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The Daily Man-Up: 13 Highly Toxic Habits You Must Drop if You Ever Want to Reach Your True Potential

August 9, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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1. Non Stop Complaining 

Life isn’t fair.

Get the fuck over it.

Complaining has zero positive impact on your life.

You waste valuable time, you put yourself in a negative state of mind, make yourself really unattractive, and repel people like magnets because frankly…

No one else cares, nobody wants to hear about it.

Not your best friends. Not your mom. Not your girlfriend. No one.

What your “harmless” whining does is create a victim mentality in your head, which leads to an undeserved sense of entitlement.

People who let this sense of entitlement dominate their psyche tend to avoid the realities of life – stopping growth right in its tracks.

The reality of life is – no matter how special and unique you think your problems are, there are millions of other people who are going through the exact same shit as you, and millions more who are going through worse.

The sooner you can recognize this truth, the sooner you can reclaim control of your life.

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The Daily Man-Up: Mediocrity is a Virus. Here’s How to Banish it from Your Life.

August 8, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Little things become big things.

When you justify and allow even little things into your life which your intuition warns you against, you permit a virus to enter your life. It spreads to other areas.

When you introduce a change to any system, you simultaneously change the whole system. The other areas of the system will begin arranging themselves to better fit with the new.

Going against your higher intuitive voice is a slippery-slope. You don’t realize day to day how out of whack things are really getting.

Any small problem or indulgence cannot be viewed in isolation. It reflects something much bigger and much deeper. Sometimes it takes an intense wake-up call to become aware of the signals.

But once your eyes are open, and you’re in a place to hear your inner voice, it all becomes painfully obvious. You’ve known all along you were living against yourself, but you continued to justify.

The sickening reality is that you actually began to settle into the mediocrity, and convince yourself that you’re okay with it. Even when it shows itself throughout your entire life.

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The Daily Man-Up: Scarcity vs Abundance Mentality

August 7, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Scarcity mentality is the belief that there’s a limited number of opportunities in your life. With women, if you miss out on a single chance, you’ll never get another like it. What happens is that you view your connections as win or lose situations. It’s black or white:

“If I don’t get this girl, I’m a failure and a loser. I’ll be alone forever. But if I do, I’m a real man and a winner.”

You then do everything in your power to “win” girls over. You will chase endlessly, pretend to be a friend for months or years, disrespect your time, and even let yourself get walked over — all because you can’t let go of this one girl.

This is a needy, desperate, and unattractive way of thinking. You are subconsciously reinforcing:

This scarcity mentality leaves you unfulfilled and destroys your self-esteem. Instead, you should be trying to build a mindset of abundance.

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Proud Parenting Moment

August 1, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

So my son was being bullied pretty badly at school. People would make fun of his accent, use racial slurs towards him, throw open milk cartons at him at lunch, start rumors about him, they put his book bag in the toilet once, and a bunch of fucked shit kids do to each other.

My son had told on the main perpetrator to me and his mother and I went to the school and told them about my concerns and the school gave him a stern talking to which only stopped him for a few weeks and then he continued to bully my son. So I went to the school and complained again and the administration had told me that they spoke to the kid and he had told them that he was just joking and he didnt mean any of the stuff he was saying and that they were actually friends anyway the assistant principal told me that “boys will be boys” and that it was not out of the ordinary for boys to make fun of each other, but since the kid had admitted to doing it they gave him in-school suspension which is essentially a slap on the wrist.

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The Daily Man-Up: Don’t Think About What You Want, Think About What It Would Take to Get It

August 1, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

One of the easiest personal finance tips out there is to simply stop wanting more stuff. It’s simple, but it’s true – if you had an easy way to basically eliminate your desire to acquire anything new aside from things to cover your barest needs, personal finance would become incredibly easy.

Sadly, humans don’t work that way.

Our desires run amok for a lot of reasons. We want things for personal enjoyment. We want them because they’ll fill an emotional hole in our life. We want them to impress others or to keep up with the Joneses. We want to feel rewarded for the hard work we put into our lives.

All of those things – and many more – wind up being justifications for the non-necessities that we spend our money on.

