Advice Column

My boyfriend of 7 months constantly surprises me with how cheap he is, but I keep brushing it off, thinking I might be overreacting. Early on, he offered to pay for dinner a few times, but it felt forced, like he didn’t really want to. When I let him pay once, he wouldn’t stop talking about how expensive it was, which was irritating.

He’s obsessed with prices. No matter what we’re talking about—sports, hobbies, or food—he somehow brings up how expensive everything is. For example, when I mentioned joining a gym, he ranted about how gyms and healthy eating were a waste of money.

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This has been going on for a few years and has gotten more blatant overtime. It makes me question our friendship a little. I sorta understand, because he is focusing his life 100% on his career and his career field is something that I’m also interested in.

But at the same time I feel a bit exploited/used. He only asks me for business advice. At this point I feel like I should just withhold information.

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Hi, I’ve been dating my partner, let’s call them M for now for a little over a year. However early on in the relationship M cheated on me once and immediately came to me and told me out of guilt. I thought their apology was sweet and very real so I decided to give them another chance despite always saying I’d never give a cheater a second chance.

Well long story short, it’s been 11 months since they cheated on me and I still can’t find it in my heart to trust them the same way I did before. And I don’t know if I ever will.

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I feel like a prisoner in my own mind. Every other day I’m dying of a new disease and I just can’t take it anymore. Panic attack after panic attack, constantly researching symptoms and self diagnosing.

When will it ever end? Some days I just feel like giving up, my anxiety is destroying me slowly.

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I consider myself quite ugly, I’d say I’m a -40/10, I’m 25 and never had a girlfriend, no girl has ever been interested in me, but whenever we go out my friends get girls swarming all over them.

Or should I just give up dating altogether?

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“You always need to be right”

I’ve heard this sentence directed at me from countless different people. It’s true, I do like to win an argument and be correct. However, I don’t really see how that’s such a negative thing. I think through the things I say and believe them to be right. I’m not going to stop believing them simply because you don’t. Think of a better argument than saying I only win because I want to win.

In the end I don’t want to be right, I want to know the right answer. I know I’m dumb and don’t have all the answers but that fact doesn’t win you the argument.

Anybody else in here considered a know-it-all or thick-skulled for needing to win arguments, when in reality you genuinely believe in your side and are open to be proven wrong?

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A couple of years ago, I met my best friend, a straight man (27), while he was in a long-distance relationship. I’m a straight woman (26), and we became instant best friends, spending a lot of time together. Nothing ever crossed the line—we’ve never kissed or been overly touchy—but I developed strong feelings for him a few months after we met. While our friends noticed the chemistry and warned him to be less flirty, he never pulled back. Now, I’m at his wedding weekend.

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I’m considering ending my marriage and need advice. My husband (42M) and I (38F) have been married a few years and have a baby daughter, but I’m deeply unhappy.

When we were newly married, one of my best friends passed away, leaving her 16-year-old son, Jacob, with no family nearby. I felt strongly about taking him in, but my husband objected, citing loss of privacy, financial stress, and not wanting the responsibility. Despite his objections, I ultimately made it a dealbreaker, and we became Jacob’s guardians. My husband reluctantly agreed but held resentment against me for years, even blaming our struggles on this decision.

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I (F30) had to protect my husband’s (M31) niece from a pitbull attack while he ran off. I’ve been ignoring him since, and I don’t know if I can forgive him.

We were in the backyard with his niece (5F) and nephew (a baby in a bassinet) when a pitbull attacked. It latched onto his niece, and I managed to kick it hard enough to dislodge its jaw. In the chaos, I yelled at my husband to grab the bear spray inside the house. Instead, he ran out the gate, shutting it behind him, leaving me alone with the dog, the niece, and the baby.

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I’m 33m, and literally my entire life I’ve been mistaken for a gay man on initial impressions. All my friends I have now thought it, my former best friend of 25 years, and even my own brother told me–while drunk–that if I was gay he’d fully support me. Its sort of pissing me off, tbh.

People think I am gay because I am well dressed, attractive, lean, don’t watch sports, have a light voice, and very open with mental health/emotional struggles. And when I see something cute like a dog i’ll say “aww!” because its fucking cute, not because I like dick. I developed this persona because my brother and father gave off extremely toxic masculine vibes growing up, and held everything in so they can have a rage induced breakdown later. I intentionally became the opposite because anything masculine, to me as a kid, seemed awful and fake. I also noticed it made people more comfortable when I acted similar to my mother, so I leaned into that a bit heavily without realizing how it would effect my dating life growing up.

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