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The Daily Man-Up: Will I Become A Billionaire If I Am Determined To Be One And Put In The Necessary Work Required?

March 5, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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No.

One of the many qualities that separate self-made billionaires from the rest of us is their ability to ask the right questions. 

This is not the right question.

(Which is not to say it’s a bad question. It just won’t get that deep part of your mind working to help you — mulling things over when you think you’re thinking about something else — sending up flares of insight.)

You’re determined. So what? You haven’t been racing naked through shark-infested waters yet. Will you be just as determined when you wash up on some deserted island, disoriented and bloody and ragged and beaten and staring into the horizon with no sign of rescue?

We live in a culture that celebrates determination and hard work, but understand: these are the qualities that keep you in the game after most everybody else has left, or until somebody bigger and stronger picks you up and hurls you back out to sea. Determination and hard work are necessary, yes, but they are the minimum requirements. As in: the bare minimum.

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The Daily Man-Up: Your Time Is The Furthest Thing From Free

March 4, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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For the majority of my life I made one really big mistake: I under-valued the precious nature of the time I’ve been given to live here on earth, and over-valued the short term gratification that comes from digital pleasure.

My entire middle school life was spent playing World Of Warcraft. I easily put in over 100 logged days of play time.

High school was Call of Duty and the start of social media sites. College was heavy social media use. Easily another 100 days.

You might be surprised at the numbers, but the frightening thing is that it’s far easier to hit these numbers than you might think. Chances are you’re hitting them right now without even realizing it.

Looking at your phone for just one hour a day adds up to 22 waking days a year. 22 straight days of just… nothing.

At the end you have nothing to show for it, in the same way that I have nothing to show for all of the hours I invested into gaming and social media.

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The Daily Man-Up: Advice from a Dying 24 Year-Old

March 1, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, TRUTH |

Soon I will be gone forever, but that’s okay as long as someone reads this. I am only 24 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that I will wear on my funeral a few months from now. It may not match my suit, but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.

The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least a tenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thing about death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions . The way I’ve lived my life so far, my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I have lived without doing anything impactful.

Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind. When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which things are really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:

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The Daily Man-Up: Do Things That Scare The Shit Outta You

February 27, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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The Daily Man-Up: Setting Boundaries

February 26, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Are you often dissatisfied with how you are treated?

People will only treat you as you allow them to treat you. This is great news because you have a say in it.

I was the professional “nice guy”. I took the brunt of other’s misdirected anger, rarely turned down requests, and tried to just be pleasant even when I was disrespected or wasn’t listened to for years. I avoided conflict like the plague, which just led me to act passive-aggressively.

This immaturely and maladaptively communicated to myself and others that I was weak and I was a victim. It led to me being run all over. “They are just bad people” I would think. And I became angrier about how people treated me until I realized that it was mostly because of me.

I did not have healthy boundaries. And I had to take charge if I wanted to have healthy relationships for the rest of my life, whether it was romantically, with friends, family, schoolmates, or co-workers.

Setting boundaries communicates to others about what you value, what you will and will not accept in your life, and who you are. It is one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself — it will change your life, your relationships, and garner the respect you deserve.

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The Daily Man-Up: 9 Incredible (and WORKING) Principles To Break Your Internet/Social Media Addiction

February 25, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Maybe you’ve had the experience recently of sitting down and trying to read a book, and finding your mind start to… wander. Maybe you’re having trouble focusing at work or school, sitting through movies, or even TV shows. There’s a little itch there. “This is cool, I guess… but what’s happening on the internet?”

Or maybe you’re just more anxious these days. Depressed. Cynical. In a “The World Is Shit” rut. You’re thinking about all those IDIOTS out there who are ruining the planet for the rest of us. The Nazi/Fascist/Islamist/Patriarchy/Feminist/WhitePrivilege complex.

Here’s what’s going on: years of heavy internet use have (literally) reprogrammed your brain.

Your smartphone, your laptop your social media accounts, your streaming sites, your inbox and your favorite blogs are all working together to hijack your brain’s natural reward system. On a daily basis, you hit the brain with a barrage of chronic overstimulation that it simply isn’t adapted for. This is why it’s harder than ever to focus, to chill out, to make it through a meeting or dinner or bathroom break without stealing a glance at your phone. Your brain craves moremoreMORE.

The reprogramming of your reward system is hampering your motivation and creativity. It’s stressing you out and hurting your social life. It’s decreasing your academic or career performance. It’s turning you into a smartphone-addicted zombie. And it’s convincing you that the online virtual reality world is necessary to feel human.

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February 22, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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The Daily Man-Up: How to Break Free From The “Nice Guy” Stereotype

February 21, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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You’ve probably heard the phrase “Nice guys finish last” and perhaps you’ve experienced it as you watch pushy, inconsiderate guys get the job you want or get the romantic attention of someone you’ve been pining for. It doesn’t seem fair, does it? There’s nothing wrong with being nice, but when you’re so nice to everyone that you stop being nice to yourself, your efforts can backfire. Here are some ways to show people that you value yourself and that they should value you, too.

1. Know the signs of being a “Nice Guy”.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Consequence Of Inaction Is Always Greater Than The Consequence From Action

February 20, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

I haven’t been alive too long, but I’ve just noticed that taking action has less of a damaging effect than not taking action. It may damage you financially, but over time, you may come to recover that money. But on the whole, here’s what I mean:

A lot of people are afraid of taking action and executing because they feel they’re going to mess up and diminish their self-image, destroy their financial standing, or some other type of fear.

If you’re relatively young, this is bullshit. As a young person you have little to destroy, so the field is prime for taking action and taking (calculated) risks.

In life, things naturally fall apart. This process is called entropy. All systems eventually head towards chaos if not consciously maintained by some type of external influence.

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The Daily Man-Up: Instead of Saying “I Don’t Have Time,” Say “It’s Not a Priority”

February 15, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Regardless of where you live, how many resources you have access to, or which talents you possess, you have 24 hours in a day–just like everybody else. We lead busy lives and use our limited time as an excuse to procrastinate and avoid getting things done, but often claiming we don’t have time is a lie. It’s a lie we tell others and ourselves. It helps us believe we’ll never get anything done, and this is a problem. Fortunately, the solution might be as simple as changing your language

Wall Street Journal writer Laura Vanderkam explains:

Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.

It’s a simple idea, and a great one. Our language is often used to provide a polite answer when the truth might be hard to hear. Sometimes we even subject ourselves to more polite language and end up in situations like this one. How you use your time is very important. It’s a limited resource and shouldn’t be wasted. Don’t risk putting it to poor use by failing to be honest with yourself and others about your priorities in life. Alter your language and you may just discover what’s most important.

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