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March 26, 2020 Leave a Comment

courage to be yourself

“The ability to speak your truth is the bulwark against hell” – Prof Jordan Peterson

Reflecting on my journey, I’ve come to realize that one of the greatest disservices any man can do to himself (and his peers) is to speak un-truth.

I’m not talking about tiny white lies, like saying you love that weird dish your mom makes and is really proud of, even though you aren’t a big fan…

I’m talking about compromising your own core values in order to avoid confrontation.

We’re a society of people-pleasers…

Think of all the times you’ve wanted to speak your truth…

To say what you truly think, and to stand up for what you truly value…

As that alarming feeling of ‘this is not right’ arises inside you – what do you do?

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March 24, 2020 Leave a Comment

man of your word

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Are you doing what you said you’d be doing while staying at home?

If not, then do two very important things:

First – Go easy on yourself. Your self-punishment is only making it worse. Relax, breathe, and wipe the slate clean. Start fresh, today.

Second – Focus on cultivating the link between your word and your action.

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The Daily Man-Up: How Pain Can Help You Achieve The Impossible

March 23, 2020 Leave a Comment

We’ve all heard the phrase, “No pain – no gain.” Consciously, you might agree with the idea; it seems obvious that succeeding is often hard, unpleasant work.

Subconsciously, however, humans are terrified of all pain: physical; emotional; psychological. Tony Robbins said it best: most of what we do revolves around avoiding pain and seeking pleasure.

But what if you could use pain to your advantage? What if pain can help you achieve the impossible?

The Daily Man-Up: If You Live With A Fear That You’re Wasting Your Life

March 20, 2020 Leave a Comment

wasting your life

Or perhaps if you feel you HAVE been wasting your life up until this moment, I’d like to write a quick thing for you here:

Fulfillment – true fulfillment – is still a possibility for you even now.

I appreciate that this might be hard to believe, because from a certain perspective it’s like “well I’ve wasted all this time doing nothing, and I’m older than I’ve ever been, and I have less time now in my life than ever before… so whatever I’m capable of achieving now is only a small version of what I could have otherwise achieved if I had all my shit together.”

The Daily Man-Up: The Story Of The Chinese Farmer

March 18, 2020 Leave a Comment

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Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer said, “Maybe.” The next day the horse came back bringing seven wild horses with it, and in the evening everybody came back and said, “Oh, isn’t that lucky. What a great turn of events. You now have eight horses!” The farmer again said, “Maybe.”

The Daily Man-Up: Get Enough Sleep

March 16, 2020 Leave a Comment

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Not getting enough sleep impacts your ability to focus. It makes it harder to stay on task and come up with new ideas. It also affects your ability to make decisions. Like, you know when there’s something that you need to do, but you keep deciding to watch Netflix instead? Getting enough sleep can help with that.

If you get enough sleep, your work will be better, your focus will be better, and you’ll have more willpower. All of this stuff leads to better self-discipline.

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March 4, 2020 Leave a Comment

Genuinely caring about somebody a lot, does not guarantee they care about you equally (or at all) in return. Some people will never care about you regardless of what you do or say. So don’t assume somebody appreciates you just because you do nice things for them.

This is something that I unfortunately didn’t learn until well into adulthood – It may sound obvious when its spelled out, but when you’re in the actual situation its not always so clear. Most of my life I thought if I really cared about somebody a lot, then they must care about me to some degree in return. It always felt like that connection was so strong it had to be mutual, even if the obvious signs showed otherwise. Despite certain people treating me like dirt and rarely reciprocating, I would do everything I could to make them happy. I would go out of my way to help them, say & do nice things for them, encourage them, etc..with the assumption they’d eventually show their appreciation for me being in their lives. I’d think “how could they not care about me when I make it so obvious how much I care about them? If I just keep trying they’ll come around”. This was especially true for people who maybe showed signs they cared at some point in the past, but weren’t anymore.

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February 26, 2020 Leave a Comment

cellphone addiction

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I myself am a mobile addict. Even though I use screen timer functions to restrict my limit of use but somehow I still tackle and get my hand on phone and end up wasting my time on social media apps.

What I did to tackle this urge of picking up the mobile is, I gathered all my social media apps and all those apps that I instantly accessed subconsciously as soon as I unlocked the phone, took them and put them together in a folder and named it “Need or Escape?”.

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February 25, 2020 Leave a Comment

self-love

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Everything in our culture screams that we need to be in love with another person in order to be happy. Movies, TV and books show us that we only feel truly alive when we’re in love with another person – that’s when we can sing in the shower and shout in the streets.

But this is a lie.

The only way to live life with no regrets is to live, first and foremost, a life of self-love.

The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself. Until you fall in love with yourself, no other love will ever satisfy you.

You’ll suffer for a lifetime, putting your heart at the mercy of others. No wonder you got hurt.

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February 21, 2020 Leave a Comment

how to stay motivated

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Think back to the last time you were motivated to do something.

It doesn’t matter what you were motivated for. It could have been to take the trash out. The point is to recall the last time you were putting something off, over and over again. Always promising yourself you’d get to it, just later.

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