching paint dry. If you want to stand out from the sea of generic messages and actually catch your match’s interest, you gotta step up your game.
Because it was the easiest thing for me to do.
He was not abusive. He didn’t cheat on me. He was loving and supportive and communicative and trusting our entire relationship. Probably one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever dated.
Unfortunately, he lost his job and became depressed and miserable to be around and I was no longer attracted to him. Meanwhile, I got a new, high pressure job after being miserable at my old one for five years and was dreading dealing with his issues. I wanted a new start. A really fun and attractive guy I’ve had a long-standing crush on showed interest in me and I went for it.
Money can buy a lot of things: cars, houses, yachts, a better education, the latest gadgets, and even an island or two if you’re into that sort of thing. But there’s one thing it can’t buy: genuine human connection. Yet, many men fall into the trap of using their wealth to attract women. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t end well. Here’s what really happens when you use money to attract women and why it’s a terrible idea.
Last night a girl (18F) invited me (18M) over to her dorm. We had been messaging each other on instagram and then she said “…can we hang out soon. You never wanna hang out with me”. I told her about saying she was gonna show me her room. She then responds, “Come right now. My roomies are gone”.
So eventually I just head over and get there like at 3:30 AM. Once I get there she is just laying down, and I sit in her desk chair and we just talk and listen to music. Eventually I leave, super confused. Not really sure what her intentions were. Like I don’t know if she wanted to make a move on me or for me to sleep over. She is super cool and I enjoy talking to her, but she does flirt with me a lot and I feel like she gives me mixed signals.
My experiences with women have been terrible. No matter how much effort I put into putting myself out and listening to people’s advice, I’m always ending in the same outcome. Rejection. Rejection. Rejection. I’m pretty sure it’ll almost be 10 rejections in a row.
I just can’t understand why women don’t like me. I talk to them with the intention of getting to know them and be friendly and then I’ll show romantic interest. And as soon as I do, I’m rejected.
And I’m finding it really hard to believe height and race don’t matter. People will tell me “just go outside and you’ll see short/brown people in relationships” – but just cause you see it happen sometimes doesn’t mean it’s not insanely difficult.
My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. I love my boyfriend, but he lacks social awareness and doesn’t have good manners. For example, when we went out to dinner the other night, he was talking/laughing extremely loudly, burping and farting. When we go to the movies, he talks regularly rather than whispering and makes commentary about the movie, which annoys the other people in the theatre. Also, whenever we walk past a group of people, he tries to be funny and says stupid things. For example, the other day, we were walking past a group of guys and my boyfriend was like “i need to fart” super loudly. Mind you, he’s 27.
I don’t know if i’m being overly sensitive or if his behaviour is childish and unacceptable. How can i handle this situation?
There’s nothing wrong with a person being concerned about your financial stability. A long-term partnership means depending on each other through the ups and downs, and being financially reliable does help with that to a degree.
The difference between a gold digger and someone who values your role as a provider is that the gold digger would deride and perhaps leave you if you lost your ability to provide for them financially.
A good person can appreciate your financial resources, but a gold digger appreciates only that, and will not see the relationship as worthwhile if you’re not well off.
Part of this probably luck, but certainly not all of it. I was extremely intentional in dating. From around 18 I knew I was dating to find someone I would marry. I never stayed in a relationship for fun or to not be alone. And I had the very realistic understanding that Love does not conquer all. When I realized something between a GF & I that I felt would create a compatibility issue, would be likely to be a point of contention in the future, I moved on.
