Advice Column

He was my coworker. I know him at work for years. It is unlikely he take money and run away. He ask me a loan to scale up his business, promised to pay 15% annually.

He said there is legit loan paperwork. His work is in manufactures industry, maybe B2B. He said he his business don’t depend on number of customer available.

I don’t know. I am a salary man. I know nothing about business and investment. I haven’t ask him into the detail yet. I know nothing about this type of business.

He seem confident, but I feel the 15% is so unlikely that will come with (hidden) risk. Maybe my friend is also a victim of another scam, or he just overconfident.

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I’ve been dating for two years, but only a handful of guys, and I’ve taken breaks in between. I’ve noticed a pattern: I’m drawn to emotionally unavailable men, addicted to the highs and lows—the waiting for a text, the rush when it comes, and the anxiety when they go cold. I try to prove my worth to them, but when it doesn’t work out, my self-esteem crashes. I always let them back into my life, too.

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I’m a 32-year-old guy, and lately I’ve become almost paralyzed by the fear of coming across as creepy to women. I wasn’t always like this, but over the last few years, I’ve read so many stories online about women dealing with unwanted attention, and I’ve realized how easy it is for a well-meaning gesture or conversation to be misinterpreted.

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I’ve been seeing this woman for a couple of months now, and honestly, I’m starting to fall for her. When it’s good, it’s amazing. We click, we laugh, the chemistry is real. But I can’t shake the feeling that she’s keeping me at arm’s length, and I keep finding myself second-guessing everything.

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My friend just found out his wife has been cheating on him. To make matters worse, this isn’t the first time she’s crossed a line—she’s been emotionally checked out for years, hasn’t worked a day since they got married, and doesn’t lift a finger around the house. She’s shameless about the affair, and somehow still finds ways to make him feel like the problem.

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Does anyone else feel totally demoralized when scrolling through Reddit or FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) forums and seeing 30-year-olds with $500k+ net worths? It’s like everywhere I look, someone my age (or younger!) is either a high-earning software engineer or a genius investor who bought Amazon at $3 and has been maxing out every retirement account since birth. Meanwhile, I’m here just trying to make sure I don’t accidentally pay my electric bill late again.

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I 24F have been with my bf 25m for 4 years straight , we have been through hell and back together, lived in multiple places together and have gotten really close with each others parents.

He recently bought a house back in July and as a result I’ve been working 13 hour shifts as a surgical assistant while he works at a computer all day. Due to me working long hours on my feet I’ve been too tired to have sex on the weekdays and now he is blaming his porn addiction on me.

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My son is five. A couple of days ago, we were out shopping when we ran into one of my wife’s old high school friends. They started catching up, and at one point, my wife mentioned that we had a son. Her friend asked what his name was, and there was a pause—my wife hesitated. So I answered for her.

That’s when her friend gave us a strange look and said, “You mean like your ex-boyfriend?”

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I need marriage advice. My husband and I have been together for five years. We have a toddler and another baby on the way.

There’s a woman he used to date before me. Early in our relationship, I noticed he had searched for her on Instagram. A few years later, she called him at night, and he told me he shut it down, saying he was happily taken.

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