Life Advice

“I Wish I Hadn’t Live Life as If It Would Last Forever “

June 28, 2023

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We have it all backward. We spend our work hours helping someone else build their dream, and spend our free time watching TV and surfing the internet. We think we enjoy these things – but this is a lie.

The truth is that these mindless things distract us from achieving the things we really want to achieve in life. They make us forget that time is the most precious and irreplaceable commodity in the world.

When your final countdown begins, you cannot buy more time. Not even if you’re a billionaire (Steve Jobs died at 56!) The time you’ve spent is all there is.

What’s scary? You don’t know when that final countdown will come. It may be fifty years from now, or ten years – or tomorrow. You’ll never know…

3 Mindset Shifts That Will Help You Reach Your Goals

June 27, 2023

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The way you see yourself in the world and the way that you think the world sees you impact your thoughts and actions. The thing is, it’s difficult to figure out our own mindsets because that’s the only way we know how to interact with the world. It often takes input from other people to become aware of how we see things.

You’ve likely heard of the growth mindset vs fixed mindset. But there are plenty of other mindsets that might be holding you back. Here are three common ones and what you can do to work past them.

Wealth Is What You Don’t See

June 26, 2023

Money has many ironies. Here’s an important one:

Wealth is what you don’t see

My time as a valet was in the mid-200os in Los Angeles, when material appearance took precedence over everything but oxygen.

If you see a Ferrari driving around, you might intuitively assume the owner of the car is rich- even if you’re not paying much attention to them. But as I got to know some of these people I realized that wasn’t always the case.

You Are Responsible For Your Problems

June 23, 2023

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You are responsible for your problems. You are not at fault for (some of) your problems, but you are responsible for all of them.

When you decide to claim responsibility for everything that you don’t like in your life—the annoying coworker, your inability to focus, how busy you are—you give yourself the power to do something about it. I don’t care that you didn’t create these issues. Stop playing the victim card, and do something about it.

Nice Guys vs Good Men

June 22, 2023

In this world, there is a subset of men that believe women are only attracted to assholes.

Which is true, if you preface this belief with ‘very few’.

The vast majority of women are attracted to good men.

The subset of men that believe otherwise are Nice Guys.

#1 Mistake People Make When Building A Habit

June 21, 2023

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The #1 mistake people do when they start building a habit is relying too much on willpower. They believe that building a healthy habit like daily exercising, is only possible if you go hard and you push yourself everyday to show up and be disciplined.

While this plan might work for people who have trained and grown their willpower muscle to above average size (think: really fit and healthy people, who just keep on getting healthier), it won’t work for majority of us, because of a single reason that willpower is finite resource and if we ask more than it can handle – we’ll quit.

If You Are Unsuccessful With Women, It Is 100% Your Fault. You Are Not A Victim

June 20, 2023

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Pornography, Hollywood, and other forms of media have deluded men into false perceptions of women think and how attraction works.

Porn is a falsified, artificially constructed representation of human sexuality, where attraction and arousal are instantaneous, easy and abundant without true effort.

On the other side, mainstream movies, i.e. romance porn, often portray unquestioned dedication as the ultimate way to woman’s heart. Unremarkable, piddling men will win a beautiful woman over through some grand act of devotion, reinforcing that idea that men can be mediocre and still attract beautiful women solely through sacrifice.

Passive is The New Aggressive

May 27, 2022

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On the surface, avoidance and non-confrontational manipulation has its merits. It helps you to escape from being at odds with people. By playing the “pleaser” you can garner reciprocal “back-scratching” from coworkers and people you are networking with. In relationships, it will help you get what you want without needing to have painful conversations. But what is the cost?

The Daily Man-Up

December 17, 2020

nice guy vs good men

Distinguishing the key differences between Nice Guys and genuinely good men.

In this world, there is a subset of men that believe women are only attracted to assholes.

Which is true, if you preface this belief with ‘very few’.

The vast majority of women are attracted to good men.

The subset of men that believe otherwise are Nice Guys.

What’s a Nice Guy?

A man that displays overwhelming acts of kindness towards women, with a firm expectation of immediate romantic or sexual rewards.

Some of the common traits of a Nice Guy include:

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