Life Advice

The Daily Man-Up: The Importance Of Remembering A Person’s Name

January 17, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

remembering names

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Franklin D. Roosevelt knew that one of the simplest, most obvious and most important ways of gaining good will was by remembering names and making people feel important – yet how many of us do it?

Half the time we are introduced to a stranger, we chat a few minutes and can’t even remember his or her name by the time we say goodbye.

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January 15, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Life Advice |

the time is now

When I was 13 I wanted to learn guitar but I saw on TV some kid who was 11 and a child prodigy and I thought "I waited too long, now I’ll be a beginner while kids like that already are great".

Then I was 23 and thought "oh man if I had just started at 13 I would have ten years experience by now! But now why bother?"

At 33 I realized, damn if I had just started at 23 I would probably be pretty good at this by now, but now I’m old and would feel weird in a beginner class at this age, so I didn’t.

At 43 I thought, why did I ever care about what people would think instead of realizing I wanted to do something, but didn’t out of fear and regret, and because I kept thinking about the amount of time I’d already wasted, instead of the fact that RIGHT NOW is simultaneously the oldest I’ve ever been, and the youngest I will ever be again. Now is the time. For everything. Always.

Just start a new game.

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The Daily Man-Up: A Man Of Principles

January 8, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

man of principles

The first and most important rule of life, is to have some rules and principles by which you operate from and live by.

Your success, happiness and level of fulfilment will be dictated to you by the rules you have for yourself and the standard you set and accept for yourself.

If you want to thrive, if you want to blossom into the most beautiful and magnificent and powerful version of yourself then you need to develop your very own “modus operandi” – the way in which you operate, conduct yourself and perform.

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The Daily Man-Up: Are You Actually Living A Life You Chose?

January 6, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Look around you. What do you see?

Do you see great men conquering their fears and living a life they enjoy – a life that they chose? Or are they living a life that was chosen for them?

More importantly, are you living a life that you consciously decided on – one that you hand picked based on your personal preferences and desires? Unfortunately for most men in today’s world, the answer is a loud and resounding no. The average man has been following the path of least resistance since he was born.

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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Waiting

January 3, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Stop waiting. Start doing. It’s all too easy to tell ourselves that once we lose twenty pounds, we’ll be happy, or once we have more free time, we’ll start reading more, or once we’re on that new project at work and have shorter hours, we’ll start going back to the gym. We think we’re too busy now to do that thing we want to do, or we’ll be happy once we’ve done that thing, but we haven’t even started working on it.

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The Daily Man-Up

December 30, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

finding your why

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A common starting point I’ve seen to getting disciplined is to “find your why”. That has never worked for me. For me, it was still too ephemeral. Like, you don’t need a “why” to spend your day on YouTube or Netflix but all of the sudden to try to accomplish something you need a “why”? For me, it was a demand I was unwilling to meet.

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The Daily Man-Up: Social Media Is Ruining Your Self-Esteem

December 27, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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It’s 7am and you hear your iPhone start buzzing through your heavy slumber. It’s your alarm. You have to be at work in thirty minutes. You shut off your alarm, but you don’t set down your phone to get ready. The first thing you do is open up your Instagram app. It’s a natural habit at this point to check your social media when you get up in the morning.

When the app opens up, the first picture you see is of that guy in a mansion with 10 beautiful girls around him. You get this sting of jealousy inside of you. “Why can’t I be him?” You say to yourself as you continue to click on his profile and scroll through more of his pictures. You know it’s just making you feel worse but you can’t stop.

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December 23, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Life Advice |

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Over 40 years ago I was a young boy, the future still a thing of excitement and mystery. Who would I be? What would I do? Where would I go? Everything was still possible. But I squandered my potential and wasted my life.

I didn’t know it at the time, but the way my parents treated me scarred me deeply. They gave me all the toys a boy could want. But I have no memory of being hugged. I have no memory of them ever telling me something I did was good. I would show them a picture I drew and they would say “Not now.” They made me feel worthless, useless, unwanted. My mother would play sadistic games where she’d frighten me and then laugh when I cried out of fear. My father was brooding and unapproachable, quick to temper and irritated by my presence.

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December 20, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

I’m a 57 year old man, about three years away from whatever the grandmaster of all the wizards are. I’ve never hugged a woman before (beside female relatives), never dated anyone before, no one at all. And then obviously that means that I never had my first kiss and I’m still a virgin. Now, if I were to sit here and tell some random stranger on the street about my current life predicament, I would be laughed at until the end of time. That brings me to my first point of advice. Ignore all of that crap. It’s worthless to feel like shit, for what? Because life didn’t come as anticipated. It can be harsh, but it’s not entirely over.

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The Daily Man-Up: I Would Rather Suck At Boxing Than Binge Watch Netflix All Day

December 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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I’ve had a major shift in my mindset this year that I feel like has had a really positive impact on my life.

I feel like I had gotten into a routine of work, exercise, eat, socialize that I had gotten really comfortable with, and I had been making the mistake of only doing things I am good at.

So this past fall I decided to make a change, and to always be doing at least one thing in my schedule that I am bad at or makes me feel uncomfortable. I feel like a lot of people that I know don’t try new things or venture out of their comfort zone because they are afraid of failure, but that’s no way to live a life. If you want to live the full pallet of human experience then you have to do things outside your comfort zone.

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