Life Advice

Boys Act on Feelings Men Act on Vision

The most basic distinction between boys and grounded men is that boys act on feelings, men act on vision.

Boys are like a feather in the wind. They allow their emotional state to govern their actions and they decide whether or not to keep their commitments in the heat of the moment.

If they don’t feel like doing something then they don’t.

Boys will hit snooze on their alarm instead of waking up early and doing what needs to be done. They will show up late to meetings. They will procrastinate on their work. They will defer what they should do for what they want to do in the moment.

Men are different.

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Regret #1: I Wish I’d Lived a Life True to Myself Instead of the Life Others Wanted me to Live 

Not the life other people wanted for me.

Or the life portrayed by popular movies, TV shows, and social media.

Or the life of my parents’ unfulfilled dreams.

Not the life my friends told me I should live, believing they knew all the answers, and telling me I should dedicate my finite time to the goals they were blindly pursuing.

None of these lives are yours. None of them belong to you at all. You have to listen to that voice deep inside your head – the one that softly whispers, “There’s a better choice. Have the courage to walk in that direction…”

One of the biggest regrets of men is that they waste their lives pursuing things that are inauthentic and incongruent with their deepest desires.

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“Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever”.

Build character, when you give up you aren’t just giving up right now. You’re giving up for all situations that gets that tough in the future.

I used to see it as just another variation of pain is temporary but victory lasts forever, but now I see it’s portraying a completely different message to it. It’s about the two different mentalities you can have in life. You can either be a quitter or getter. The problem with being a quitter is that it becomes a habit. You will always start to quit when it gets hard to that point, and you wouldn’t able to push yourself any further. Meaning, you won’t be able to evolve as a person. When you quit, the exact same pain doesn’t ever go away. It remains there until the next time you have to face it. The exact same pain that’s temporary becomes permanent as long as you keep quitting. So the next time you think about quitting think about what you’re projecting to the universe.

– BrawlStarler

Stop considering whether people like you and start considering whether you like them

I used to always have that voice in the back of my head, do they like me? are they judging me? Always thinking that it held me back from being social.

You can control how you act. You can’t control whether or not people are going to like you. Some people might be really insecure and find reasons to dislike you for no reason. But even if you changed those things about yourself they would find some other reason to dislike you because you’re not the problem.

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