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August 11, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Most guys make the mistake of making friends with a girl first in the hopes of working it into a meaningful relationship later.

This couldn’t be more wrong. Not only are they wasting their time and money on the girl, but they are also digging their own graves.

These men wait around with their heads down in the hopes that she will change her mind and become romantically interested in them. However, these men fail to recognize the most basic facts: If she wasn’t interested in you romantically in the beginning, what makes you think she will change her mind later?

What makes you think she’s not using you as a surrogate boyfriend until she finds somebody she really wants?

What makes you think that she isn’t just around for the ride while you spend your money and time on her?

The “Friendship Zone” is a trap… a trap so elaborate and strong that freeing yourself out of it is about as easy as climbing Mount Everest.

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August 10, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

Leadership is a responsibility other people give to you. You can’t claim it on your own. You might act like a leader, but you can’t force people to follow you, no matter how hard you try. If they don’t want to follow you it is like pushing rope.

You get from others exactly what you put into them. If you are honest, loyal, and respectful in your dealings with others, then (the people who matter) they will do the same to you. Those who don’t, don’t matter.

You must always have the most integrity out of everyone, and must always be the first to act. You can’t wait for someone else to take responsibility. If there is something that must be addressed then it is your role to address it first and as soon as it arises. If you slack off in this regard, then others will slack off in their responsibilities also.

Being a leader is not a part time role. You don’t get to be a leader some days and not a leader on other days.

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August 9, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

The human condition is one that gravitates towards ease. The technology industry has taken this fundamental human desire and made billions in feeding it. The TV, the cell phone, the car, the airplane, the computer, the search engine, and social media all provide a shortcut to an end.

The airplane, obviously, a shortcut to a destination, and social media, a shortcut to human interaction, an ability to portray whatever “you” that you’d like to portray without having to interact on a one-on-one basis. This desire for ease that’s constantly quenched by the latest innovation isn’t all positive. With everything at our fingertips, the things that once developed strong, manly characteristics and just values in our population have all but disappeared. When hardship inevitably enters our lives at the most inopportune time, those things that have brought us ease have also weakened our resolve. They’ve left us open to the disease that is self-entitlement and envy. They’ve opened us up to the infection that is laziness, an evil that not only makes our lives worthless, but negatively effects the rest of our society as well.

As ease becomes the way of life, hardship can no longer happen by chance, it must happen on purpose, and daily. We have to look for ways to make our lives tougher, not easier. It’s in this self-inflicted hardship that we become tougher, more resilient, and better equipped for the tribulation that will one day come anyway. This self-inflicted hardship builds the characteristics that were once commonplace in society, like honor and character, even confidence.

Success, in previous generations, was the result of the development of something called, character. It was a necessary ally on the road to becoming the man you wanted to be. Then came the 60’s and 70’s, 80’s and 90’s, and success became contingent on skills like salesmanship and interpersonal skills. Character has since lost it’s value in the eyes of society and the men and women who inhabit it, but it hasn’t lost it’s value in our lives, our development, and our quest for happiness and purpose.

Character, however, isn’t developed in ease. Anyone can be nice and good when everything is nice and good. It’s when the shit hits the fan that our true character is revealed.

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August 8, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

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August 7, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Success is not extrinsic.

It’s not measurable.

“Success” can only truly occur internally, because it is based on emotion. At the most basic level, success if your relationship with yourself. Most people are living a lie. They purposefully ignore and distract themselves from what they deep down want for themselves.

Many people want something more for themselves. They have dreams and ambitions. Yet, few of these people ever get what they intended.

Being ambitious isn’t enough. Far more important than ambition is commitment.

When you’re committed to something, you will be and do what is requiredfor the attainment of that thing. You’ll stop wondering and start building. You’ll stop being distracted and start learning. You’ll start connecting. You’ll start failing. You’ll get what you want, rather than have a long list of “ambitions.” You’ll have actual accomplishments that reflect your inner goals and values. Your external environment will reflect your deepest internal views and aims.

