Life Advice

The Daily Man-Up: Either You Challenge Yourself Or Life Will Do It For You

February 26, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Life is hard. I don’t think anyone’s going to argue against that. There will always be challenges.

You have two options:

You choose you challenges. You push yourself. You go after what you want. You make it happen. It will be hard work, but you get to chose where you go and become the active driver of your life.
You do nothing and wait until life throws something at you. Then you’re on defense. You’re unprepared and just doing your best to stay afloat. You’re unprepared and unpracticed because you’ve spent all of your time dicking around.

The choice is yours.

The Daily Man-Up: You Are Not Your Thoughts. You Are Your Actions.

February 22, 2021 Leave a Comment

you are not your thoughts you are your action

Self critical thoughts. Guilty thoughts. Thoughts about what I should have done. Fearful thoughts about what others think.

How dark are the thoughts that follow you around each day? Mine get pretty dark.

This is haunting if we let ourselves identify with them. We listen to the fears of inadequacy just because they won’t shut up. We believe we really are failures because it’s all we can think about – no matter how much self improvement we read. If it was possible for us to be fixed then why do we still feel so broken?

The Daily Man-Up: You Get To Decide Who You Are

February 19, 2021 Leave a Comment

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I’m not only saying “Just do it!”, instead I’m saying “just become it”.

I don’t buy junk food to bring home. I don’t do junk food. The idea of buying it repulses me, even though I’d get pleasure from eating it. Why? I thought about it, long and hard. About the kind of life I’d have if I continued to eat it, and I decided the person who eats junk food, that version of myself, that’s not me. That’s not who I want to be. I want to be healthy, and happy instead.

The Daily Man-Up: You’ll Only Develop Self Discipline If You Have A Strong Enough Why

February 17, 2021 Leave a Comment

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If you want to have self discipline to do the things you know you need to do, then you need to know your “why”.

Your “why” is what drives you and stops you from getting lazy and giving in to temptation.

For example, if you weigh 500lbs and you want to lose all that extra weight, you will be presented with temptations to over eat, eat unhealthy foods, etc.

In those moments of temptation where you want to binge on 3 big Macs and 2 Oreo mcflurries, the only thing that can get you to resist the desire to over eat is to have your “why” deeply ingrained in your mind.

Your why in this situation is your ideal body. What feelings does having that ideal body evoke inside you?

The Daily Man-Up: If You Live With A Fear That You’re Wasting Your Life

February 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Fulfillment – true fulfillment – is still a possibility for you even now.

I appreciate that this might be hard to believe, because from a certain perspective it’s like “well I’ve wasted all this time doing nothing, and I’m older than I’ve ever been, and I have less time now in my life than ever before… so whatever I’m capable of achieving now is only a small version of what I could have otherwise achieved if I had all my shit together.”

The Daily Man-Up

February 15, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Cleaning consistently is a game-changer

A month ago I finished A Monk’s Guide to a Clean House and Mind by Shoukei Matsumoto, and it has had a pretty sizable impact on my focus, productivity, and well-being.

Like many, I have had good weeks and bad weeks trying to better myself and instill new habits. Until I started cleaning regularly I didn’t realize that merely having a messy room, no matter whether I was in it or not, was affecting how I treated my habits, my relationships, and myself. For me, cleaning is now the foundation for all of my other habits.

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The Daily Man-Up: A Man Is The Protector Of His Family

February 11, 2021 Leave a Comment

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As a husband and father, you are the warrior who has been charged with the duty of pushing back against the evil that seeks to prey on your wife, daughters, and sons. If you don’t step up, who will?

The Daily Man-Up: I Must Go On!

February 5, 2021 Leave a Comment

david goggins I must go on

Your mind wants to grow so you have to feed it. Your mind doesn’t ask “what have you done for me lately?”, it asks “what have you done for me today?” You have to apply pressure to things in order to make them grow.

When you are in the hurt locker, you have to take great pleasure in the fact that no one wants to be where the fuck you are right now. Take great pleasure knowing that your mind is stronger than the conditions being put in front of you.

The Daily Man-Up: How Pain Can Help You Achieve The Impossible

January 28, 2021 Leave a Comment

We’ve all heard the phrase, “No pain – no gain.” Consciously, you might agree with the idea; it seems obvious that succeeding is often hard, unpleasant work.

Subconsciously, however, humans are terrified of all pain: physical; emotional; psychological. Tony Robbins said it best: most of what we do revolves around avoiding pain and seeking pleasure.

But what if you could use pain to your advantage? What if pain can help you achieve the impossible?