Self-Improvement
The Daily Man-Up: Why You Should Meditate
November 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom – Viktor E. Frankl
Meditation is a great way to make that “space” bigger, as are several kinds of self reflection. Watching yourself in the moment, seeing where your thoughts take you without judgement, helps you to understand your own mind. It isn’t easy, and it takes time to develop this awareness of your own response, but over time your ability to change your response (in this case steer away from certain thoughts and toward better ones) does get better.
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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Seeking Comfort
November 12, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
I think that there’s a lot of people out there that think somehow or another you’re gonna get to someplace where you’re living in silk sheets and you’re getting your toes done when someone’s dropping grapes into your mouth. I don’t want that, I’ve never wanted that. That guy’s not gonna be happy. He’s gonna be bored. An hour into the grapes "you can get those fucking grapes away from me. Stop painting my toes. What am I doing in this bed?" I got to do something. I’m not stimulated.
The human organism, the animal that we are, needs constant stimulation, because it evolved trying to find food and escaped enemies. And find shelter, escape nature, escape the elements, try to survive.
When I see a loser, I see some guy who’s 43 years old, lives in his parent’s basement. He fucking hates the world. That was a baby man. This is a baby that somebody just gave shitty nutrients to. Whether it’s nutrients in the form of food or in the form of thoughts and ideas and examples. And this kid developed these horrible self-defeating patterns of behavior that have led them to this point. Or they’re this middle-aged person with no future and no idea of how to get out of this rut and probably never will escape it and might just wind up sucking on a gun.
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The Daily Man-Up: How To Get Yourself Out Of Bed On Time, Consistently, Forever.
November 5, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Self-Improvement |
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Why is it important to get out of bed on time consistently?
I assume that you and I are already in agreement that getting out of bed on time is absolutely KEY to most other forms of long-term success.
But if not, here’s why:
Getting out of bed on time, with the FIRST alarm, means that you can start your day with intention. It means you’re getting up on purpose as opposed to being dragged or forced out of bed. It means you CHOOSE to get out of bed. It will subtly influence how the rest of your entire day plays out.
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The Daily Man-Up: How to Be Less Socially Awkward
November 1, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
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Growing up, I was never a particularly social or outgoing guy. I wasn’t one of the “popular” kids in high school or college and I leaned toward an introverted personality type. Quiet, reserved, and a little shy.
For most of my early 20’s, I found myself just nodding along and agreeing with what other people said because I’d never put in the effort to develop my own unique personality.
Whenever I was talking with someone and a third person entered the conversation, I quickly faded into obscurity while everyone else joked and chatted.
I assumed the role of the “Silent Third Wheel”, a sort of spectator in social settings…someone sitting on the sidelines rather than acting as a leader of conversations and interactions.
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The Daily Man-Up: Start Creating An Excellent Relationship With Yourself
October 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
If you’ll forgive me, I’m going to make a few assumptions about you:
– You know what you should be doing, and you’re not doing it.- If you DID do it, today and daily, you would create an entirely better life for yourself.- You experience a lot of conflict with yourself.- You know you should be kinder to yourself, but you’re not.- You feel insecure, you feel that you’re not where you should be in life.- This makes you feel guilt, shame, and regret.
Is this you? Please don’t worry; it’s all of us.
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The Daily Man-Up: What it REALLY Means to Be a Beta Male
October 7, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
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Being a beta male has nothing to do with your physical strength, financial success, or aptitude with women and dating.
These external factors can serve as indicators of whether a man is an alpha or beta, but in and of themselves, they are insufficient to “diagnose” a man entirely as alpha or beta. Because the defining characteristic of a beta male is not their external successes (or lack thereof), but the driving force behind those successes.
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The Daily Man-Up
October 4, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
You don’t get better on the days when you feel like going. You get better on the days when you don’t want to go, but you go anyway. If you can overcome the negative energy coming from your tired body or unmotivated mind, you will grow and become better. It won’t be the best workout you have, you won’t accomplish as much as what you usually do when you actually feel good, but that doesn’t matter. Growth is a long term game, and the crappy days are more important.
― Georges St-Pierre
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The Daily Man-Up: Learn How to Fail Skillfully
October 1, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
You’ve been learning how to succeed in your attempts here at self-discipline and setting good habits. Ideally you’ve learned how to discern your highest priorities, create a good plan, and to take immediate action on it.
There’s this flip side, though, to proper self-discipline which is learning how to fail masterfully – as the companion to learning to succeed. If you can develop your ability to fail masterfully, then you’re effectively moving into a more psychologically stable place for long-term growth.
The idea here is that if you can develop a proper relationship with failure, then you no longer need to be polarized (i.e. unnerved) by it, and you can move toward your greater growth with a sense of balance, a certain steadiness without all the triumphant highs and miserable lows.
The purpose of this post, therefore, is speak to this all-important element of self-discipline. Here we go:
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The Daily Man-Up: The 7 Best Ways To Increase Testosterone Naturally
September 25, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Self-Improvement |
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As we get older our testosterone levels start to drop. It happens faster than you think, too. Young men in their late 20s often see the beginning of the testosterone decline and begin to panic. Naturally, they wonder how they can increase testosterone naturally and get up to all sorts of things trying to do it.
Why go to so much trouble?
Because, for a man, testosterone is one of the most important hormones in the body, if not the single most important. Everything that we attribute to being a man owes its existence to testosterone, whether that is building muscle, being good in bed, or having the drive and aggression to get what you want out of life.
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The Daily Man-Up: How To Become The Best Version Of Yourself
September 20, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
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1) Love yourself. You deserve the best. You should strive for your potential – the most fulfilled version of yourself – and that potential is virtually limitless. This is the single most important mindset to adopt, as it serves as a foundation for literally everything else. It’s not a case of arrogance or entitlement, but in the sense that you would want the best for a family member of SO that you deeply love. A lot of people self-sabotage (often inadvertently), and complain that they can’t break free of negative habits… I believe this is largely due to the fact that deep down they’ve built up so much self-hatred that they don’t even feel worthy of attaining their goals and living their most fulfilling life. Fuck that. I don’t care what your backstory is, you are worthy. I am. We all are. You wouldn’t be reading this if you didn’t believe you were.