Life Advice

How to Actually Change Your Life—Instead of Just Reading About It All of the Time

March 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

I’m talking about the problem of knowing endless information about how to change your life, but not knowing how to implement that information, meaning you never get to actually live that changed life.

This problem strikes in many forms. For lots of people, this endless search for a solution is a form of procrastination. It feels good—productive, almost—to spend time reading articles like the ones on my blog. When you read about how to get more done in a day, you feel better about yourself because you know now that you could get more done in a day, even if you never do.

7 Most Common Regrets of the Dying

March 12, 2021 Leave a Comment

common regrets of the dying

The regrets of the dying are priceless because they help us hold a mirror up to ourselves, before it is too late. After all, death is something that we will all have to deal with sooner or later. It will come regardless of who we are, what we do, or what kind of impact we have had on the world. It has no respect for worldly titles or possessions and it can come at any time – when we are lying in bed, sitting by a river, or flying on a private jet.

How to Make Peace with Your Past

March 11, 2021 Leave a Comment

The only way to make peace with your past is to look it straight in the eye. For the majority of us, when we look back the past seems tinged with negativity. For every joyful moment there are many more regrets. For every memory of laughter there is a nagging sense of fear or anxiety.

We generally put this down as the ‘human condition’ and do our best to get on as well as we can. The unresolved past is always there, keeping us looking our shoulder, but apart from a vague sense that we shouldn’t go there, we ignore it. By burying it this way we have intermittent feelings that we have conquered it.

The Daily Man-Up: There’s No Time Like The Present

March 9, 2021 Leave a Comment

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There’s no time like the present. Stop waiting for whatever it is that you think you’re waiting for, and make a change today.

Let this be the moment that you decide to act. Let it be the moment that you choose to finally change your life. It’s time to shift from "I’m going to" to "I am."

Stop waiting for whatever it is that you think you’re waiting for because it isn’t coming. There’s no big moment that changes your life. Stop waiting for a sign. If you want a sign, this is it. If you needed a wakeup call, this is it.

The Daily Man-Up

March 8, 2021 Leave a Comment

stop comparing yourself

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Can we agree that it’s time for you to stop comparing yourself to other people? Or comparing your life to other people’s lives?

Because it is time to stop. Comparing yourself to other people doesn’t serve you in anyway. It doesn’t improve anything. If you feel inspired by someone else’s life, and you want to try something similar to what they did, that might be one thing. But it’s another thing entirely if you’re feeling bad about yourself because you think that your situation is supposed to be more like someone else’s situation.

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The Daily Man-Up

March 5, 2021 Leave a Comment

man of your word

The Self-Integrity is the Link between your Word and your Action

Every time you say you’re going to do something, and you do it, you strengthen your relationship with yourself. You learn to trust yourself more. You sense your power, your ablity to accomplish things.

Everytime you say you’ll do something and then don’t, the opposite happens. You feel out of control, disappointed in yourself, hopeless.

Your ability to become stronger, more clear, more accomplished is directly linked to the extent that you follow through on your word. This is the nature of integrity. Integrity means you can hold responsibility, that you can be counted on, depended on. That you can be trusted.

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The Daily Man-Up: Either You Challenge Yourself Or Life Will Do It For You

February 26, 2021 Leave a Comment

life is hard

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Life is hard. I don’t think anyone’s going to argue against that. There will always be challenges.

You have two options:

You choose you challenges. You push yourself. You go after what you want. You make it happen. It will be hard work, but you get to chose where you go and become the active driver of your life.
You do nothing and wait until life throws something at you. Then you’re on defense. You’re unprepared and just doing your best to stay afloat. You’re unprepared and unpracticed because you’ve spent all of your time dicking around.

The choice is yours.

The Daily Man-Up: You Are Not Your Thoughts. You Are Your Actions.

February 22, 2021 Leave a Comment

you are not your thoughts you are your action

Self critical thoughts. Guilty thoughts. Thoughts about what I should have done. Fearful thoughts about what others think.

How dark are the thoughts that follow you around each day? Mine get pretty dark.

This is haunting if we let ourselves identify with them. We listen to the fears of inadequacy just because they won’t shut up. We believe we really are failures because it’s all we can think about – no matter how much self improvement we read. If it was possible for us to be fixed then why do we still feel so broken?

The Daily Man-Up: You Get To Decide Who You Are

February 19, 2021 Leave a Comment

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I’m not only saying “Just do it!”, instead I’m saying “just become it”.

I don’t buy junk food to bring home. I don’t do junk food. The idea of buying it repulses me, even though I’d get pleasure from eating it. Why? I thought about it, long and hard. About the kind of life I’d have if I continued to eat it, and I decided the person who eats junk food, that version of myself, that’s not me. That’s not who I want to be. I want to be healthy, and happy instead.

The Daily Man-Up: You’ll Only Develop Self Discipline If You Have A Strong Enough Why

February 17, 2021 Leave a Comment

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If you want to have self discipline to do the things you know you need to do, then you need to know your “why”.

Your “why” is what drives you and stops you from getting lazy and giving in to temptation.

For example, if you weigh 500lbs and you want to lose all that extra weight, you will be presented with temptations to over eat, eat unhealthy foods, etc.

In those moments of temptation where you want to binge on 3 big Macs and 2 Oreo mcflurries, the only thing that can get you to resist the desire to over eat is to have your “why” deeply ingrained in your mind.

Your why in this situation is your ideal body. What feelings does having that ideal body evoke inside you?