Life Advice

If You Live With A Fear That You’re Wasting Your Life

January 14, 2022 Leave a Comment

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Fulfillment – true fulfillment – is still a possibility for you even now.

I appreciate that this might be hard to believe, because from a certain perspective it’s like “well I’ve wasted all this time doing nothing, and I’m older than I’ve ever been, and I have less time now in my life than ever before… so whatever I’m capable of achieving now is only a small version of what I could have otherwise achieved if I had all my shit together.”

A Man Is The Protector Of His Family

January 13, 2022 Leave a Comment

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As a husband and father, you are the warrior who has been charged with the duty of pushing back against the evil that seeks to prey on your wife, daughters, and sons. If you don’t step up, who will?

9 Rules I Learned About Life From Getting Old

January 10, 2022 Leave a Comment

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1) People matter the most

I cannot emphasize this enough. Life is short. Relationships are valuable, especially those healthy ones that make you a better person. The older I get the more I prioritize my time to spend it with the people who I love. This means trips back home to my parent’s house, doing activities my friends want to do even if I am not super excited about it (an example would be shopping. I am a girl who hates to shop but loves my friends so I end up at malls a bit.), or even just staying in and having people over. I rarely say no when someone wants to hang out. Their happiness is my own, and I want to encourage them in their happiness.

A Man Of Principles

December 23, 2021 Leave a Comment

The first and most important rule of life, is to have some rules and principles by which you operate from and live by.

Your success, happiness and level of fulfillment will be dictated to you by the rules you have for yourself and the standard you set and accept for yourself.

If you want to thrive, if you want to blossom into the most beautiful and magnificent and powerful version of yourself then you need to develop your very own “modus operandi” – the way in which you operate, conduct yourself and perform.

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I Like To Revisit This A Couple Times A Year…

December 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

Stop Trying To Prove Yourself To Everyone – Live Your Life For Yourself

If you’re living your life in such a way that you hope to prove yourself, then you’re cut off from your greater inner resources. It doesn’t matter whether you’re trying to prove yourself to one person, many people, or just yourself.

Being stuck with the need to prove is a slavery mindset. You’re not truly free. You’re trying to win some kind of approval (aPROVal, see that there?) so that you can finally go live your life the way you’d otherwise prefer to.

“How many times do we pay for one mistake?”

December 14, 2021 Leave a Comment

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“How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make. But not us. We have a powerful memory. We make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and we punish ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don’t need to do it again. But every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again. If we have a wife or husband he or she also reminds us of the mistake, so we can judge ourselves again, punish ourselves again, and find ourselves guilty again. Is this fair?”

― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

Time, Distance And Life Will Separate You And Your Best Friends

December 8, 2021 Leave a Comment

You will grow apart from almost all of your friends by the time you hit 30 because that’s just the way life is – people change.

Of course you’ll have the occasional hang out typically during the holidays when someone gathers the courage to call and set up a get together but it won’t be the same.

You might be thinking “oh not me and my boys, we’re so tight!” I thought the same thing too with friends that I spent every waking hour with growing up in high school and college.

Boys Act on Feelings Men Act on Vision

December 1, 2021 Leave a Comment

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The most basic distinction between boys and grounded men is that boys act on feelings, men act on vision.

Boys are like a feather in the wind. They allow their emotional state to govern their actions and they decide whether or not to keep their commitments in the heat of the moment.

If they don’t feel like doing something then they don’t.

Boys will hit snooze on their alarm instead of waking up early and doing what needs to be done. They will show up late to meetings. They will procrastinate on their work. They will defer what they should do for what they want to do in the moment.

Men are different.

The Reality Of ‘Get Rich Quick’ Schemes

November 30, 2021 Leave a Comment

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If you’ve ever drank the Kool-Aid of one of those ” How to get ridiculously rich and passively become a millionaire in thirty days with no money down by working 4 hours per week from your kitchen table in your bathrobe” best sellers, or promotions you see every other person on facebook peddling these days…chances are you are in worse financial shape now then when you started.

I see people posting income claims from offers that would fall into this category on social media daily.