What best describes your current relationship with porn?
“Been with my boyfriend for 11 years — he’s rich, I’m not. I’m scared of our future.”
I’m 27 and have been with my boyfriend (28) for 11 years. He comes from wealth, and I’ve always known that. Now he’s asking for a prenup, which I understand — that part doesn’t bother me. What hurts is how he talks to me.
I grew up poor, became a nurse practitioner, and now make $210K juggling two jobs. I even bought my parents a house. I’m proud of what I’ve built.
But lately, his words sting more than the money gap. When I asked if I’d have ownership in a property I helped pay for, he said, “It’s not my fault your parents didn’t give you anything. You might, depending on how I feel.” He’s called me a gold digger, a bitch, and said things like, “If you mess with me, I’ll make sure you never see a dime.”
“My brother won the lottery and I’m jealous and bitter”
Two years ago, my brother won the lottery. Like, literally won $3 million. Just a regular ticket he picked up at a gas station. I remember he called me, laughing and crying at the same time. I was happy for him. I really was. But ever since then, something in me has started to rot.
He and his wife used the money wisely. Paid off debts, bought a house outright, helped out our mom by clearing her mortgage. They put a bunch into investments, and now they’re basically done with the whole “working full-time” thing. She stays home with their kid. He works maybe a day or two a week, just to keep from getting bored.
And I’m still here. Grinding.
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What Your Life Is Actually Saying About You
We all have a story we like to tell ourselves.
That we’re hardworking. That we value family. That we care about our health. That we’re the kind of person who shows up, who leads with integrity, who loves deeply.
But stories aren’t written in words. They’re written in how you spend your time. Your energy. Your money. Your attention.
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Linkage
Can We See Our Future in China’s Cameras? – NY Times
Having a Bad Day? These 15 Folks Would Like a Word – Ned Hardy
The Retirement Scam That Cost One Man $300,000—And Why the System Keeps Failing People Like Him – Shield and Fortify
Dog Owners! You need to get one of these ball launcher—it makes playing fetch way easier and cleaner, keeps your hands off the slobbery ball, and your dog will get the best workout ever – Amazon
A Powerball winner’s 6 secrets to staying rich – Fast Co
Confessions of the Only Woman on a Rock Star Tour Bus – Narratively
Dolly Parton returns to Vegas for first run of shows in 32 years – USA Today
A Cult Fantasy Movie Redefined The Wizard Of Oz — And Nobody Noticed – Inverse
China’s Ghost Cities: The Story Behind the Country’s Many Ghost Towns of Abandoned Mansions – AD
24 Tweets That Are Funnier Than They Have Any Right to Be – Ned Hardy
You should get a neti pot—it’s a simple, natural way to clear out your sinuses and breathe so much easier, especially when allergies or colds hit – Amazon
12 Places Where Criticizing the Government Could Land You in Jail – Fodors
Zuckerberg Leads AI Recruitment Blitz Armed With $100 Million Pay Packages – WSJ
27 Celebrities Before And After Getting Cosmetic Work Done – BuzzFeed
145 People Report Being Pricked with Syringes at French Music Festival – Consequence
This Is What Happens When Hertz’s AI Scanner Finds Damage on Your Rental – The Drive
The Dumping Grounds
“I can’t stop yelling at my girlfriend”
Over the last few months my girlfriend and I have had a few fights over how I talk to her. I didn’t recognize it at first but the more I become aware the more I see it.
It seems like anytime there’s any issues or any amount of tension, no matter how little, between us I just blow up and scream at her.
I don’t mean to do it that’s just how I always talked to my parents growing up as they would constantly scream at me.
The Weight of Love: My Life With a 500lb Girlfriend
We met in college—back when late-night pizza runs and procrastinated deadlines were the center of gravity. She was funny. Not in a performative, class-clown way. Her humor had this dry, left-field quality to it. We’d sit next to each other in the computer lab, whispering sarcastic commentary about the professor’s PowerPoint slides. Friendship came easily. Love snuck in quietly, like fog.
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Why Being Curious About Others Is More Powerful Than Being Impressive
There’s a strange and exhausting kind of loneliness that comes from constantly trying to impress people.
You know the feeling: You’re telling a story at a dinner party, carefully choosing words that make you sound interesting, accomplished, likable. Or you’re on a Zoom call, subtly nodding just a little too much, laughing just a little too loudly—hoping to prove your competence, your relevance, your value.
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We’re All Just Walking Each Other Home
It’s easy to think we’re alone out here.
That we’re all just wandering through the dark, clutching at meaning, dodging pain, trying not to fall apart in public. Life can feel so staggeringly individual—your thoughts, your wounds, your fears—like you’re the only one who wakes up with the weight of it all pressing down on your chest before your feet even hit the floor.