Category: Advice Column

My husband and I are at our wits’ end with our son’s obsession over his high school girlfriend — they broke up in 2011. They dated for two years, but when he went away to college, she cheated, ended things, and soon after married the other man.

Our son was devastated. We supported him then, thinking he’d eventually move on. Instead, fourteen years later, he’s still stuck. He checks her social media, knows every detail of her life, and brings her up nearly every time we see him. He’s had a few girlfriends since, but even during those relationships, he still talks about how wronged he was.

My husband earns about 700K a year, and I earn around 80K. I contribute 1,000 a month to our joint account, while he contributes 6,000 and pays for most extras like trips and going out.

He feels it’s unfair that he covers 90% of our expenses and says my cooking, organizing, and managing house errands don’t make up for the income gap. We don’t have kids, and he often asks what I’m bringing to the table since he pays for almost everything.

Pretty simple. We’ve been dating for over eleven years and over the past few years I have brought up my desire to get engaged and married. We have a good relationship, not perfect, but he is someone I have known I’ve wanted to marry for a long time.

Each time I have brought it up, he says it doesn’t make a difference if we’re married, he’s committed to me, doesn’t feel we need to rush to get married, and says he understands where I’m coming from but he’s just indifferent to it at this time.

Eat sleep go to work, repeat. Where’s the adventure? Where’s the romance ? Seems like we are all slaving away to the rat race and have no time for passion projects. The monotony of routine is killing me

My girlfriend recently cheated at a party, but I didn’t feel angry or want to break up. That reaction confused my closest friends, who think I’m making a big mistake by staying.

For context, I’m introverted and have always preferred a small circle, coding, and anime over big social expectations. I’ve never dreamed of marriage or kids, and I believe a relationship is worthwhile as long as it makes you happy. I would never cheat, but I also don’t feel the deep sense of betrayal others describe.

I’ve been with my husband for 3 years, married for 2. He has a female friend who jumps into his arms when she sees him, which has always made me a little uncomfortable. I talked to him about it once, but since it wasn’t a huge issue, I let it go.

We hang out with her family sometimes, and she lives out of town, so we don’t see her often. This past weekend she was visiting. When she arrived, she did the jump-into-his-arms thing, which I expected.

Then she sat on his lap. She looked at me and asked, “This is ok, right?” It really wasn’t, but with everyone around I didn’t want to seem jealous, so I shrugged it off. She asked again a few minutes later. And again. Later she told me they’re like “brother and sister” and mentioned his ex-wife didn’t like it, calling her a bitch.