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The Daily Man-Up

July 31, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

You don’t get better on the days when you feel like going. You get better on the days when you don’t want to go, but you go anyway. If you can overcome the negative energy coming from your tired body or unmotivated mind, you will grow and become better. It won’t be the best workout you have, you won’t accomplish as much as what you usually do when you actually feel good, but that doesn’t matter. Growth is a long term game, and the crappy days are more important.

― Georges St-Pierre

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The Daily Man-Up: 7 Signs She’s Just Not That Into You

July 30, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Sometimes women will be direct and tell you when they’re not interested. Most of the time, however, they’re much more subtle. This unfortunately causes many men to chase women that they shouldn’t waste their time on.

You can try to rationalize why girls are denying your advances and ignoring you. You can think, “There must be some other reason why things aren’t going anywhere.” You probably have a hard time accepting that a woman’s just not interested.

And when you finally realize the truth, you refuse to let go. You try everything in your power to change a woman’s mind. But by the time you’re getting the cold shoulder, it’s usually too late. A woman knows early on whether or not she’s attracted to you.

When a woman wants a man, she won’t let him slip away so easily. She’s going to invest in him. She’s not going to say, “I like this guy so much. I should dodge him, not hang out, and frustrate the hell out of him!”

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The Daily Man-Up: Be the Leading Man

July 27, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“Where do you want to eat?” 
“I don’t know where do you want to go?” 
“I really don’t care at all, you choose.”

Does this conversation sound familiar? There’s nothing more frustrating to girls than a guy who can’t make up his mind.

Women love a man who can lead. A man who takes charge of things and is strong yet respectful. Don’t believe it? Look at nearly every romance novel written in the last 50 years. I’m not talking about being a control-freak here, but rather a man who is confident with himself and his choices. Women are attracted to a guy who knows what he wants, is honest about his passions, and is willing to make the tough decisions when needed.

This is especially important when first meeting and getting to know each other. Showing that you’re ready to take the helm says a lot about you. It tells her that you’re bold, adventurous, and can provide an exciting time – all attractive qualities.

Choose your own adventure

I used to think that always letting a girl choose what to do or where to go was being nice. Instead, it ended up annoying them and added a lot of unwanted pressure. Ease the burden off of her and tell her you’re taking her to one of your favorite restaurants, a new play, or your favorite spot as a kid.

Of course, always be open when she suggests something and ask about her preferences. If she doesn’t know a specific place, says she doesn’t care, or simply gives a type (Italian food), don’t try and drag an answer out of her. Instead, make the choice and take her on that journey. She’s going to enjoy it because she’s with you and you get credit for coming up with the fun idea in the first place.

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The Daily Man-Up: A Man Cannot Be A Victim

July 26, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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A man cannot be a victim unless he allows it to happen. It doesn’t matter if you’re physically or emotionally oppressed. It doesn’t matter if you’re unjustly imprisoned. It doesn’t matter if you’re a slave.

A man cannot be a victim unless he allows it to happen.

Thus, we always hold the power, whether we know it or not.

What’s sad is that many of those walking around aimlessly and uselessly in our society, who are in far better conditions than those I’ve already mentioned, feel as though they’re victims, and so they are.

And a life of victimhood is no life to live.

Your entire existence becomes about you, and nothing else. It’s all about your problems, your uphill battle, your pain and suffrage.

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The Daily Man-Up: How to Stop Apologizing for Everything You Do

July 25, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

For many of us, the word “sorry” has become something we reactively utter, regardless of whether we’ve done anything wrong. This seemingly harmless habit can actually lower your self-esteem, justify other people’s poor actions, and turn you into a complete pushover.

There’s nothing wrong with apologizing for the bad things you’ve done. But when saying sorry becomes your automatic response to anything that makes you feel a little uncomfortable, it can be problematic. For example, I tend to apologize when someone else bumps into me at a bar or club. I’ll immediately put my hand up in peace and quickly say “sorry” with a smile, even though they just spilled half of my $14 drink on the floor. Is it courteous for me to do that? Perhaps, but I wasn’t the one who needed to apologize. In fact, I wasn’t actually sorry at all, I was annoyed, and you’ve probably felt the same way at one point or another. That “sorry” that escapes your own mouth isn’t to apologize, it’s to avoid rocking the boat and making things awkward (the woman who read this over my shoulder in the coffee shop while I wrote this agreed).

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