If you’re committed to a marriage, you’ll change in whatever ways are necessary for your marriage to thrive. You’ll become what is required to make it work. If you’re committed to your craft, you’ll change and become what is required to do work at the level of your desire. You won’t point to your limitations with a victim mentality. You’ll change your limitations so they stop stopping you.

Only those who are truly committed will become a new and different person in order to live their commitment.

If you’re not willing to change, then you aren’t committed to anything beyond what you currently have. If you don’t believe you can change, then you can’t commit to anything beyond what life randomly throws at you.

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August 4, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Time, for me, is like ice cream for a five-year-old. I treat time like I treat a beautiful woman — with respect. This sweetheart called time is a scarce resource that we’re all taking for granted. We piss our time up against the wall like it’s nothing.

We treat our time like it’s an overflowing beer on a Saturday night that we piss out after we’ve numbed the pain or our failure and lack of action.

It’s time to take back our time. It’s time to take back what is rightfully ours and move forward with momentum and optimism. YOU ARE LITERALLY KILLING YOURSELF AND YOUR DREAM BY WASTING TIME! Make a stand! Wage war with time!

Your dream is won or lost in your spare time

Your goal above all as should be to do the following:

1. Get shelter
2. Find love
3. Help others
4. Achieve your dream

These four things are the basic requirements for you to truly live. You can’t avoid them and without one of them, you’ll be massively handicapped in your pursuit for meaning. The hardest part about being successful is trying to achieve your dream.

That’s because achieving your dream takes a hell of a lot of time. Your dream is not just something you can whip up in a few minutes like a packet of two-minute noodles. To achieve your life’s purpose and be successful, you have to dedicate time to it.

It annoys the crap out of me how many people I meet who want to conquer some giant feat, but then put zero time into it. We are all chasing this overnight success that doesn’t exist. Your spare time my friends is where your dreams and goals come true.

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August 3, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Do what you should. Don’t talk about what you should be doing.

Being a Doer instead of just a Thinker requires an insane amount of discipline and commitment. Doing involves risk but it’s the only way to make progress.

If you are not daring and focused enough, you can never get past the “thinking” stage of getting work done. Stop thinking you are at a disadvantage because of your weaknesses.

Thomas Jefferson once said, “Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.”

If you really need to get something done, you will find a good reason why you have to pursue it otherwise your excuses will constantly convince you why it can’t be done.

Don’t over-plan and under-act!

Inaction is expensive!

Thinking and planning in advance is important, vital in fact, to your successbut acting is even more crucial to long-term achievement.

Actions you take beat life-changing intentions. Not doing anything is the same as intending to do something but never actually doing it.

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August 1, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

A certain farmer had become old and ready to pass his farm down to one of his two sons. When he brought his sons together to speak about it, he told them: The farm will go to the younger son.

The older son was furious! “What are you talking about?!” he fumed.

The father sat patiently, thinking.

“Okay,” the father said, “I need you to do something for me. We need more stocks. Will you go to Cibi’s farm and see if he has any cows for sale?”

The older son shortly returned and reported, “Father, Cibi has 6 cows for sale.”

The father graciously thanked the older son for his work. He then turned to the younger son and said, “I need you to do something for me. We need more stocks. Will you go to Cibi’s farm and see if he has any cows for sale?”

The younger son did as he was asked. A short while later, he returned and reported, “Father, Cibi has 6 cows for sale. Each cow will cost 2,000 rupees. If we are thinking about buying more than 6 cows, Cibi said he would be willing to reduce the price 100 rupees. Cibi also said they are getting special jersey cows next week if we aren’t in a hurry, it may be good to wait. However, if we need the cows urgently, Cibi said he could deliver the cows tomorrow.”

The father graciously thanked the younger son for his work. He then turned to the older son and said, “That’s why your younger brother is getting the farm.”

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