Photo by Sam Moqadam
How many times have you looked in the mirror and had one of these thoughts?
- “I’ll stop hating myself when I reach weight X.”
- “When have job title X I’ll be happy”
- “When I get a girlfriend/boyfriend I’ll be happy”
- “When I fix personality flaw X I’ll be good enough”
That’s called conditional self-love. It’s attaching your self worth to some tiny fraction of who you are. Not only is it toxic, it makes the journey towards your goals miserable.