Self-Improvement
The Daily Man-Up: How To Practice Self-Acceptance
February 13, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
Very few of us have, let alone know how to practice self-acceptance.
Stop and do a quick test with me:
Do you love yourself?
Every part of you – even your flaws?
If your answer is “well.. yes”
Then why do you feel social pressure?
Why do you feel hesitation, or fear, or anxiety?
I don’t mean to rub it in your face or anything…
But you feel those emotions because you don’t truly love yourself.
And you don’t truly love yourself because you haven’t learned to accept yourself – flaws and all.
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The Daily Man-Up: The World Will Never Quit Poking You
February 12, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
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Have you ever felt like your circumstances were trying to break you?
Just when you’ve improved your finances, your car breaks down. You wake up on the wrong side of the bed, come to work to a nagging boss and go home to an indifferent spouse. Every time you take a step forward, you take three back. Inevitably, just as you’re on the rise, something or someone tries to knock you down. If only life would give you a little bit of a break, you tell yourself, you’d have enough energy to make an effort to become successful.
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The Daily Man-Up
January 29, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
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As a self-loathing, chronic procrastinator I’ve often ridden the self improvement train. You know, the “I just watched 5 motivational videos of The Rock saying you can do anything you set your mind to, and today I’m going to change my entire life, omg yes” train. Of course, that effort never quite ends the way we’d envision it; with the new lifestyle lasting all of a week before we’re back to old habits.
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The Daily Man-Up: Take 100% Responsibility For The Way Your Life Is Now
January 2, 2020 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
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Take 100% responsibility for the way your life is now. The good, the bad and the ugly. Accept that it’s all you. No one else to blame. It was your fault. And forgive yourself completely. You will see that the process of self improvement will become much easier.
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The Daily Man-Up: How To Start Working After You Procrastinated The Whole Day
December 17, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
“I’ve been procrastinating the whole day.”
“I haven’t done anything today, I’m such a loser.”
“Nothing done, again. Why do I always end up watching YouTube videos?”
All of us have experienced a day when we’re surfing the internet the whole day instead of doing something productive.
Let’s say it’s already late afternoon, what are you going to do?
Most of us, if there isn’t any scary deadline looming close, say “what the hell, might as well continue” and waste the rest of the day.
It’s called the What The Hell effect.
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The Daily Man-Up: Why You Should Meditate
November 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom – Viktor E. Frankl
Meditation is a great way to make that “space” bigger, as are several kinds of self reflection. Watching yourself in the moment, seeing where your thoughts take you without judgement, helps you to understand your own mind. It isn’t easy, and it takes time to develop this awareness of your own response, but over time your ability to change your response (in this case steer away from certain thoughts and toward better ones) does get better.
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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Seeking Comfort
November 12, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
I think that there’s a lot of people out there that think somehow or another you’re gonna get to someplace where you’re living in silk sheets and you’re getting your toes done when someone’s dropping grapes into your mouth. I don’t want that, I’ve never wanted that. That guy’s not gonna be happy. He’s gonna be bored. An hour into the grapes "you can get those fucking grapes away from me. Stop painting my toes. What am I doing in this bed?" I got to do something. I’m not stimulated.
The human organism, the animal that we are, needs constant stimulation, because it evolved trying to find food and escaped enemies. And find shelter, escape nature, escape the elements, try to survive.
When I see a loser, I see some guy who’s 43 years old, lives in his parent’s basement. He fucking hates the world. That was a baby man. This is a baby that somebody just gave shitty nutrients to. Whether it’s nutrients in the form of food or in the form of thoughts and ideas and examples. And this kid developed these horrible self-defeating patterns of behavior that have led them to this point. Or they’re this middle-aged person with no future and no idea of how to get out of this rut and probably never will escape it and might just wind up sucking on a gun.
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The Daily Man-Up: How To Get Yourself Out Of Bed On Time, Consistently, Forever.
November 5, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Self-Improvement |
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Why is it important to get out of bed on time consistently?
I assume that you and I are already in agreement that getting out of bed on time is absolutely KEY to most other forms of long-term success.
But if not, here’s why:
Getting out of bed on time, with the FIRST alarm, means that you can start your day with intention. It means you’re getting up on purpose as opposed to being dragged or forced out of bed. It means you CHOOSE to get out of bed. It will subtly influence how the rest of your entire day plays out.
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The Daily Man-Up: How to Be Less Socially Awkward
November 1, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
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Growing up, I was never a particularly social or outgoing guy. I wasn’t one of the “popular” kids in high school or college and I leaned toward an introverted personality type. Quiet, reserved, and a little shy.
For most of my early 20’s, I found myself just nodding along and agreeing with what other people said because I’d never put in the effort to develop my own unique personality.
Whenever I was talking with someone and a third person entered the conversation, I quickly faded into obscurity while everyone else joked and chatted.
I assumed the role of the “Silent Third Wheel”, a sort of spectator in social settings…someone sitting on the sidelines rather than acting as a leader of conversations and interactions.
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The Daily Man-Up: Start Creating An Excellent Relationship With Yourself
October 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |
If you’ll forgive me, I’m going to make a few assumptions about you:
– You know what you should be doing, and you’re not doing it.- If you DID do it, today and daily, you would create an entirely better life for yourself.- You experience a lot of conflict with yourself.- You know you should be kinder to yourself, but you’re not.- You feel insecure, you feel that you’re not where you should be in life.- This makes you feel guilt, shame, and regret.
Is this you? Please don’t worry; it’s all of us.