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The Daily Man-Up: Can’t Hurt Me

December 4, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE AND WHAT YOU’RE CAPABLE OF?

I’m sure you think so, but just because you believe something doesn’t make it true. Denial is the ultimate comfort zone. Don’t worry, you aren’t alone. In every town, in every country, all over the world, millions roam the streets, dead-eyed as zombies, addicted to comfort, embracing a victim’s mentality and unaware of their true potential. I know this because I meet and hear from them all the time, and because just like you, I used to be one of them.

I had a damn good excuse too.

Life dealt me a bad hand. I was born broken, grew up with beat downs, was tormented in school, and called nigger more times than I could count. We were once poor, surviving on welfare, living in government-subsidized housing, and my depression was smothering. I lived life at the bottom of the barrel, and my future forecast was bleak as fuck.

Very few people know how the bottom feels, but I do. It’s like quick-sand. It grabs you, sucks you under, and won’t let go. When life is like that it’s easy to drift and continue to make the same comfortable choic-es that are killing you, over and over again.

But the truth is we all make habitual, self-limiting choices. It’s as nat-ural as a sunset and as fundamental as gravity. It’s how our brains are wired, which is why motivation is crap.

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The Daily Man-Up: 5 Insanely Simple Ways to Live Life to the Fullest

November 30, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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1. Create Intention in Your Life and Find a Compelling Purpose 

“It should not be enough to have lived. We should be determined to live for something.” ~Winston S. Churchill

One of the greatest regrets of the dying (as recorded in Bronnie Ware’s blog Inspiration and Chai) is that they allowed others to dictate their choices and actions instead of living the life that they wanted.

So often, I see men wandering aimlessly through life with no purpose, no intention, and no clarity about what they need to do to make this life count.

All the while, these same men forget that each second that passes brings them one second closer to their death.

It’s a morbid thought, but it’s true.

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The Daily Man-Up: Confidence Is Felt

November 28, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Confidence is felt. It’s intuited by women. It’s instinctual. Women unconsciously detect it by watching a man’s behavior carefully. It’s why women can often become turned off at the most innocuous moment or by the most unimportant statement. Consciously, the action or statement may seem harmless, but unconsciously, it conveyed everything they need to know about your status: by your lack of confidence. As you are probably aware, women can be unconfident as well. And although a lack of confidence is a turn-off for most men, it’s not as influential as it is for most women. To most women, a man with True Confidence is like a woman with perfect tits and a gorgeously sculpted ass. To a woman, a man with no confidence is like having the worst breath and missing teeth. Ideally, two emotionally healthy individuals will begin a relationship both with low investments in one another and they will steadily let the investment deepen as the relationship grows. In a healthy relationship, the gap in investment between the two parties would never grow too far apart and both man and woman should never let their investment in the other person ever surpass their investment in themselves. This should not be mistaken for NOT being invested in the other person. If a man is attracted to a woman, then he should be affected by her – that’s why he’s with her, after all – but never more than she is by him. The minute he lets her dominate him emotionally, he demonstrates a lack of True Confidence and a lack of status. He’s no longer dependable. He loses his ability to make her feel secure. And his attractiveness slowly slips out the window.

Models – Mark Manson

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The Daily Man-Up

November 27, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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If you are wondering whether you should stay in a relationship or go back to your ex, I have a mental exercise for you.

Close your eyes and imagine you are holding a puppy- any breed you like. Feel it’s warm weight against your chest, it’s soft sweet breath on your neck. Stroke the puppy’s soft fur, feel the fineness of its skin and the delicate bones beneath, touch it’s tiny paws, smooth and soft against your skin, kiss its little domed skull and look into its gentle, trusting eyes.

Are you holding your puppy? Do you feel its softness, it’s warmth, its vulnerability- that soft little mouth, peach like nose and all those fragile little bones? Do you feel its weight in your arms, snuggling up against your heart- trusting and relying on you.

