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You are responsible for your problems. You are not at fault for (some of) your problems, but you are responsible for all of them.
When you decide to claim responsibility for everything that you don’t like in your life—the annoying coworker, your inability to focus, how busy you are—you give yourself the power to do something about it. I don’t care that you didn’t create these issues. Stop playing the victim card, and do something about it.
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We live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. This causes us stress, anxiety, and conditions of worth. As someone who used to often fall victim to the toxic comparison culture of today’s world, it took me a long time to overcome this flaw and to develop a healthier approach. Here are some things that have helped me when it comes to comparing myself with others:
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Look around you. What do you see?
Do you see great men conquering their fears and living a life they enjoy – a life that they chose? Or are they living a life that was chosen for them?
More importantly, are you living a life that you consciously decided on – one that you hand picked based on your personal preferences and desires? Unfortunately for most men in today’s world, the answer is a loud and resounding no. The average man has been following the path of least resistance since he was born.
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Today, our lives are far too easy.
We live in comfortable climate-controlled boxes where things like boredom and discomfort are the exception, not the rule.
We can order food, find easy sex, watch endless streams of dopamine-producing content all with the click of a button.
And it’s slowly killing us.
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I keep hearing about “adulting” and how hard it is. Well, it is hard and doesn’t get easier.
At almost 60, I still get scared, overwhelmed and don’t know what to do sometimes. I still have sleepless nights and wonder what the hell I’m going to do about some situations.
The difference is I can use my experience in prior situations to assess the current one. Or, even better, I have a circle of family/friends/professionals that I can go to for advice. Ones that I trust, not the one on the next barstool or such.
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When I was 10, I discovered The Three Musketeers: a swashbuckling tale about four inseparable friends living by the motto “all for one, one for all.” The book became an instant favorite – but not because of the wine, women, song or adventure.
What I actually enjoyed most was the camaraderie between the main characters. My family had just moved and I was really lonely; the idea of having loyal friends inspired me. I read the book and fantasized about having people to share my own adventures with.
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If you’re living your life in such a way that you hope to prove yourself, then you’re cut off from your greater inner resources. It doesn’t matter whether you’re trying to prove yourself to one person, many people, or just yourself.
Being stuck with the need to prove is a slavery mindset. You’re not truly free. You’re trying to win some kind of approval (aPROVal, see that there?) so that you can finally go live your life the way you’d otherwise prefer to.
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Meet Daryl Davis.
Daryl is a seasoned black American musician who’s played with some of the best. He also hangs out with KKK members.
For decades, he’s set out to change the minds of those who hate him most.
Instead of confronting them with hateful words, he sits down with them. Hears their story. Even laughs with them.
By being a good friend, Daryl shows Klan members just how wrong they are about the race they claim to despise. And he’s been responsible for over 200 members leaving the group and giving up their racist ways.
We should all try to be more like Daryl.
“Say goodnight to the sun, gents. It’s gonna be a long, wet, cold, nasty night.” Our instructors in SEAL training would tell us that as the sun went down.
They were right.
They told us that to make us quit.
But, if you stayed—if you didn’t quit—in the morning, you would see the sun come up again.
And that was the lesson the instructors were teaching.
But you had to learn it on your own. And you would always remember:
That there will be long, cold, wet, nasty nights.
But the sun will come up.
And everything will be okay.
That is life, too.
And it’s dark right now.
But hang in there.
The sun will come up…
– Jocko Willink
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We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking — we take it personally — then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.