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July 31, 2020 Leave a Comment

If You Want To Make Progress, You Need To Stop Avoiding The Unpleasant Moments

Somewhere along the line, we seem to have gained this idea that we need to enjoy every single second of our lives—that for some reason, we are no longer okay with putting in a few minutes of effort to get something great out of it. We’ve stopped putting work into anything that we don’t enjoy at that moment.

Get rid of that mindset. It’s holding you back more than pretty much anything else in your life. Getting things done is going to mean putting in effort. I know you don’t want to, and I do not care. The world does not care. The world isn’t going to coddle your ass because you just want to sit there on the internet.

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July 28, 2020 Leave a Comment

forgiveness

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“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” — Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness does not erase the past, but looks upon it with compassion.

To withhold forgiveness keeps alive emotions of hurt, anger and blame which discolour your perception of life.

To forgive, avoid ruminating on thoughts of being wronged. Rather, trust the power of forgiveness to heal the hurt and pain.

By holding on to pain and resentment, you suffer because the sorrow is intensified to keep it alive.

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July 27, 2020 Leave a Comment

a man protects his family

The essence of protection is the “need to establish and defend boundaries.” Boundaries create a sense of identity and trust. Should that line be crossed, men will spring into action. Men are called on to guard the perimeter between danger and safety, protecting tribe and family from predators, human enemies, and natural disasters.

A man adds to his individual honor by developing and demonstrating prowess in the protector role. At the same time, he bolsters his community’s reputation for strength as well, as the tribe’s overall reputation serves as a form of protection in and of itself — functioning as a deterrent to attack.

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July 24, 2020 Leave a Comment

living in the past

Let go of the past. Living in the past isn’t living at all. It’s time consuming, painful and a little crazy. Don’t be preoccupied with old errors or things you’ve lost—all of that’s behind you. The past is not a thing. It’s an illusion, a concept we all share in because it helps us make order in the world around us, but it’s not real.

What’s past is gone. There is only the present, and that’s all you’ll ever have. Live in the now and be full of life. Maybe the present is terrible. Maybe you once had the “perfect” girl and a great job, and now you’ve lost both.

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July 23, 2020 Leave a Comment

The four agreements mistake

“How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make. But not us. We have a powerful memory. We make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and we punish ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don’t need to do it again. But every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again. If we have a wife or husband he or she also reminds us of the mistake, so we can judge ourselves again, punish ourselves again, and find ourselves guilty again. Is this fair?”

― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

The Daily Man-Up: If You’re Worried About What To Do With Your Life

July 22, 2020 Leave a Comment

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As a person who has spent YEARS worried, stressed and anxious about “what do I do with my life?” and about what choices I should or should not make, allow me to suggest a shift or two in your perspective.

There are no dead-ends in life.

There’s a very simple truth to remember here, which is that you don’t really ever “end up” anywhere. For example we’re afraid that if we make the wrong career decision, we’ll “end up” at some sort of cul de sac where we’re out of options, out of opportunity, out of avenues for growth, out of resources. Or perhaps if we choose the wrong college major, we might have wasted too much time only to find out that it was the wrong choice.

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July 20, 2020 Leave a Comment

take imperfect action

You’re overthinking it. No matter what it is, you’ve already thought about it too much.

I can’t tell you why you’re overthinking it, but I can tell you how to stop.

Take imperfect action. Imperfect action is infinitely more valuable than no action. Get started. Get it out there. You know enough to get started. You do not need to do any more research or any more thinking.

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July 15, 2020 Leave a Comment

Positively reframe situations

Positively reframe situations. Instead of looking at the gym as a place of sweat and pain, look at it as a place for strengthening the body and mind.

Instead of looking at a job interview as a torturous exercise in awkward silences, humble bragging, and sycophantism, look at is as an opportunity to improve the way you project yourself, fortify mental resilience, and potentially enter a fulfilling career.

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July 14, 2020 Leave a Comment

life isn't easy

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Understand that life isn’t supposed to be easy…and it would be boring if it were. There’s a quote painted on the wall of my gym “nothing worth achieving was ever achieved without effort.” I used to roll my eyes, but now I realize how incredibly accurate it is.

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June 30, 2020 Leave a Comment

Designing your Life - MIT

Designing your Life – MIT OpenCourseware

Found this interesting course that was run through MIT and is now available online free of charge – Click here

Course Description

This course provides an exciting, eye-opening, and thoroughly useful inquiry into what it takes to live an extraordinary life, on your own terms. The instructors address what it takes to succeed, to be proud of your life, and to be happy in it. Participants tackle career satisfaction, money, body, vices, and relationship to themselves. They learn how to confront issues in their lives, how to live life, and how to learn from it.

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