OK, now give that puppy to your partner/ ex.

If the breath stills in your lungs, if your heart clenches, if you hesitate, then you need to ask yourself why.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Most Important Life-Changing Habit in Two Words: START NOW

November 26, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

procrastination

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Millions of people are convinced that something must change in their lives to be better, to live life to the fullest or pursue something meaningful.

That project, that blog, that podcast, that ebook, that art, that side project is what I’m talking about.

Many people consistently hold back, and waste precious time.

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Here’s the truth. If you lack time to do work that matters to you, you’re probably wasting a lot of your free time.

If you deeply care about your life’s work, you will make time, even if it’s just 30 minutes a day building or creating something that doesn’t feel like work.

Instead of the excitement of experimentation, many people feel self-doubt and fear. They just go through life. Just like that.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Transformative Power of the Gratitude Habit

November 21, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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There’s a small habit that I practice, that can turn difficult situations into much better ones — and it won’t surprise you. It’s the habit of gratitude.

This is such a simple habit, and it’s one that we o

ften forget to practice. But when we do, it can transform our entire perspective, and with it our whole life.

Let me give you an example. About 10 years ago, I remember being caught in a rainstorm and being soaked, and also feeling generally stressed about being broke and hating my job and unhappy with my health. I was a bit depressed about it all, actually.

Then I decided to make a mental list of everything I was grateful for, right there in the rain. It was a long list, and while I can’t remember everything on it, some of the things I remember include:

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The Daily Man-Up

November 20, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

"I have hunted our Thanksgiving turkeys for ages. I had an opportunity to harvest and take home a turkey straight from the land on which it was raised and roamed naturally @roamranch are creating opportunities to connect people to their food on deeper level. 

Your food does not come from the freezer or the store—it comes from the earth. Even if you don’t hunt/harvest your own food, consider the life and existence that preceded it being on your plate. Stop pretending that seeing words like “sustainable, renewable, organic” are anything other than marketing tools to make you buy them. Start believing in regenerative farming and that we can still save this planet. We have been jacking it up for 100 years. Be thankful for this earth and realize it’s time we start healing it."

Tim Kennedy

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The Daily Man-Up: It Would Be A Tragedy To Never Face Adversity In Life

November 19, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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No man is more unhappy than he who never faces adversity. for he is not permitted to prove himself. ~ Seneca

In our society, it’s the man who is born into wealth who is viewed as being blessed with a gift that he did not have to earn. But it is the man born into much adversity who is given the greatest gift of all: the gift to test his mettle, to prove his worth, to see what he is, indeed, made of.

It’s while this man is facing obstacle after obstacle that, if he so chooses, will acquire far more grit and toughness than his counterpart who’s faced little in the way of tribulation.

Great men aren’t always the ones we read about in history books. They’re often the men who faced life as men, who refused to refuse responsibility, who took what was coming on their feet and made the lives of those around them not only better, but possible.

Our society judges success numerically. It’s normally what a man’s done or what he’s acquired that we judge him on. The true value of a man, however, isn’t found in his bank account or on his property, but within him. It’s difficult to explain the importance of this fact because everywhere you go and everyone you talk to will likely judge you on the former rather than the latter. But it’s their judgment that you cannot fret over nor take to heart.

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The Daily Man-Up

November 16, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love. Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom. Only the person who risks is truly free.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Mindset You Need to Talk to Any Woman

November 15, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

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The fear that holds you back doesn’t have to

Most men tell me they don’t approach for three main reasons:

  1. You feel you’re doing something wrong or shameful. You don’t want to creep a girl out or make her feel like you’re hitting on her. You don’t want to bother her. You’re worried what your friends, her friends, or people nearby might think.
  2. You don’t know what to say. You can’t seem to find the right words. You feel like you don’t know how to approach without something really cool or engaging to say.
  3. You’re worried about being rejected. You don’t want to face that moment when she shows you she’s not interested. Maybe you think she might even be harsh or disgusted.

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