Dating

Basically, I’m 34M that still lives with his parents. I am full time employed as a software tester, own my own car and I make sure to help around the house (organizing my room without being told, taking out trash, regularly doing dishes and helping out carrying heavy stuff and groceries and more. I can also do the laundry and cook a few basic stuff when I want to).

Also, there was a short period of time where I did rent out and live on my own (work place that was far at another city), but that job opportunity didn’t work out and so I came back home and lately found a new job that is going ok so far.

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Whenever I see an attractive girl and think to myself, hey, why not try and approach her, I literally can’t think of any scenario in which she might be interested in me. It’s not just the potential rejection, I just can’t see myself as someone who is sexually or romantically desired by someone else. I feel like I am already like a sweet old man, someone who may be pleasant to be around, but is completely non-sexual to pretty much anybody, safe equally old loved ones.

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I’ve been single all my life. Never had a girlfriend. Never received romantic attention or love from a woman.

For anyone wondering, I am not disfigured or disabled in anyway. I take care of my looks and hygiene. I have a good job, a small but tightly knit group of friends. I have hobbies and interests. I exercise and am in decent shape for my age.

I was single throughout college and university and my 20’s. But I always maintained a positive attitude and an optimistic outlook on life, sincerely believing that things will get better in life and that I will find someone.

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I consider myself quite ugly, I’d say I’m a -40/10, I’m 25 and never had a girlfriend, no girl has ever been interested in me, but whenever we go out my friends get girls swarming all over them. Or should I just give up dating altogether?

 

First off, I want to acknowledge the courage it takes to open up about feeling like you’re at rock bottom. You’re dealing with a tough mix of self-esteem issues and dating frustrations, but I’m here to throw you a lifeline, not a pity party. Because here’s the thing: your current situation isn’t a life sentence, and your mindset isn’t fixed. You’ve got the power to change the game, and I’m going to show you how.

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I will turn 32 in around 6 weeks time and I have recently come to realise that I have never been on a date with a girl. I have asked girls out in the past but I have been rejected. The last time I asked was almost 12 years ago. I took the rejection to heart and I decided I was better off not asking in future.

Recently, however, I have realised that most acquaintances (I have very few friends) on social media (mainly Facebook) are either in long-term relationships or married. It has made me worry that life is passing me by somewhat and that I should probably look into finding someone special.

I am an extreme introvert and I have experienced severe depression for a number of years due to trauma during my 20’s. In the last few years, however, I have worked hard to get my life back on track. I returned to university and graduated with first-class honours in modern history in September 2023. Since then I’ve been working part-time whilst spending most of my free time researching in my university library for a suitable subject for my master’s degree, which I hope to begin this September. As it will be a master’s by research, I am attempting to find a suitable avenue for investigation. Since I’m intending to focus on Portuguese colonialism in Africa, I’m also attempting to learn Portuguese. In other words, I’m keeping myself quite busy.

Recently, however, I have had creeping thoughts about relationships. I’m worried that due to my age and lack of experience, many potential partners may be put off. I’ve read articles concerning ‘red flags’ and the fact I’ve never dated anyone and have no friends may be construed as an issue for many. I have many interests and a few hobbies, but my lack of social skills could hold me back.

I’m therefore asking whether girls may be put off by this?

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We’ve been together for 5 years. She’s gorgeous, loves me, I love her more than everything. Yesterday I found out that she is going out with a dude that tried to kiss her few months before we started dating.

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Dude is her “friend” that tried to kiss her before we started dating. No problem here. When she rejected him, he went back on dating others. Again, no problem.

Few weeks ago he broke up with his partner and immediately followed and DMed my girlfriend.

They chatted at nights, while she was in the bathroom, sometimes almost for hours. And every time she erased all of the chats with him.

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She said that it’s “friendly meet up” to her friends. She also asked them to lie to me, in case I am curious about where my girlfriend is.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. Any advice? Do I confront her right now? Do I confront while they are together? Why some men are such dicks? Why would they try to hit on an obviously taken girlfriend?

She’s 10/10 and I want to be with her till the rest of my life but I cannot emotionally afford to be in an unfaithful relationship. Help me please, it’s been eating me out from the inside.