Category: Advice Column

How do I cope with being single and lonely for the rest of my life? I’ve learned to accept that I’m an unattractive woman. How do I accept the fact that I will be single for the rest of my life? Are there any tips to permanently get rid of attraction and the urge to be with someone?

Do not say things like: “Oh, you’re not unattractive or you haven’t found the right person yet.” I don’t need false positivity or encouragement. Do not talk about how you were alone for years and then found your partner. I’m not interested. Let’s be realistic, not everyone gets married or finds the right person. A lot of people die alone, and I strongly feel like I’m one of those people.

I (32M) thought I was getting ready to marry the love of my life (28F) after we spent 6 years together and I proposed to her last year. We had so many good life experiences together and I thought she was going to be my soulmate, but now I regret ever thinking that.

I got sick recently during New Year’s and had a high fever, but we were both invited to a party by my friend. I told her to go because I sincerely trusted her. He texted me a video during the night showing my ex-fiancée make out with another guy, and that destroyed me. I was so angry.

Last year I used my credit score and my name to purchase a car ($34,000) for my ex-girlfriend. She used her cash for the down payment, but the car is entirely in my name and my name is on the loan by itself.

Every month she has been consistently sending me payments through Zelle to pay for the car every time I sent her a screenshot of the payment that I made to the loan, and it has been going on for almost a year.

She currently lives in Mississippi and I live in Houston. Recently, we argued and she stopped sending me payment while still driving the car, but she is demanding me to send back all the monthly payments (through Zelle) that she sent me in order for me to get the car back. What should I do?

We have been together five years, have a 9 month old, and there is a significant age gap between us. When we first met, we bonded over being loving, open minded “hippie” types with similar music tastes and curiosity about the world. I was younger and more naive then, and our connection felt deeply enriching. I also briefly studied archaeology before dropping out of school.

Things started to shift right before I got pregnant. What began as a shared interest in aliens slowly turned into much more extreme conspiracy beliefs about satanic cults, lizard people, and ancient civilizations that likely never existed. I do not mind questioning mainstream ideas, but he now treats nearly all scientists as corrupt or part of some hidden agenda and gets upset whenever I disagree. If I bring up the history of racism in conspiracy movements, he tells me I am brainwashed.

A little background – me and my now husband started dating in college, so I know most of his friends and we all hang out together often, they have been at our place for house parties and we have gone clubbing together. But I don’t really talk or meet his friends without him. Most of them are married and some of his friends send me memes on instagram and I send some back, nothing too cheeky though.

Now this one friend (also recently married to his long time gf), always reacts to my posts and stories like others, but few days ago I got a notification that he has DM’d me this – “you have the most perfect tits”. I was shocked and couldn’t believe what I was reading but took a screenshot out of instinct. Then when I went to my DMs there was no msg from him like that. I am confused– did he send it to me and got scared and deleted it, or was he sending it to someone else and sent it to me by mistake. Either ways its weird and I am a bit disgusted.

I’m 29M, I’ve had a couple of girls tell me because I live with my parents that they wouldn’t date me. Am I gonna be single until I move out?

Thing is, I don’t want to. My parents like having me around because we all help out around the house & I pay my equal share. It’s a hell of a lot cheaper obviously & I’m only just about to qualify as an electrician soon & currently on minimum wage. I know it’s custom to move out now but it’s so expensive & I live in a real nice house that my standard of living & having money to do stuff would basically be non-existent if I do move as a single person. Is that just life & you gotta live alone to meet someone?