Life Advice

Comparing Yourself To Other People Doesn’t Serve You In Anyway

June 21, 2022 Leave a Comment

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Can we agree that it’s time for you to stop comparing yourself to other people? Or comparing your life to other people’s lives?

Because it is time to stop. Comparing yourself to other people doesn’t serve you in anyway. It doesn’t improve anything. If you feel inspired by someone else’s life, and you want to try something similar to what they did, that might be one thing. But it’s another thing entirely if you’re feeling bad about yourself because you think that your situation is supposed to be more like someone else’s situation.

Do You Feel That You’ve Been Wasting Your Life?

June 20, 2022 Leave a Comment

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That can be a very hard feeling.

It doesn’t matter how old you are, you could be 16, 32, 48 or 60; the sense of loss from having wasted time in distractions, lethargy, addiction, procrastination can be crushing.

In this post however, I want to speak with you on this subject and show you how to heal and move on. Because here’s the truth of the matter: the sooner you can get over it, the sooner you can get on with your life and move onto the next thing.

If You Cringe When You Think About Your Past Mistakes, This May Help

June 8, 2022 Leave a Comment

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Think of a time where you have done something embarrassing or stupid. We all can, its just part of being human. Now think about something someone else did around that same time that was embarrassing. Think about what they did or said. Try to remember every detail about what they did. If you are like me, chances are that ,unless it was humorous or extreme, you may have a hard time remembering a lot of these situations about other people.

You Can’t Hate Yourself Into Being A Better You

May 31, 2022 Leave a Comment

I thought if I did enough self improvement I would be happy. I thought that losing the weight, learning to beat procrastination, and practicing happiness affirmations would make me a content human being.

But my self love was conditional. I felt good when I made progress on my goals. It was great when I applied what I learned. But there are always setbacks.

And when you love yourself conditionally those setbacks are cause for brutal self evisceration.

A Cautionary Tale

May 24, 2022 Leave a Comment

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This is gonna be hard, but I have to tell this, so that maybe someone will wake up and open their eyes…

Porn has ruined my life. I am sure of it now. It’s poison for your body, mind and soul. It’s so insidious because it plays with your basic, natural instincts, and on the surface level it seems unavoidable. I mean, sex is good and natural, right? Well, I don’t know, because I’ve never had sex. I’m 41 by the way.

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Embrace Discomfort And Move Toward Adversity

May 19, 2022 Leave a Comment

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Today, our lives are far too easy.

We live in comfortable climate-controlled boxes where things like boredom and discomfort are the exception, not the rule.

We can order food, find easy sex, watch endless streams of dopamine-producing content all with the click of a button.

And it’s slowly killing us.

There’s No Time Like The Present

May 18, 2022 Leave a Comment

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There’s no time like the present. Stop waiting for whatever it is that you think you’re waiting for, and make a change today.

Let this be the moment that you decide to act. Let it be the moment that you choose to finally change your life. It’s time to shift from "I’m going to" to "I am."

Stop waiting for whatever it is that you think you’re waiting for because it isn’t coming. There’s no big moment that changes your life. Stop waiting for a sign. If you want a sign, this is it. If you needed a wakeup call, this is it.

If You Have To Look For Reasons To Accept Yourself, You’ll Never Find Them

May 11, 2022 Leave a Comment

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How many times have you looked in the mirror and had one of these thoughts?

“I’ll stop hating myself when I reach weight X.”
“When have job title X I’ll be happy”
“When I get a girlfriend/boyfriend I’ll be happy”
“When I fix personality flaw X I’ll be good enough”

That’s called conditional self-love. It’s attaching your self worth to some tiny fraction of who you are. Not only is it toxic, it makes the journey towards your goals miserable.

How to Make Peace with Your Past

May 10, 2022 Leave a Comment

The only way to make peace with your past is to look it straight in the eye. For the majority of us, when we look back the past seems tinged with negativity. For every joyful moment there are many more regrets. For every memory of laughter there is a nagging sense of fear or anxiety.