Life Advice

How The Power Of Forgiveness Will Set You Free

August 27, 2021 Leave a Comment

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” — Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness does not erase the past, but looks upon it with compassion.

To withhold forgiveness keeps alive emotions of hurt, anger and blame which discolour your perception of life.

To forgive, avoid ruminating on thoughts of being wronged. Rather, trust the power of forgiveness to heal the hurt and pain.

By holding on to pain and resentment, you suffer because the sorrow is intensified to keep it alive.

You Are Where You’re Suppose To Be Right Now

August 19, 2021 Leave a Comment

The Daily Man-Up

August 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

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You are responsible for your problems. You are not at fault for (some of) your problems, but you are responsible for all of them.

When you decide to claim responsibility for everything that you don’t like in your life—the annoying coworker, your inability to focus, how busy you are—you give yourself the power to do something about it. I don’t care that you didn’t create these issues. Stop playing the victim card, and do something about it.

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Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

August 10, 2021 Leave a Comment

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We live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. This causes us stress, anxiety, and conditions of worth. As someone who used to often fall victim to the toxic comparison culture of today’s world, it took me a long time to overcome this flaw and to develop a healthier approach. Here are some things that have helped me when it comes to comparing myself with others:

Are You Actually Living A Life You Chose?

August 6, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Look around you. What do you see?

Do you see great men conquering their fears and living a life they enjoy – a life that they chose? Or are they living a life that was chosen for them?

More importantly, are you living a life that you consciously decided on – one that you hand picked based on your personal preferences and desires? Unfortunately for most men in today’s world, the answer is a loud and resounding no. The average man has been following the path of least resistance since he was born.

Embrace Discomfort And Move Toward Adversity

July 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Today, our lives are far too easy.

We live in comfortable climate-controlled boxes where things like boredom and discomfort are the exception, not the rule.

We can order food, find easy sex, watch endless streams of dopamine-producing content all with the click of a button.

And it’s slowly killing us.

Life Advice From A 60-Year-Old Man

July 9, 2021 Leave a Comment

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I keep hearing about “adulting” and how hard it is. Well, it is hard and doesn’t get easier.

At almost 60, I still get scared, overwhelmed and don’t know what to do sometimes. I still have sleepless nights and wonder what the hell I’m going to do about some situations.

The difference is I can use my experience in prior situations to assess the current one. Or, even better, I have a circle of family/friends/professionals that I can go to for advice. Ones that I trust, not the one on the next barstool or such.

Why Having the Right Friends is Extremely Important

July 7, 2021 Leave a Comment

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When I was 10, I discovered The Three Musketeers: a swashbuckling tale about four inseparable friends living by the motto “all for one, one for all.” The book became an instant favorite – but not because of the wine, women, song or adventure.

What I actually enjoyed most was the camaraderie between the main characters. My family had just moved and I was really lonely; the idea of having loyal friends inspired me. I read the book and fantasized about having people to share my own adventures with.

Stop Trying To Prove Yourself To Everyone – Live Your Life For Yourself

July 2, 2021 Leave a Comment

If you’re living your life in such a way that you hope to prove yourself, then you’re cut off from your greater inner resources. It doesn’t matter whether you’re trying to prove yourself to one person, many people, or just yourself.

Being stuck with the need to prove is a slavery mindset. You’re not truly free. You’re trying to win some kind of approval (aPROVal, see that there?) so that you can finally go live your life the way you’d otherwise prefer to.

The Best Way to Change Someone’s Mind

July 1, 2021 Leave a Comment

Meet Daryl Davis.

Daryl is a seasoned black American musician who’s played with some of the best. He also hangs out with KKK members.

For decades, he’s set out to change the minds of those who hate him most.

Instead of confronting them with hateful words, he sits down with them. Hears their story. Even laughs with them.

By being a good friend, Daryl shows Klan members just how wrong they are about the race they claim to despise. And he’s been responsible for over 200 members leaving the group and giving up their racist ways.

We should all try to be more like Daryl.