“How to not cringe at things you did in your early twenties”
I’m 27 now, and I keep replaying all the cringey things I did in my early twenties. I’m talking about getting too drunk, making a fool of myself, and honestly just not being the best friend or version of myself. It feels like I have to learn everything the hard way.
Sometimes I said or did embarrassing things. Sometimes I drank too much at work events. Sometimes I was just plain annoying to be around at night. Looking back, it makes me cringe.
The thing is, I’m actually proud of who I am now. All those mistakes shaped me into the person I am today. But I still have trouble forgiving my younger self. I keep wondering—how did I not know better?
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“Is becoming a stripper worth losing my relationship”
I’m 24F, and I did everything I was supposed to—went to college, got a degree, and now I’m $25k in debt I can’t pay off. Since graduating last year, I’ve applied to 200+ jobs, had only two interviews, and just one offer—for the same pay I made before college. I’m barely scraping by, just covering rent and my car note, and honestly, I feel like a failure.
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How to Raise a Child to Be Insecure
If your intention is to raise a child who second-guesses their every move, who scans the world for signs of disapproval, you don’t need dramatic gestures. All it really takes is to make love something they have to earn. Let your affection ebb and flow with their behavior—offer a smile or a kind word only when they’ve done something to make you proud, but let disappointment settle in the silence whenever they falter. In time, your child will learn to measure themselves by your moods, to wonder if today is a day they’re worthy of being hugged or a day to keep their distance.
Linkage
A.I. Researchers Are Negotiating $250 Million Pay Packages. Just Like N.B.A. Stars. – NY Times
27 Photos Every ’80s and ’90s Kid Will Recognize – Ned Hardy
One of the most underrated tools in the kitchen. You will never grate Parmesan or other hard cheeses any other way once you buy one. It literally liquifies garlic, so you don’t have to spend time chopping it for recipes – Amazon
New Study Says Kids Under 13 Shouldn’t Have Smartphones—But What If They Already Do? – Parents
What makes a meme take off? The 3 rules of virality – Big Think
How to alter the passage of time to feel fast or slow – Psyche
The 9 Best Songs By Fred Rogers On “Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood” – Fatherly
Don’t Fall for This Fake Email About Your Instagram Account – Life Hacker
21 Time-Saving, Sanity-Preserving Child Hacks for Anyone With Kids – Ned Hardy
If you cook with Tofu, this is an invaluable tool to effortlessly suck out all the moisture – Amazon
History’s Biggest Companies vs. The Magnificent Seven – Visual Capitalist
Understanding your ‘social battery’ life is a great way to know when (or when not) to go out – Upworthy
The Honda Prelude Has a Secret Design Trick to Make It Easier to Park – The Drive
9 Ways to Apply Minimalism to Your Social Media Habits (and Reclaim Your Time) – Becoming Minimalist
The Dumping Grounds
14 Linemen Reveal How Much They Make Each Year
1. In CA, it’s not that hard to make 300k.
Depending on how you manage your OT, it can be a ton of effort or minimal effort.
For me, it’s easy as pie to make 260-300k. I’m not beating my body up. I choose when I work so that helps tremendously.
If you stay on top of your OT, you can pick and choose when to work. We use an evergreen to determine who gets first dibs at overtime.
Also, all OT is double time. It just makes it that much easier.
At SCE, you will make 200k without even trying. I was hitting 250-265 and hardly worked weekends. Just picking up hours during the week here and there.
My gig is even better now that I’m transmission, 300k with minimal wear and tear.
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This Has Squatter Written All Over It!
The second someone’s “house-sitting” pitch includes their kids, their own dog, their friend’s three dogs, and a request for multiple bedrooms, you’re not hiring a sitter—you’re inviting a full-blown tenant who will absolutely never leave without a sheriff’s notice.
Why Your Relationship Needs More Clarity—and Less Guesswork
We spend a lot of time in relationships worrying about being “nice.” We avoid tough conversations, dance around uncomfortable topics, and hope that by keeping the peace, we’re doing the right thing. But the truth is, real respect in relationships doesn’t come from sugarcoating things or hiding how we feel—it comes from clarity.
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How to Be Kind to Yourself
Most of us would never talk to a friend the way we talk to ourselves. It’s bizarre, isn’t it? Somehow, being patient, forgiving, and understanding with other people comes so much easier. But here’s the thing: being kind to yourself isn’t about giving yourself endless passes or pretending you don’t make mistakes. It’s about treating yourself with the same basic respect and understanding you’d show anyone you care about.