Advice Column

I’ve been dating a 34-year-old man for six months. One-on-one, we really click — we share similar values, traditions, and long-term goals. But I’m hesitant to introduce him to my family and friends because, in group settings, his behavior often comes off as cringey and immature.

He constantly brags about money, especially when comparing himself to people who went to university — I have a master’s degree, and he didn’t attend college. He’ll go on about how much wealthier he is than his family and how jealous they supposedly are, even though they seem like kind, normal people. I’ve gently tried encouraging more humility, but it hasn’t landed.

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My wife’s been distant lately. We’ve had problems before, but this feels different. I tried to connect with her recently—nothing. I suggested we spend the day together, but she said she wanted to go to the library and work on her book.

Then she got dressed up—full makeup, perfume—and her phone lit up with a message from a guy I didn’t recognize:
“I’ll be waiting for you in bed. Bring me a coffee, please.”

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Sometimes, out of nowhere, I’ll remember something awful I did years ago. It hits me like a punch in the chest. No matter how much time has passed, the guilt feels fresh. It’s not every day, but when it happens, it’s hard to breathe. Sometimes it even keeps me up at night.

I’ve tried forgiving myself. I’ve tried distraction. I’ve tried reminding myself that I’ve changed. But the memories still come back, and when they do, I feel like the worst version of myself.

How do you move on when your own mind won’t let you forget?

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I’m 20M and I was raised to treat women properly — respect, honesty, not like objects. That’s just how I roll.

But now, it feels like everyone online calls that “simping.” Like… what? Being a decent human is weak now?

Meanwhile, so many people my age think hooking up or sliding into random DMs will fix their insecurities or make them feel validated. I just don’t get it — it seems like a short-term band-aid that messes with your head long-term.

I wanna understand: why is being genuine, respectful, and secure suddenly seen as uncool? And how do you even navigate dating today without turning into someone you’re not?

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I’m a woman in my 30s and I’m struggling with a deep sense of shame that I can’t seem to shake. I have two children, both from different fathers. I love my kids more than anything, but whenever I introduce myself or have to explain my family situation, I feel this wave of embarrassment rise up in me. It’s like people are silently judging me, even when they don’t say anything.

The truth is, I never planned for life to look this way. Both relationships ended badly, and I often feel like those failed choices are written on my body in the form of my kids. I adore them, but I worry about how others will perceive them, and me. I hate feeling like my family is something to apologize for.

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My younger brother (22) and his wife bought a house a few years ago for way too much money—at least according to me and my parents. They never even calculated their bills before locking themselves into a $2,000 mortgage. His attitude was always, “It’ll be fine.”

Right after that, they financed two $20k trucks, plus full coverage insurance. The problem? His job is seasonal, and he doesn’t pick up work in the winter. Eventually, they were about to lose the house and ended up begging our grandparents for $7,000. The deal was weekly repayments, but in six months they’ve only made one payment of $200.

Now he just told me he bought a camper—for $2,000—at the end of summer, while still owing my grandparents and facing another winter without steady work. On top of that, they’re trying to have a baby with fertility treatments.

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My son (19m) bragged to another family member about stealing a pair of expensive boots. He said he took of his old ones, put them on the shelf and walked out with the new ones on his feet.

Worst part is my son called to tell me how exited he was that someone “gave him” a nice pair of boots, and told me a whole story about it. I was asked not to say I was told by the family member who told me. I know I cant do much, but am just looking for some advice or even just your thoughts. I feel so disappointed.

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I have a friend and thus far in my entire life she’s always been good to me. Whenever we catch up, they just always seem to have something bad happening to her. from my perspective, it really is just shitty people doing shitty things because they can see that she’s kind and theytake advantage of it.

She confided in me the other day that she feels cursed and we’re Christian so I just prayed for her, But lately I can’t help but start to wonder the same thing. And I don’t wonder because I wish that for her, but to ultimately help her because it’s just so sad to watch and I don’t know how to help. So, why do bad things happen to good people? And if you were in my shoes, how would you handle these feelings?

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My husband (39M) and I (37F) have been married for five years, and we have a one-year-old together. I love him, but I feel like something is really wrong, and I don’t know how much more I can accept. He’s a sweet man at heart, but he needs help. Looking back, I think I missed a lot of red flags while we were dating.

When we first met, he was the best man I’d ever been with. He didn’t have much experience with intimacy, but he still made me orgasm more than anyone else before him, and I got swept up in that. Fast forward to today, and he’s extremely lazy. I constantly have to tell him what to do, like I’m his mom. Even basic things like showering or brushing his teeth only happen because I tell him it turns me off.

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