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Nothing will work until YOU do the work. Stop looking for another system and JUST DO IT.
Stop looking for the next tip, trick, big idea, etc. that will change your life. It will fail just like all the other tips, tricks, big ideas you’ve read on the Internet and tried for like 5 seconds. Because YOU don’t do anything consistently enough to see any results. YOU are the problem.
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“It is a fundamental law of nature that to evolve one has to push one’s limits, which is painful, in order to gain strength. Nature gives us pain as a messaging device to tell us that we are approaching, or that we have exceeded, our limits in some way. At the same time, nature made the process of getting stronger require us to push our limits. Gaining strength is the adaptation process of the body and the mind to encountering one’s limits, which is painful. In other words, both pain and strength typically result from encountering one’s barriers. When we encounter pain, we are at an important juncture in our decision-making process.”
I always plan a ton before carrying out the actual tasks as a way to avoid doing the actual things so that I can have a perfect start for another task that I will never take action for or just give up half way through.
I always convince myself that I will do it when the minute hand hits 0, 15, 30 because it just doesn’t feel right starting anything when the time is as odd as something like 11:47. Guess what. I never do it even when it’s a perfect 12:00.
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If you don’t let up on yourself and instead become comfortable always operating with some level of pain, you will evolve at a faster pace. That’s just the way it is.
Every time you confront something painful, you are at a potentially important juncture in your life—you have the opportunity to choose healthy and painful truth or unhealthy but comfortable delusion. The irony is that if you choose the healthy route, the pain will soon turn into pleasure. The pain is the signal! Like switching from not exercising to exercising, developing the habit of embracing the pain and learning from it will “get you to the other side.” By “getting to the other side,” I mean that you will become hooked on:
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As a self-loathing, chronic procrastinator I’ve often ridden the self improvement train. You know, the “I just watched 5 motivational videos of The Rock saying you can do anything you set your mind to, and today I’m going to change my entire life, omg yes” train. Of course, that effort never quite ends the way we’d envision it; with the new lifestyle lasting all of a week before we’re back to old habits.
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After a decade of setting goals every year and never achieving them, here’s what finally clicked:
High performers are successful as a result of consistent action, not intense effort.
This single realization led me to a framework for building habits that has changed my life.
Working from home last year made me realize that at 27, I had no good habits and zero self-discipline.
I was going to bed after 3am and sleeping past noon.
I wasn’t working out consistently.
I was browsing Reddit and watching Netflix for up to 10 hours a day.
I wasn’t doing any of the work needed to build my business…
I hated myself. The more promises I broke, the more worthless I felt, and the louder the voice in my head became:
Why can’t I fix this?
Why am I so weak?
This is how my dreams die.
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I used to be a mental wimp…
No, seriously. About 10 years ago, I was a total mental weakling. I couldn’t go for long without AC, my work ethic was equivalent to that of a 60’s stoner, and the thought of a cold shower just about made me pass out.
Ok, I might be exaggerating a little bit, but I can PROMISE you I wasn’t mentally tough.
Today, I train with heavy weights 4x a week, have taken cold showers (almost) every day for more than half a decade, worked countless 16 hour days to build my 7-figure business, and have generally become way tougher mentally and physically.
If I can do it, anyone can.
Here’s how I boosted my mental strength and how you can to.
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Have you ever felt like your circumstances were trying to break you?
Just when you’ve improved your finances, your car breaks down. You wake up on the wrong side of the bed, come to work to a nagging boss and go home to an indifferent spouse. Every time you take a step forward, you take three back. Inevitably, just as you’re on the rise, something or someone tries to knock you down. If only life would give you a little bit of a break, you tell yourself, you’d have enough energy to make an effort to become successful.
1. Stop feeling sorry for yourself – The more you feel sorry for yourself, the more it’ll become an excuse to run away from your problems. This can be elaborated better with the help of a story I got to share with you. There’s a man who works as a gardener for many houses in my locality including one of my neighbors and he has been doing that for years. Off late, I learned that he has a hearing disability and I was left in shock because I was totally unaware of it. He’s one of the most hardworking folks of the maintenance department of our society and the fact that he never let his disability be his excuse to feel sorry for himself inspired me instantly. People like him give us all the more reason to not feel sorry for how life chooses to treat us. So let’s stop pitying ourselves and celebrate the little blessings of life.
You’ve been learning how to succeed in your attempts here at self-discipline and setting good habits. Ideally you’ve learned how to discern your highest priorities, create a good plan, and to take immediate action on it.
There’s this flip side, though, to proper self-discipline which is learning how to fail masterfully – as the companion to learning to succeed. If you can develop your ability to fail masterfully, then you’re effectively moving into a more psychologically stable place for long-term growth.
The idea here is that if you can develop a proper relationship with failure, then you no longer need to be polarized (i.e. unnerved) by it, and you can move toward your greater growth with a sense of balance, a certain steadiness without all the triumphant highs and miserable lows.
The purpose of this post, therefore, is speak to this all-important element of self-discipline. Here we go:
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