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Every hard conversation you put off is a pebble in your shoe. Each day is a painful step that you tell yourself “Not yet, I can’t stop and deal with this right now. It’s too much trouble or pain to face this, I’ll get to it later.” How many pebbles are in your shoe now? How many times throughout your day do you wince as you feel the pebble and dread dealing with it? How heavy is that emotional burden?
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Life is hard. I don’t think anyone’s going to argue against that. There will always be challenges.
You have two options:
You choose you challenges. You push yourself. You go after what you want. You make it happen. It will be hard work, but you get to chose where you go and become the active driver of your life.
You do nothing and wait until life throws something at you. Then you’re on defense. You’re unprepared and just doing your best to stay afloat. You’re unprepared and unpracticed because you’ve spent all of your time dicking around.
The choice is yours.
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I turned 59 yesterday.
Life whizzes past faster than you can imagine.
Live in a subsidized senior apartment, 1 bedroom, balcony, I rent my parking space to another tenant, I have a bicycle and a scooter.
JFK was president when I was born. Seen a lot, didn’t do much of anything
Air Force for 30 years, now a night janitor at a government building, in a major US city.
Never married, never dated, almost had sex with a prostitute, but my self respect stopped me.
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We all want to be happy.
We all want to experience joy, love, and abundance on a daily basis.
We all want to live the best life possible.
But very few of us actually know how to achieve the goal of lifelong happiness.
We are always thinking once we get this done or accomplish that goal… then we’ll be happy.
This was me:
Once I graduate high school then get into college then I’ll be happy…
Once I graduate college then get a job I’ll be happy…
Once I get this promotion then I’ll be happy…
Once I make enough to retire then I’ll be happy…
Once I get a date then I’ll be happy…
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Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.
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Many of us are hard on ourselves. We feel guilty when we spend time on the “wrong” things, we berate ourselves when we don’t reach our goals, and we forget to be gentle with ourselves when we’re struggling.
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Most people will say things like…
And the list goes on.
But the simple truth is that none of these things necessarily “guarantee” they will have a hard life.
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It’s critically important to see the connection between things you do today and the big picture of where you’re going. You can’t let today just to feel like 24 hours. A few meals and a few things you do out of routine.
That isn’t what today is. The most grand things you will ever accomplish in your life happen one day at a time, in small pieces. The biggest things you’ve done so far in your life were not single heroic acts. Walking across a stage at graduation is not earning a degree, it’s all the hours of study and tests over years that came before. Cutting the ribbon on a bridge is not building a bridge, it’s all the months or years of dreaming and planning and work and construction and all the things that didn’t go as planned.
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I cannot emphasize this enough. Life is short. Relationships are valuable, especially those healthy ones that make you a better person. The older I get the more I prioritize my time to spend it with the people who I love. This means trips back home to my parent’s house, doing activities my friends want to do even if I am not super excited about it (an example would be shopping. I am a girl who hates to shop but loves my friends so I end up at malls a bit.), or even just staying in and having people over. I rarely say no when someone wants to hang out. Their happiness is my own, and I want to encourage them in their happiness.
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